LISA WHITE HARDWICK, Judge.
Benson Wagoner (Husband) appeals the judgment dissolving his marriage to Patricia Wagoner (Wife). He claims there was insufficient evidence to support the finding that the marriage was irretrievably broken, and that the trial court erred in precluding cross-examination of wife regarding her valuation of certain marital assets. We affirm in part and reverse in part.
Factual and Procedural History
Husband and Wife were married on March 7, 1964. For most of the marriage, Husband worked for the Kansas City Police Department. After retiring in 1994, Husband’s income derived almost exclusively from retirement funds and from his operation of a “mobile disco” at wedding receptions and similar social gatherings.
Wife worked during the marriage as a dental assistant for twenty-eight years. The dental office had a small staff and required her to work an average of fifty to fifty-five hours per week. She was still employed as a dental assistant at the time of the dissolution.
On August 24, 2000, Wife filed a dissolution petition alleging the marriage was irretrievably broken. She sought a division of the marital property and restoration of her maiden name. The parties’ only child was emancipated at the time the dissolution was filed.
Husband filed an answer denying the marriage was irretrievably broken. He sought dismissal of the dissolution petition and a court order for marital counseling. Wife filed a reply, alleging Husband had behaved in such a way that she could no longer be expected to live with him.
After an evidentiary hearing, the trial court declared the marriage irretrievably broken and entered a judgment of dissolution. The court divided the marital estate [290]*290by awarding approximately 53.5% to Wife and 46.5% to Husband. Husband appeals.
Standard of Review
This court must affirm a dissolution judgment unless there is no substantial evidence to support it, it is against the weight of the evidence, or it erroneously declares or applies the law. Crews v. Crews, 949 S.W.2d 659, 663 (Mo.App. W.D.1997). The burden of demonstrating error is on the party challenging the divorce decree. Lewis v. Lewis, 978 S.W.2d 64, 66 (Mo.App. W.D.1998). We will review the evidence and any reasonable inferences therefrom in the light most favorable to the trial court’s judgment. Thomas v. Thomas, 989 S.W.2d 629, 633 (Mo.App. W.D.1999).
Sufficiency of Evidence to Support the Dissolution
A trial court is authorized to dissolve a marriage upon a finding that it is irretrievably broken. § 452.3201. If the respondent in a dissolution action denies the marriage is irretrievably broken, the court must hear evidence and determine whether the petitioner can satisfy one or more of the following facts to warrant dissolution of the marriage:
(a) That the respondent has committed adultery and the petitioner finds it intolerable to live with the respondent;
(b) That the respondent has behaved in such a way that the petitioner cannot reasonably be expected to live with the respondent;
(c) That the respondent has abandoned the petitioner for a continuous period of at least six months preceding the presentation of the petition;
(d) That the parties to the marriage have lived separate and apart by mutual consent for a continuous period of twelve months immediately preceding the filing of the petition;
(e) That the parties to the marriage have lived separate and apart for a continuous period of at least twenty-four months preceding the filing of the petition ....
Section 452.320.2(1)
In the instant case, the trial court heard evidence on Wife’s allegation, pursuant to § 452.320.2(l)(b), that Husband behaved in such a way that she could not reasonably be expected to live with him. Wife testified that she had a good relationship with Husband in the early years, but it deteriorated over thirty-seven years of marriage. Husband eventually chose not to participate in couples’ retreats and activities when asked, stopped attending church with Wife, and refused to attend marriage counseling with her because he didn’t feel it was necessary. The parties maintained separate finances, and Wife did most of the household chores and repairs.
Wife’s mother had been in bad health since the early 1990’s. Starting in October 1999, Wife and her sister would alternate evenings at their mother’s home to care for her. This required Wife to leave her job at the end of the business day and go directly to her mother’s home. Husband seldom accompanied Wife on these evenings.
Finally, on Thanksgiving Day 1999, Husband sent Wife an e-mail “ultimatum” stating, “I want a woman home 24 hours a day to love, not one that comes home every other day. Find another way or else.” When Wife told Husband she needed his [291]*291support because working and caring for her mother was difficult, he suggested she sell her North Carolina property and use the proceeds to hire someone to care for her mother.
