Conkling v. Conkling

185 N.W.2d 777, 1971 Iowa Sup. LEXIS 754
CourtSupreme Court of Iowa
DecidedApril 9, 1971
Docket54380
StatusPublished
Cited by26 cases

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Conkling v. Conkling, 185 N.W.2d 777, 1971 Iowa Sup. LEXIS 754 (iowa 1971).

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UHLENHOPP, Justice.

In this appeal we pass upon the provisions of a decree relating to divorce, custody, and support in a contested divorce suit.

Plaintiff Russell W. Conkling, age 49, grew up in Des Moines, received degrees from The University of Iowa in liberal arts and medicine, served a residency in general surgery, earned a certificate as a Diplómate of the American Board of Surgery, and practiced surgery in. Newton and Cedar Rapids, Iowa.

Defendant Martha Lou Conkling, 45, spent her childhood in Cedar Rapids, took part in social affairs there, attended The University of Iowa where she met plaintiff, and married plaintiff on March 23, 1946.

Three sons were born to the parties, William in 1947, James in 1954, and Jeffrey in 1958.

The marriage was beset with problems from the start. Plaintiff is a dedicated and well-qualified surgeon. At the time the parties married, plaintiff was serving his internship, and they lived in an apartment in Detroit, Michigan. Plaintiff was thereafter in the United States Army for two years, working in the orthopedic surgical service at various army hospitals.

Plaintiff was required to spend nearly all of his waking hours at work. He had little time and energy available for defendant.

About Christmas time in 1948, defendant told plaintiff she did not want to live that way and desired a divorce. She took their son, William, and returned to her parents in Cedar Rapids. . Plaintiff was upset, returned to Iowa, and unsuccessfully attempted reconciliation. Defendant’s father firmly but kindly told plaintiff that defendant wanted a divorce. Eventually plaintiff commenced a divorce suit, defendant counterclaimed for divorce, plaintiff did not contest, and defendant was awarded a divorce in June of 1949.

Following the divorce, plaintiff lived in Des Moines with his parents. He obtained a surgical residency in Des Moines, which he completed in three years. During that period he visited his son William in Cedar Rapids as he could, and saw defendant.

Then plaintiff worked as a surgeon for a year and a half in Iowa City and completed the requirements to be certified by the American Board of Surgery. While in Iowa City he saw defendant more frequently, and this led to their remarriage on May 29, 1953.

They next moved to Newton, Iowa, where James was born in 1954. Plaintiff worked hard to establish a practice there. He spent long hours and most of his energy toward that end, and the old problems between him and defendant returned — insufficient time together and attention to her.

In 1958 the third son, Jeffrey, was born. That year the parties built a nice home. Although plaintiff’s work consumed most of his time, he did take the family on vacations occasionally. Nonetheless, the marriage was deteriorating, but plaintiff appears to have been so engrossed in his practice as not to appreciate what was happening.

The deeper trouble started becoming manifest about 1960. Defendant became [780]*780more and more unhappy with plaintiff. She would leave social functions or refuse to attend in the first place. She frequently refused to take meals with the family and went to her room by herself. She became embittered.

During the next several years, defendant’s conduct with respect to her spouse was of a nature we strongly disapprove. We have carefully examined the evidence and have concluded not to set forth the details. The facts would be of enlightenment to no one. We will therefore merely say that the evidence clearly shows defen-ant was guilty of cruel and inhuman treatment endangering plaintiff’s health and life, and that plaintiff has established the allegations of his petition in that respect.

In the early 1960’s, defendant developed a lump over one eye, which turned out to be low-grade cancer. In 1963 and 1964, she underwent surgery and plastic surgery. A good result was achieved. The entire experience was hard on defendant emotionally, however, and this did not help the marriage.

In June of 1964, plaintiff joined a surgical partnership in Cedar Rapids, and left the family temporarily in Newton so that William could complete high school there and the home could be sold. Plaintiff commuted home weekends when not on call.

On February 18, 1965, at Newton, defendant filed a divorce suit against plaintiff. Plaintiff still felt every effort should be made to hold the family together, and in May of that year the parties reconciled. In September of 1965, defendant and the boys moved to Cedar Rapids where the family lived in a rented home. On July 9, 1966, defendant dismissed the Newton divorce suit.

On October 25, 1966, defendant filed another divorce suit against plaintiff, this time in Linn County, and had plaintiff enjoined during the pendency of the suit from entering the home. Taking the boys, defendant moved to a Cedar Rapids house which was being purchased by her mother. The lease expired on the house the parties had been renting, and plaintiff took an apartment. He visited the boys and had them with him as his time permitted. The family situation remained in this posture for about a year.

By agreement, the pending divorce suit in Linn County was set for trial for November 6, 1967. On November 2, 1967, Mrs. Conkling’s counsel in that suit learned of pressing matters elsewhere preventing his preparation for the divorce trial and sought a continuance. Opposing counsel would not consent, and the court refused to grant delay. Thereupon Mrs. Conkling’s counsel dismissed the suit under protest.

Dr. Conkling thought another reconciliation might be effected, but his hope was short-lived for Mrs. Conkling soon told him she would commence another suit.

On Sunday, November 19, 1967, plaintiff and the boys were together at plaintiff’s apartment. About 8:00 p. m. plaintiff was preparing to return the boys to defendant’s home when a message was received that defendant was in the emergency ward of a local hospital. Plaintiff immediately went there. Defendant had been in a serious automobile accident. She had sustained very severe facial lacerations, a broken jaw, and injured teeth. She had been taken to the Cedar Rapids hospital.

From that hospital defendant was taken to Iowa City by ambulance, with plaintiff following in his car. In Iowa City she underwent lengthy surgery. Recovering, she left the hospital December 9th. Following that she had substantial dental work done, costing $1,359. While defendant was in the hospital, plaintiff lived in defendant’s home and took care of the boys. Without defendant’s permission, plaintiff had his apartment telephone line bridged with the line to defendant’s home so that he could receive his calls. However, after defendant left the hospital and plaintiff returned to his apartment, plaintiff did not have the bridge removed. He could thus overhear [781]*781and record her messages, and did so on occasion. These messages and recordings were not introduced on trial, perhaps because the bridge was effected without defendant’s consent and no audible tone was employed to indicate recording.

The accident did not change matters as far as the possibility of reconciliation was concerned. Plaintiff concluded that the marriage was in fact at an end, and on April 29, 1968, after defendant was up and around, he filed the instant divorce suit against defendant. Defendant counterclaimed for a divorce.

Trial of the present action commenced April 1, 1969.

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