Syrstad v. Syrstad

2021 S.D. 67
CourtSouth Dakota Supreme Court
DecidedDecember 15, 2021
Docket29460
StatusPublished
Cited by2 cases

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Syrstad v. Syrstad, 2021 S.D. 67 (S.D. 2021).

Opinion

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IN THE SUPREME COURT OF THE STATE OF SOUTH DAKOTA

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MARTY K. SYRSTAD, Plaintiff and Appellant,

v.

MICHAEL J. SYRSTAD, Defendant and Appellee.

APPEAL FROM THE CIRCUIT COURT OF THE THIRD JUDICIAL CIRCUIT BROOKINGS COUNTY, SOUTH DAKOTA

THE HONORABLE DAWN M. ELSHERE Judge

ROBERT A. CHRISTENSON Sioux Falls, South Dakota Attorney for plaintiff and appellant.

GARY W. SCHUMACHER of Wilkinson & Schumacher Law, Prof LLC De Smet, South Dakota Attorneys for defendant and appellee.

CONSIDERED ON BRIEFS APRIL 26, 2021 REASSIGNED SEPTEMBER 9, 2021 OPINION FILED 12/15/21 #29460

DEVANEY, Justice (on reassignment).

[¶1.] Marty Syrstad brought suit against her father-in-law, Michael

Syrstad, alleging claims of alienation of affection and child sex abuse. This appeal

concerns Marty’s claim of child sex abuse, which the circuit court dismissed on

summary judgment after concluding that Marty failed to timely bring suit under

SDCL 26-10-25 within three years of the date she discovered or reasonably should

have discovered her injury and its cause. Marty appeals, asserting that the circuit

court erred in granting summary judgment. We reverse and remand.

Factual and Procedural History

[¶2.] In 1993, when Marty was 14 years old, she began dating Michael’s son,

Jeremy Syrstad, and while the two were dating, she would spend a significant

amount of time at the Syrstad home. Marty claimed that during this time, Michael

“began to touch [her] body, kiss [her] on the lips, hug [her,] and hold [her] around

her waist.” She explained in her deposition that anytime she would go to the

Syrstad home to see Jeremy, Michael would be physically affectionate with her.

She also claimed that Michael “would comment about [her] appearance and

development as a young woman going through puberty” and “would pull [her] over

to him to sit on [his] lap or knee.”

[¶3.] According to Marty, whenever Michael was near her, he would ask her

to “give [him] some love,” which to Marty meant a hug and kiss. She further

asserted that if she stayed in close proximity to him, he would put his arm around

her waist and draw her to his hips or groin; would “often” “brush, squeeze, cup or

caress” Marty’s breasts; and would “place his hand on [her] low back and slide it

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down to brush, squeeze, cup or caress” her bottom. Marty also claimed that Michael

would make comments to her, such as: “Oh my God, you are so beautiful”; “Wow,

you are really getting some curves girl”; “Damn your [sic] hot, I want me some of

that”; “Damn, my son is the luckiest man alive to get to hold you”; and “You can be

his wife and still be my girlfriend.” If family members or friends commented about

Michael’s behavior, he would say, “It’s all good, she’s my girl”; or “We keep i[t] all in

the family.”

[¶4.] Marty revealed more specifically the circumstances of two incidents

with Michael that occurred while she was a minor. On one occasion at Michael’s

lake house where Michael, Jeremy, Marty, and others consumed alcohol, Michael

helped Marty get into bed. She claimed that she was intoxicated at the time and

that when Michael helped her, he unhooked her bra and removed it, and after

laying her in bed, he unbuttoned and removed her pants and “patted” her bottom.

Marty described another occasion that occurred while she was sitting closest to

Michael in a pickup he was driving home from a street dance. Michael’s wife and

Jeremy were also in the pickup, and Marty claimed that as Michael was driving, he

“held his right hand on the inside of [her] thigh and rubbed up until the back of [his]

hand was against [her] vagina[.]”

[¶5.] In 1997, Marty turned 18, and on October 16, 1999, Marty married

Jeremy. When Marty was 21 years old, she had sexual intercourse with Michael.

She explained that she was working at a local bar as a bartender and Michael was

at the bar drinking. After the bar closed, she left with Michael, and after the two

drove around town talking, they had sexual intercourse. She agreed it was

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consensual and testified that thereafter she and Michael had sexual intercourse

approximately a dozen times until the spring of 2002 when Marty was

approximately seven months pregnant with her second son.

[¶6.] Although Marty did not continue her sexual relationship with Michael

after 2002, she began to struggle with nightmares and overwhelming fears that

Michael could be the father of her second son. Eventually, in the spring of 2005,

Marty told Jeremy about the affair she had with Michael in 2001 and 2002. She

also told him that she was concerned Michael was the father of their son. Although

Jeremy “was furious” and “absolutely livid,” the two decided to “work through

whatever destruction” the affair caused. They also confirmed via DNA testing that

Jeremy is the father of their son, not Michael.

[¶7.] From 2005 to 2015, Marty and Jeremy attended marriage counseling

and went to marriage retreats. Marty testified that they stopped all contact with

Michael, and Jeremy decided to “cut” his entire side of his father’s “family out of his

life because he was desperately trying to save and salvage [their] marriage.” In

addition to working through the fact that Marty had an affair with Jeremy’s father,

the two also worked on issues related to Jeremy’s alcoholism and the couple’s loss of

their relationship with the Syrstad family and friends. She explained that “[i]t was

[their] intention to stay married[,]” and they fought hard “to save it.” However,

according to Marty, she and Jeremy “could not seek appropriate help” to save the

marriage because “there was a huge white elephant in the middle of [their]

relationship” that “at the time” they “could not identify, could not acknowledge[.]”

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Ultimately, in 2015, the couple separated, and in March 2015, Jeremy filed for and

obtained a divorce.

[¶8.] After the divorce, Marty continued individual counseling one hour

every week or every other week, but she did not believe she was getting the care or

counseling she needed. She sought treatment at an inpatient facility that

specializes in mental and emotional care, and in the summer of 2017, Marty

checked herself into The Meadows, a trauma treatment facility in Wickenburg,

Arizona. Marty claimed that while at The Meadows, she began “the journey to

understand” she had been sexually abused as a child by Michael and that this

earlier abuse may have been the cause of her later behaviors and resulting marital

and mental health issues. Then, according to Marty, in 2018, she “actually realized

the impact (depression, anxiety, loss of relationship) on her life [from] Michael’s

inappropriate acts toward her” after “she heard a sexual abuse victim share his

story[.]”

[¶9.] In February 2019, Marty brought suit against Michael alleging a claim

for alienation of affection and later amended her complaint to add a claim for child

sex abuse under SDCL 26-10-25. Michael filed a motion to dismiss both claims,

alleging that neither was timely commenced. The circuit court determined that

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