Wife testified that even when she was home, Husband normally stayed downstairs in the family room watching television or playing records. During the whole month of July 2000, when she was home during vacation from work, Husband spoke to her only once. On cross-examination, Wife said the amount of time she spent caring for her mother brought an already bad relationship “to a head,” but it was not the reason she and Husband did not do things together. She said they were sexually active prior to Thanksgiving 1999, but Husband had not attempted intimacy with her since then.
Husband testified that he had a good relationship with Wife prior to 1999. He showed an active interest in her activities by arranging for the purchase of a recreation club membership and numerous yearly vacations to North Carolina. He set up an account at the police credit union to benefit Wife in case of emergency; and he had made several efforts to involve Wife in marriage counseling since the filing of the dissolution petition. Husband blamed Wife’s work schedule and her time away caring for her mother as the reason for their lack of intimacy, lack of communication, and diminished relationship.
When questioned about his response to Wife’s request for more support and additional help in November 1999, Husband acknowledged his suggestion that Wife sell her North Carolina property (gifted to Wife by her grandmother) and use the money to get professional help for her mother. He acknowledged communicating with Wife primarily by e-mail. He admitted he probably had not spoken to Wife for the whole month of July 2000, despite the fact she was working full time, caring for her mother, and had health problems of her own.
Based on this evidence, the trial court concluded the marriage was irretrievably broken and made the following factual findings:
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LISA WHITE HARDWICK, Judge.
Benson Wagoner (Husband) appeals the judgment dissolving his marriage to Patricia Wagoner (Wife). He claims there was insufficient evidence to support the finding that the marriage was irretrievably broken, and that the trial court erred in precluding cross-examination of wife regarding her valuation of certain marital assets. We affirm in part and reverse in part.
Factual and Procedural History
Husband and Wife were married on March 7, 1964. For most of the marriage, Husband worked for the Kansas City Police Department. After retiring in 1994, Husband’s income derived almost exclusively from retirement funds and from his operation of a “mobile disco” at wedding receptions and similar social gatherings.
Wife worked during the marriage as a dental assistant for twenty-eight years. The dental office had a small staff and required her to work an average of fifty to fifty-five hours per week. She was still employed as a dental assistant at the time of the dissolution.
On August 24, 2000, Wife filed a dissolution petition alleging the marriage was irretrievably broken. She sought a division of the marital property and restoration of her maiden name. The parties’ only child was emancipated at the time the dissolution was filed.
Husband filed an answer denying the marriage was irretrievably broken. He sought dismissal of the dissolution petition and a court order for marital counseling. Wife filed a reply, alleging Husband had behaved in such a way that she could no longer be expected to live with him.
After an evidentiary hearing, the trial court declared the marriage irretrievably broken and entered a judgment of dissolution. The court divided the marital estate [290]*290by awarding approximately 53.5% to Wife and 46.5% to Husband. Husband appeals.
Standard of Review
This court must affirm a dissolution judgment unless there is no substantial evidence to support it, it is against the weight of the evidence, or it erroneously declares or applies the law. Crews v. Crews, 949 S.W.2d 659, 663 (Mo.App. W.D.1997). The burden of demonstrating error is on the party challenging the divorce decree. Lewis v. Lewis, 978 S.W.2d 64, 66 (Mo.App. W.D.1998). We will review the evidence and any reasonable inferences therefrom in the light most favorable to the trial court’s judgment. Thomas v. Thomas, 989 S.W.2d 629, 633 (Mo.App. W.D.1999).
Sufficiency of Evidence to Support the Dissolution
A trial court is authorized to dissolve a marriage upon a finding that it is irretrievably broken. § 452.3201. If the respondent in a dissolution action denies the marriage is irretrievably broken, the court must hear evidence and determine whether the petitioner can satisfy one or more of the following facts to warrant dissolution of the marriage:
(a) That the respondent has committed adultery and the petitioner finds it intolerable to live with the respondent;
(b) That the respondent has behaved in such a way that the petitioner cannot reasonably be expected to live with the respondent;
(c) That the respondent has abandoned the petitioner for a continuous period of at least six months preceding the presentation of the petition;
(d) That the parties to the marriage have lived separate and apart by mutual consent for a continuous period of twelve months immediately preceding the filing of the petition;
(e) That the parties to the marriage have lived separate and apart for a continuous period of at least twenty-four months preceding the filing of the petition ....
