Chaffin v. Ellis

211 S.W.3d 264, 2006 Tenn. App. LEXIS 200, 2006 WL 770453
CourtCourt of Appeals of Tennessee
DecidedMarch 24, 2006
DocketM2003-01620-COA-R3-CV
StatusPublished
Cited by95 cases

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Chaffin v. Ellis, 211 S.W.3d 264, 2006 Tenn. App. LEXIS 200, 2006 WL 770453 (Tenn. Ct. App. 2006).

Opinion

OPINION

HOLLY M. KIRBY, J.,

delivered the opinion of the Court,

in which and ALAN E. HIGHERS, J., and DAVID R. PARMER, J., joined.

This is a divorce and child custody case. The husband and the wife were married in February 1998. Throughout the marriage, they lived together with the husband’s mother. The parties’ relationship began to deteriorate soon after the wedding. The wife felt that the husband and his mother were controlling and oppressive, while the husband felt that the wife was unfit. One child was born of the marriage. In October 2000, the wife filed the instant petition for divorce. After a nine-day trial, the trial court granted a divorce to the wife on the ground of inappropriate marital conduct, and designated the wife as the primary residential parent of the parties’ child. The trial court also awarded the wife a portion of her attorney’s fees and discretionary costs. From that decision, the husband now appeals. We vacate a portion of the award of costs, and affirm as to the remaining issues, finding that the evidence preponderates in favor of the trial court's opinion in all other respects. The cause is remanded for reconsideration of a portion of the award of costs for expert fees.

I. FACTS

This is a tortuous saga of an ill-fated marriage. Defendant/Appellant Marcus Ellis (“Father”) lived in Dallas, Texas. Father had a varied background, including a stint as music minister of a large church. He lived with his mother, Eva Jane Ellis (“Grandmother”), and together they ran a successful catering-and-event business in Dallas in a refurbished shopping center furnished with antiques and made into an event facility called Ellis Castle. At church in the spring of 1998, Father met Plaintiff/Appellee Noelle Chaffin (“Mother”). At the time, Mother was working several jobs, including one in insurance and one as a nanny caring for two young children. When they met, Father was forty-one years old and Mother was twenty-four years old. Neither had ever been married.

While they were dating, Mother and Father studied the Bible together and discussed religious beliefs at length, and Mother had many discussions on this and other topics with Grandmother as well. Mother left her other employment and began working for Grandmother at Ellis Castle. After a few months, Father and Mother decided to marry. They agreed that Mother would become a full-time homemaker and prepare to raise the children they hoped to have.

Mother had a strained relationship -with her family, and Mother’s parents objected to her relationship with Father, saying that Father and Grandmother were involved with a cult. Father encouraged Mother to move from her parents’ home, insisting that Mother’s parents should admit that they lied about him and repent their comments about Father or she should have nothing further to do with them. Mother moved to accommodations furnished by Father without telling her parents. Mother had no further contact with her family, and Grandmother assumed the role of Mother’s “mother,” assuring Mother that she was “leaving the cursed and entering the land of blessing.” A large, elaborate wedding at Ellis Castle was planned, primarily by Grandmother. Mother’s family was not invited to the wedding. Two or three of Mother’s *268 Mends were invited, while Father and Grandmother invited hundreds of guests.

In April 1998, Mother and Father were married in a lavish ceremony performed by an ordained minister. However, the couple did not obtain a marriage license from the State of Texas because Father believed that a license was unnecessary and would result in unwanted State interference. Therefore, theirs was a common-law marriage, recognized in the State of Texas. 1

After the wedding and honeymoon, Father did not move from Grandmother’s house in Texas; the couple lived in the house in Texas with Grandmother. Mother was to undertake learning how to perform her duties in the home. Father asked Grandmother to “mentor” Mother in performing domestic tasks such as housecleaning, cooking, laundry, ironing Father’s shirts, and polishing; in “womanly art subjects” such as embroidery, pretty handwriting and calligraphy; and in “principles of Christian thought and behavior.”

Soon thereafter, the relationship between Father and Mother became strained. Father became dissatisfied with Mother’s behavior and with her performance of her household duties. On April 19, 1998, Father began keeping a journal in which he recorded his observations regarding Mother’s behavior, focusing on that which he deemed to be unsatisfactory. Among other criticisms, he wrote that Mother became increasingly angry, ungodly, untruthful, and was emotionally unstable and prone to what he termed “tantrums.”

In June 1998, Mother became pregnant. She received no medical attention from a trained medical professional until late September or early October 1998. At that time, Grandmother arranged for a midwife, Vickie Hall (“Hall”), to examine Mother. Despite Hall’s requests to meet privately with Mother, Father and Grandmother were present during all of Hall’s sessions with Mother, including physical examinations. Mother’s manner was meek and quiet during the visits, and virtually all questions were asked by Grandmother and Father.

The problems between Mother and Father deepened. In the face of hours of direction and “instruction,” and increasing disapproval from both Father and Grandmother, Mother’s behavior spiraled downward. Mother’s attempts to perform in accordance with expectations and win approval from Grandmother and Father invariably failed; this led to episodes of despair, self-loathing and self-mutilation, as well as anger and chafing at the constraints. This behavior resulted in further disapproval from Grandmother and Father, to which Mother responded with remorse, supplication and pleas for forgiveness of transgressions and for help in attaining the expected standards. 2 As part of this cycle, in the fall of 1998, with Father’s approval, Mother and Grandmother spent a month crafting a code of conduct, termed “Sixteen Promises,” by which Mother agreed to live. The Sixteen Promises included the following:

—I will stand tall to my calling to be Marcus’ godly helpmeet and keeper of the home.
—I will be in right relationship with family members showing proper respect and honor.
—I will maintain a selflessly submissive attitude in all family relationships.
*269 —I will receive correction gladly and when corrected at a task, I will not exaggerate the mistake by adding unrelated subjects.
—I will be obedient.
—I will not be an emotional woman, led away by a deceived heart.

Each of the promises was followed by numerous scripture quotations. Mother was to memorize and recite the Sixteen Promises, as well as Biblical passages on the behavior standards she was to meet.

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