Gregory Rietdorf and Brenda Rietdorf v. Michelle Rietdorf (mem. dec.)

Indiana Court of Appeals·Decided September 25, 2019·No. 19A-MI-695·Published

Opinion

MEMORANDUM DECISION Pursuant to Ind. Appellate Rule 65(D), this Memorandum Decision shall not be FILED regarded as precedent or cited before any Sep 25 2019, 6:10 am court except for the purpose of establishing CLERK the defense of res judicata, collateral Indiana Supreme Court Court of Appeals

estoppel, or the law of the case. and Tax Court

ATTORNEY FOR APPELLANTS ATTORNEYS FOR APPELLEE Nicholas J. Hursh Michael A. Setlak Shambaugh, Kast, Beck & Williams, Perry D. Shilts LLP Shilts & Setlak, LLC Fort Wayne, Indiana Fort Wayne, Indiana

IN THE

COURT OF APPEALS OF INDIANA

Gregory Rietdorf and September 25, 2019 Brenda Rietdorf, Court of Appeals Case No. Appellants/Cross-Appellees - Petitioners, 19A-MI-695 Appeal from the Allen Superior v. Court The Honorable Charles F. Pratt, Michelle Rietdorf, Judge Appellee/Cross Appellant - Respondent. The Honorable Sherry A. Hartzler, Magistrate

Trial Court Cause No.

02D08-1801-MI-26

Robb, Judge.

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Case Summary and Issues

[1] Gregory and Brenda Rietdorf (collectively, “Grandparents”) filed a petition

seeking grandparent visitation with their grandson, T.R. The trial court granted the petition but imposed certain conditions and restrictions on Grandparents’ visitation. The trial court also ordered Grandparents to pay $10,000 of Mother’s attorney fees. Grandparents appeal the trial court’s order, raising the following consolidated issues for our review: 1) whether the trial court erred in placing conditions on Grandparents’ visitation with T.R., and 2) whether the trial court erred in awarding attorney fees to Mother. Mother cross-appeals, requesting attorney fees under Indiana Appellate Rule 66(E) for defending this appeal. With respect to Grandparents’ appeal, we conclude the trial court’s order granting Grandparents visitation with T.R. under certain conditions was not clearly erroneous, but there is no statutory authority for the trial court’s award of attorney fees to Mother. Therefore, the trial court’s order is affirmed with respect to visitation and reversed as to attorney fees. On Mother’s cross- appeal, we conclude appellate damages are appropriate in this case and remand to the trial court for a determination of the amount of appellate damages to which Mother is entitled.

Facts and Procedural History 1

1 Grandparents have not stated their facts in accordance with the standard of review, instead stating the facts so as to portray themselves in the best possible light. However, Mother has gone overboard in criticizing

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[2] T.R. was born on January 23, 2016, during Mother’s marriage to Anthony Rietdorf (“Father”). Father is the son of Grandparents. During Mother and Father’s marriage, the parties enjoyed a close relationship that included frequent family dinners with Grandparents and extended Rietdorf family gatherings. After T.R.’s birth, this close relationship continued, and the parties would see each other two to three times per month. Sometimes, Mother and Father were present while Grandparents visited with T.R. and sometimes, Grandparents visited with T.R. alone. Mother knew Grandparents to be good caretakers at that time and thought the relationship “felt healthy.” Transcript, Volume 2 at 27.

[3] On September 11, 2016, Father passed away from injuries sustained in an off- road utility vehicle accident. Mother was driving the vehicle at the time of the accident. After Father’s death, the relationship between Mother and Grandparents deteriorated rapidly, in part because Grandparents blamed Mother for Father’s death. When Father was alive, Grandmother regularly took T.R. from swim school to his babysitter because Mother had to work but after Father’s funeral, she told Mother she would no longer be able to do that. In October, Mother and Grandparents had a face-to-face meeting that lasted approximately three hours. Following the meeting, Mother sent Grandparents a letter because she was “very hurt by [the] 3 hour interrogation last week and

Grandparents’ statement of facts when simply stating the facts appropriately in her own brief would have been sufficient.

Court of Appeals of Indiana | Memorandum Decision 19A-MI-695 | September 25, 2019 Page 3 of 20 must protect myself and [T.R.] from any toxic relationship[,]” Exhibits, Volume 1 at 47, and felt that “we all needed to have a third-party interaction and counseling to come together to have a healthy relationship for the best interest of [T.R.].” Tr., Vol. 2 at 47. Mother’s letter stated that she would be unable “to continue further conversations . . . until [Grandparents] are ready to move forward to a healthy relationship with me.” Exhibits, Vol. 1 at 47. Mother asked Grandparents to “[p]lease contact me when you are ready to move forward” and suggested mediation or counseling in a neutral location. Id. Mother’s intention was not to quash the relationship between Grandparents and T.R. See Tr., Vol. 2 at 18-19.

[4] Grandparents did not reach out to Mother after receiving her letter and by their own decision, have not seen T.R. since receiving Mother’s letter. After receiving the letter, Grandfather felt “it was very clear . . . that [Mother] cut off the relationship . . . with [T.R.] and any hope of meeting again to work out our differences.” Id. at 207. Grandmother indicated that at the time they received the letter, she did not want to work on having a healthy relationship with Mother. See id. at 136-37. In fact, she did not want any further relationship with Mother. See id. at 168-69. Instead, Grandparents called a family meeting and told Grandfather’s siblings that “either you’re on [our] side or you’re on [Mother’s] side[,]” id. at 103; passed out a “poison file” of information about Mother to the Rietdorf siblings at that meeting, id. at 198; refused to attend extended family gatherings because Mother was still invited to attend even after the family meeting; specifically declined to attend a gathering at which a group

Court of Appeals of Indiana | Memorandum Decision 19A-MI-695 | September 25, 2019 Page 4 of 20 family photo was to be taken to celebrate the Rietdorf patriacrch’s ninetieth birthday but said “they were sure that [Mother] would immensely enjoy it and that [the family] would be honored by her presence[,]” id. at 195; and chided their daughter, Amber, for choosing to remain friends with Mother, began arranging to see Amber’s children during her ex-husband’s parenting time so they did not have to see Amber, and believe Amber has been “working against [them] in this grandparents[’] procedure[,]” id. at 160. Mother took T.R. to “every family gathering hoping that [Grandparents] would come[.]” Tr., Vol. 3 at 51.

[5] In January 2018, Grandparents filed a petition for grandparent visitation. Receiving this petition was the first time Mother had heard from Grandparents since October 2016. Mother acknowledges that she and Grandparents may never see eye to eye, but she is willing for them to see T.R. “[w]hen they are in a mentally healthy place[.]” Tr., Vol. 2 at 25. Currently, she does not believe they are in that place, because of “things that they have said directly to me and to family members and written that have tried to tarnish my reputation and they think I killed my husband [and] I do not want my child around that.” Id. at 31. Mother has “serious concerns that they will say something to [T.R.] and once something is said to him” it cannot be unsaid or unheard and “he could be damaged at any age from this.” Id. at 54. Mother is “not trying to withhold [T.R.] from them[,]” id. at 23, but she does not want Grandparents to have immediate unsupervised time with him. Instead, she would “like to see [Grandparents] have therapy grief counseling[;] let go of their accusations and

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