Section 452.320.2(1)
In the instant case, the trial court heard evidence on Wife’s allegation, pursuant to § 452.320.2(l)(b), that Husband behaved in such a way that she could not reasonably be expected to live with him. Wife testified that she had a good relationship with Husband in the early years, but it deteriorated over thirty-seven years of marriage. Husband eventually chose not to participate in couples’ retreats and activities when asked, stopped attending church with Wife, and refused to attend marriage counseling with her because he didn’t feel it was necessary. The parties maintained separate finances, and Wife did most of the household chores and repairs.
Wife’s mother had been in bad health since the early 1990’s. Starting in October 1999, Wife and her sister would alternate evenings at their mother’s home to care for her. This required Wife to leave her job at the end of the business day and go directly to her mother’s home. Husband seldom accompanied Wife on these evenings.
Finally, on Thanksgiving Day 1999, Husband sent Wife an e-mail “ultimatum” stating, “I want a woman home 24 hours a day to love, not one that comes home every other day. Find another way or else.” When Wife told Husband she needed his [291]*291support because working and caring for her mother was difficult, he suggested she sell her North Carolina property and use the proceeds to hire someone to care for her mother.
Wife testified that even when she was home, Husband normally stayed downstairs in the family room watching television or playing records. During the whole month of July 2000, when she was home during vacation from work, Husband spoke to her only once. On cross-examination, Wife said the amount of time she spent caring for her mother brought an already bad relationship “to a head,” but it was not the reason she and Husband did not do things together. She said they were sexually active prior to Thanksgiving 1999, but Husband had not attempted intimacy with her since then.
Husband testified that he had a good relationship with Wife prior to 1999. He showed an active interest in her activities by arranging for the purchase of a recreation club membership and numerous yearly vacations to North Carolina. He set up an account at the police credit union to benefit Wife in case of emergency; and he had made several efforts to involve Wife in marriage counseling since the filing of the dissolution petition. Husband blamed Wife’s work schedule and her time away caring for her mother as the reason for their lack of intimacy, lack of communication, and diminished relationship.
When questioned about his response to Wife’s request for more support and additional help in November 1999, Husband acknowledged his suggestion that Wife sell her North Carolina property (gifted to Wife by her grandmother) and use the money to get professional help for her mother. He acknowledged communicating with Wife primarily by e-mail. He admitted he probably had not spoken to Wife for the whole month of July 2000, despite the fact she was working full time, caring for her mother, and had health problems of her own.
Based on this evidence, the trial court concluded the marriage was irretrievably broken and made the following factual findings:
The testimony of both Petitioner and Respondent supports Petitioner’s allegation that Respondent has behaved in such a way that Petitioner cannot be reasonably expected to live with Respondent; and the Court notes that there had been a significant, and long standing, lack of communication and absence of commonality of interests between the parties.
Husband challenges these findings as unsupported by the evidence. As the trial court noted, however, there was clear testimony from both parties that Husband refused to communicate directly with Wife and that Husband’s intentional isolation was largely due to his anger over Wife caring for her ailing mother. Husband demanded that Wife give up personally caring for her mother “or else.” Such “dictatorial and repressive” conduct has been found sufficient to support a finding that the marriage is irretrievably broken. In re Marriage of Haugh, 978 S.W.2d 80, 84 (Mo.App. S.D.1998).
Although there may be a difference of opinion as to whether Husband’s conduct was egregious enough that Wife could not be expected to live with it, we must defer to the trial court’s assessment of the factual evidence in this regard. Cregan v. Clark, 658 S.W.2d 924, 927-28 (Mo.App. W.D.1983). Point I is denied, as the record is sufficient to support the judgment of dissolution.
Division of Marital Property
Husband contends the trial court erred in refusing to allow cross-examina[292]*292tion of Wife regarding her method of valuing certain marital assets. Based on this error, Husband asserts the court’s property division was not based on substantial and competent evidence of the fair market value of the marital assets.
