Justine Becker, V. Matthew Cole

Court of Appeals of Washington·Decided October 7, 2025·No. 60498-1·Unpublished

Opinion

Filed

Washington State

Court of Appeals

Division Two

October 7, 2025

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF THE STATE OF WASHINGTON

DIVISION II

In the Matter of the Parenting and Support of: No. 60498-1-II

B.E.C., child.

JUSTINE ANN BECKER, Appellant,

And

MATTHEW ROBERT COLE, UNPUBLISHED OPINION Respondent.

CRUSER, C.J.—Justine Becker appeals the trial court’s parenting plan, arguing that (1) the trial court’s finding of abusive use of conflict was not supported by substantial evidence, (2) the trial court erred by applying a presumption for equal residential custody, (3) the trial court erred by applying the “friendly parent” doctrine, and (4) the trial court improperly weighed the statutory factors found in RCW 26.09.187(3)1 in determining the residential provisions of the parenting plan. Cole responds that the trial court neither abused its discretion nor committed errors of law in crafting the parenting plan. Cole further contends that this court should sanction Becker for improper citations of unpublished opinions as authority.

1 RCW 26.09.187 was amended in 2025. Because these amendments do not affect our analysis, we cite to the current version of the statute. LAWS OF 2025, ch. 166, § 4.

We hold that the trial court did not abuse its discretion in determining that Becker had engaged in abusive use of conflict and in weighing the child’s best interests, and committed no errors of law. Accordingly, we affirm. We also award attorney fees to Cole and impose a sanction against Becker’s counsel.

FACTS

I. BACKGROUND

Justine Becker and Matthew Cole share a three-year-old son, BEC. Cole is a flight attendant based in Boise, Idaho, while Becker lives in Eatonville, Washington. They would travel between Idaho and Washington to visit each other and their extended families for brief stays. The flight duration from SeaTac to the Boise airport is approximately one hour.

Cole was present for BEC’s birth and testified that he was as involved in Becker’s pregnancy as he could be, attending every prenatal appointment. Cole testified that he was a hands- on parent during BEC’s infancy, performing parental duties like changing diapers, feeding, and staying up to take care of BEC at night. Cole would regularly FaceTime (a video call platform) Becker to talk to BEC. Cole attended most of BEC’s medical appointments and performed parental functions whenever BEC was with him. BEC stayed with Cole in Idaho alone on three separate occasions before court involvement.

Becker and Cole sought a temporary parenting plan for BEC, which the trial court entered.

Because Cole had recently been charged with DUI, the plan provided that Cole was required to undergo a chemical dependency evaluation and it further required him to provide the results of the evaluation to Becker.

Throughout the pendency of the temporary orders in this case, Becker frequently interfered with Cole’s ability to communicate with BEC. Between September 13 and 28, 2022, Cole sent 10 requests to Becker via OurFamilyWizard (OFW) to FaceTime BEC while BEC was in Becker’s custody. Becker did not respond to these requests. However, Becker responded relatively frequently and quickly to Cole’s OFW messages concerning other matters.

Becker denied most of Cole’s requests to FaceTime with BEC in October 2022. Becker told Cole to “stop sending messages” for FaceTime calls, accused Cole of harassment, and threatened to obtain a no-contact order against him if he continued to request to talk to BEC. Ex. 102 at 111. Becker said “I will send you a message letting you know when [BEC] will Facetime.” Id. at 48. At no point throughout all of their OFW messages did Becker initiate a message saying that Cole could FaceTime with BEC when it wasn’t a response to Cole’s request.

October 30, 2022, Cole asked to FaceTime with BEC and to see BEC’s Halloween costume. Becker told Cole that BEC may not be available and “[y]ou have not asked what [BEC] is being for Halloween.” Id. at 87. Cole replied, “What is [BEC] going to be for Halloween?” Id. at 88. Becker did not respond.

On Halloween, Cole twice requested to FaceTime BEC for the holiday. Becker finally allowed a two-minute FaceTime call to show BEC trick-or-treating, although BEC did not know that Cole was on FaceTime. After Halloween, Cole asked Becker to send him pictures of BEC in his costume. Becker refused because the photos of BEC included Becker’s other child in them. Cole instructed Becker how to erase or crop Becker’s daughter out of pictures on her phone so that she could send him a photo of BEC. Becker refused to edit the photo or share it with Cole.

The next day, Becker again refused Cole’s request to FaceTime with BEC, responding only that the temporary order states “ ‘FaceTime to occur at Ms. Becker’s discretion.’ ” Id. at 91. A couple of days later, Cole stated that it has been three-and-a-half weeks since he was able to FaceTime BEC. Becker said, “That’s a lie, you faced [sic] [BEC] on Monday 10/31” and that she will be following the temporary orders, which direct: “ ‘FaceTime to occur a [sic] Ms. Becker discretion.’ ” Id. at 96, 97. On November 4, 2022, Becker again responded to a FaceTime request from Cole by saying “[BEC] is unavailable.” Id. at 101 This behavior abated in January 2023 when it appeared that Cole and Becker rekindled their relationship. During that time, Cole even gifted Becker a promise ring. According to Cole, however, Becker’s behavior would change depending on whether a court proceeding or court monitoring was approaching. In February 2023, Becker sent an email to Cole’s employer alleging that Cole was violating policy by doing supervised visits at the Alaska store at the airport that Cole had access to. The email included a copy of the temporary parenting plan at the time, Cole’s sealed personal health records of substance use assessment, obtained through this parenting proceeding, a report from a private investigator that Becker hired to investigate Cole containing his personal information and court history (including dockets), and screenshots of voicemail notifications from Cole on January 24, 2023. Becker also accused Cole of working under the influence on January 24, 2023, and said she was “concerned [Cole] would retaliate if I provided additional information.” Ex. 105 at 2. Becker disseminated this information without Cole’s permission and without notifying the trial court. Afterwards, their relationship again soured. The temporary parenting plan directed a schedule that Cole may have FaceTime calls with BEC every Sunday, Tuesday,

Thursday, or otherwise agreed upon day. Despite that, Becker’s pattern of ignoring and impeding Cole’s requests for FaceTime resumed. This pattern continued on OFW until trial.

Becker’s communications with Cole displayed a similar pattern by impeding Cole’s visitation with BEC. Becker’s family members contributed to these difficulties during visitation transfers. Becker’s brother, for example, yelled out of his car and honked his horn at Cole because Cole was five minutes late to a visitation exchange with BEC. During another exchange, Becker’s father dropped BEC’s blanket onto Cole, in front of BEC, and left without saying a word. Both Becker’s brother and father live on the same property as Becker. The trial court ultimately found Becker in contempt based on these and several other instances of Becker or her designated supervisors refusing to cooperate with visitation provisions. Following the contempt finding against Becker, the communications between Becker and Cole continued to be acrimonious.

On one occasion Becker refused to engage in conversation with Cole during a transfer, stating only that “[a]ll communication is to be done via OFW per the temporary orders.” Ex. 102 at 235. However, Becker and Cole routinely would communicate outside OFW through texts, and occasionally via phone.

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