Samir Aziz Gohar v. Theresa Ibrahim Gohar

Court of Appeals of Washington·Decided December 8, 2014·No. 70420-6·Unpublished

Opinion

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF THE STATE OF WASHINGTON DIVISION ONE

In the Matter of the Marriage of Nos. 69920-2-1 70420-6-1

THERESA IBRAHIM GOHAR,

Appellant,

and UNPUBLISHED OPINIONS SAMIR GOHAR, Respondent. FILED: December 8, 2014 Schindler, J. — Theresa Gohar, acting pro se, appeals the "Amended Decree of Dissolution," "Final Parenting Plan," "Final Order of Child Support," and the "Findings of Fact and Conclusions of Law." In the separate linked appeal, Theresa challenges the order of contempt for violating the parenting plan.1 Because Theresa fails to establish any legal error or abuse of discretion, we affirm.

DISSOLUTION ACTION

In 1999, Samir and Theresa Gohar were married in Massachusetts. Before the marriage, Samir lived in Massachusetts and owned a restaurant and duplex with his

1We use the parties' first names for purposes of clarity and mean no disrespect by doing so.

brother. Theresa lived in Washington with her parents and worked at a fast food restaurant. After they married, Theresa and Samir lived in Massachusetts. In 2001, Theresa and Samir had a daughter, C.G., and in 2005, a son, M.G.

After the birth of C.G., Theresa sought mental health treatment. Theresa took an antidepressant medication for approximately two years. During this two-year period, Samir described Theresa as having one bad day for every ten good days. Theresa stopped taking the medication. Theresa said the medication did not help her, and she could effectively manage her depression and anxiety by getting out of the house and engaging in activities. According to Samir, after Theresa stopped taking the medication, she had mostly bad days. Samir described her behavior as erratic and said that Theresa often slept until the afternoon.

In 2007, Samir and Theresa moved to the Seattle area to be near Theresa's family. Samir sold the interest in his restaurant business and the duplex to his brother for $285,500.

In 2008, Samir purchased the family home in Lynnwood for $400,000. Samir used $80,000 of proceeds from the sale of his Massachusetts property for the down payment and took out a mortgage in his name only for the balance. That same year, Samir purchased a restaurant in Marysville, Washington. Samir used $200,000 from the proceeds of the sale of his Massachusetts property for the down payment and secured a loan for the balance of the $1,015,000 purchase price for the business and the real property. The restaurant and real property is in Samir's name only. Samir managed the restaurant alone. Theresa never worked in the restaurant and, for the most part, did not work outside the home during the marriage.

In September 2011, Samir moved out of the family home. In February 2012, Samir filed a petition for legal separation. The court later granted Samir's motion to convert his legal separation petition to a petition for dissolution of the marriage. Samir initially proposed that the children reside with Theresa the majority of the time. The court entered a temporary order requiring Samir to pay $6,000 per month for maintenance and child support.

After the separation, the children missed a significant amount of school. Samir became concerned about Theresa's mental health, the children's well-being, and Theresa's attempts to sabotage his relationship with the children. Samir requested designation as the primary residential parent until Theresa engaged in mental health treatment.

In July 2012, the trial court appointed guardian ad litem (GAL) Martha Wakenshaw to act in the children's best interests and make recommendations as to the parenting plan. While Theresa was "largely non-cooperative," the GAL was eventually able to interview both parents, 11-year-old C.G., and 6-year-old M.G.

Samir raised concerns with the GAL about Theresa's mental health, the children's school attendance, and their emotional health and physical safety if Theresa insisted on refusing treatment. Samir admitted he developed a gambling addiction in 2011. Samir also said he was attending Gamblers' Anonymous and was being treated for depression.

Theresa told the GAL she wanted "nothing more" than for Samir to "return to the home as her husband and father to the children." Theresa did not allege that Samir was abusive to her or the children, but she felt that Samir neglected the children's feelings.

Theresa admitted that she let the children stay home from school when they had a runny nose or stomachache. Theresa would not sign a release to obtain school records or allow the GAL to speak to her treatment providers. Instead, Theresa provided the GAL with a declaration from a therapist who confirmed that Theresa had been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and obsessive-compulsive disorder but stated there was no evidence to support a diagnosis of paranoia or delusions. The therapist said that although some of Theresa's concerns went beyond the normal level, they were grounded in rational concerns. GAL Report The GAL prepared a report in October 2012. The GAL reported that Theresa was "extremely suspicious, guarded, and depressed." The GAL stated that during the home visit, Theresa had almost no interaction with the children, and Theresa and her mother openly discussed the court case in front of the children. The GAL described C.G. as "articulate, anxious, and depressed." C.G. told the GAL that her mother tells her "everything" about court so as not to leave her in the dark, and lets her read the documents. C.G. said she was "mad at dad" after reading court documents containing Samir's allegations about Theresa's mental health issues. The GAL described M.G. as obese and having a "sadness and despondency" about him. M.G. reported that his mother gets frustrated about "court stuff' and that his mom's judge was "really mean."

Neither child reported abuse by either parent, and C.G. affirmatively denied it.

C.G. told the GAL that Samir was the person who helped her with schoolwork, and M.G.

said he liked it at Samir's house best. The GAL concluded the children were the victims of abusive use of conflict by the mother.

Clearly, both [C.G.] and [M.G.] are the victims of an extreme abusive use of conflict on the part of the mother. Both children have stated that she has talked to them about the court case and it was a strong theme in both of their interviews, especially [C.G.j's interview.

Both children present as confused, depressed, and anxious and could both benefit from intensive, individual psychotherapy.

It is unconscionable that the mother has permitted her eleven-year-old daughter to read the court documents and pleadings. The daughter has become so fearful that she was worried that the GAL might take her away from her parents and put her in foster care.

The GAL recommended that the court designate Samir as the primary residential parent, the children stay with Theresa every other weekend and one weekday every week, and Theresa be prohibited from sharing court information with the children. The GAL recommended supervised visitation with the children if Theresa continued to engage in abusive use of conflict. The GAL also recommended that each parent obtain a psychological assessment and individual counselling for the children.

Samir obtained a psychological assessment. The evaluator concluded that Samir was being appropriately treated for his mild depression and his previous gambling addiction, and expressed no concerns about his parenting. The same evaluator contacted Theresa to arrange an evaluation but she did respond.

After the GAL filed her report, Theresa filed a motion to remove the GAL. On October 23, a court commissioner struck Theresa's motion because she had not served the GAL.

Protection Order

On October 24, Theresa went to C.G.'s middle school and told the school counsellor that the previous night, C.G. had disclosed that Samir touched her sexually. Child Protective Services (CPS) and the police initiated an investigation. Theresa filed a petition for a protection order. The court entered a temporary protection order.

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