On direct examination concerning the value of the personal property items at issue,2 Wife testified the assigned values were her “best guesstimates.” On cross-examination, Husband’s counsel questioned the process used to determine those values. Wife responded that she figured the “replacement value” on some assets and used a different method of valuation on others. Husband’s counsel asked Wife to identify the assets for which she designated the replacement value, but Wife’s counsel objected. The record reflects the following colloquy:
HUSBAND’S COUNSEL: Which ones did you use replacement valuing on?
WIFE’S COUNSEL: I object, Your Honor. The witness is capable of testifying to the value of the property just as [Husband] is.
HUSBAND’S COUNSEL: The court, as the court is aware, has to take the replacement value is not the correct standard that the court has used in determining what is the fair market value.... If the witness is applying different standards, replacement value on certain items versus a different value on other items, the court’s entitled to know for clarification purposes how she valued each item.
COURT: Well, I don’t think an owner has to have any standard at all, do they?
HUSBAND’S COUNSEL: I believe the court is bound to determine the fair market value when they’re talking about certain properties would be essentially garage sale prices.
COURT: I am, but she’s not.
HUSBAND’S COUNSEL: No, but for the court’s clarification the court has to determine how the property is to be divided and correct me if I’m wrong, but the court would want to know whether the numbers here represent a fair market value.
COURT: She’s told you what she thinks they’re worth. That’s all I really care about. Your client has the same opportunity. I think I am perfectly capable of making a determination of items of personal property.
The trial court denied Husband’s counsel any opportunity to question Wife as to how she valued any of the specific personal property items on her proposed list for division of marital property. Husband submitted his own proposed list which collectively valued the same property items at approximately $10,000 less than Wife’s valuation.
In the judgment, the trial court adopted Wife’s valuations on all of the personal property items at issue. The court had previously noted, in its discussion with counsel referenced above, that it was obligated to consider the fair market value of the marital assets in order to make a fair and equitable division of the property. By adopting Wife’s valuations of the personal property in its judgment, the court impliedly found those values to be the fair market values of the marital assets at issue. Husband asserts this determination was not supported by the evidence. He further claims the court “prejudge[d]” Wife’s credibility by not allowing Husband to challenge the methods and standards by which Wife calculated her property values.
[293]*293The division of marital property is a matter within the sound discretion of the trial eourt. Taylor v. Taylor, 25 S.W.3d 634, 639 (Mo.App. W.D.2000). While the court is not required to assign a value to each piece of property subject to division, the court must have before it proper evidence of value. In re Marriage of Sumner, 111 S.W.2d 267, 272 (Mo.App. S.D.1989). Evidence permitting a fair and accurate valuation of the assets is required before a just division of the property can be achieved, and a meaningful review of that division can be undertaken on appeal. Spauldin v. Spauldin, 945 S.W.2d 665, 669 (Mo.App. W.D.1997).
While property owners are generally qualified to offer an opinion as to the fair market value of their property, Wife admitted she used “replacement value” in assessing some of the items. Farley v. Farley, 51 S.W.3d 159, 164-65 (Mo.App. S.D.2001). Husband was precluded from questioning whether Wife used a fair market valuation on any of the personal properties at issue. The court thereafter adopted Wife’s valuations on all of the items. On this record, there is insufficient evidence to support the trial court’s division of property based on a fair market valuation. When the trial court does not have sufficient evidence of property value, the property award must be reversed and remanded for the court to hear additional evidence concerning the property. Finnical v. Finnical, 992 S.W.2d 337, 344 (Mo.App. W.D.1999). Proper valuation is essential to achieving a just division of property. See Brock v. Brock, 936 S.W.2d 882, 885 (Mo.App. E.D.1997)
We reverse and remand the entire portion of the trial court’s judgment regarding the property division. On remand, the court is directed to accept additional, clarifying evidence regarding the value of the personal property itemized in Petitioner’s Exhibits 3 and 4. The court shall then determine a fair and equitable division of the marital property. All other aspects of the Judgment and Decree of Dissolution of Marriage are affirmed. Respondent’s Motion to Dismiss Frivolous Appeal and Request for Damages is denied.
ELLIS, J. concurs.
HOLLIGER, J. concurs in attached concurring opinion.