Callow, C.J.
Judith N. Hadeen, petitioner below in a suit for the dissolution of her marriage to Glen I. Hadeen, appeals from the trial court's award of custody of four of the Hadeens' five daughters to Mr. Hadeen. The trial court awarded Mr. Hadeen custody of Lisa, age 15, Lynn, age 13, Lila, age 11, and LaVon, age 8. Mrs. Hadeen was awarded custody of the Hadeens' oldest daughter, Lori, age 17. This [568]*568appeal presents the issues of whether religious acts may constitute a determinative factor in an award of custody, and, if so, what test must be used to protect the interests of children and the religious freedom of parents.
In the fall of 1977, a person who had previously been the Hadeens' minister returned from Canada and activated a Bellingham branch of the First Community Churches of America. The First Community Church is a fundamentalist Christian sect which demands much of its members' time, their total loyalty, and a subservience to the teachings of the church. The church teaches a strict code of discipline as a means of gaining parental control of children. Mrs. Hadeen admitted that on one occasion she had her other children hold her daughter Lisa while she spanked her with a ping-pong paddle for 2 hours. Mrs. Hadeen testified that usually only a few spankings were necessary. It is unclear whether Mr. Hadeen sanctioned Mrs. Hadeen's disciplinary practices. Witnesses testified that the church teaches enforced isolation and fasting as another means of discipline. The church also teaches that there are essentially two classes of people: "natural people" and "spirit filled people" who have repented, been baptized and received the Holy Spirit. There was testimony that children were taught to use foul language when speaking to other children who were "natural people," and that there was nothing wrong with lying to "natural people." Mrs. Hadeen denied that church members were taught not to associate with "natural" people.
A few months before the separation of the parties in 1978, there was a split in the church. Mr. Hadeen went with the group that left the church while Mrs. Hadeen stayed. There is little testimony as to what precipitated this split. According to Mr. Hadeen, in February of 1978 the pastor of the church unsuccessfully attempted to get Mr. Hadeen to sell the family home and give the proceeds to the ministry. Mr. Hadeen testified that his relationship with his wife deteriorated rapidly as a result of an incident occurring on Memorial Day of 1978. At that time, he and his wife had [569]*569decided to paint the couple's house, but the pastor came over and said that they should not paint the house and that they were to go to a meeting in Seattle. Mr. Hadeen refused to go, but his wife argued that they should obey the pastor.
Mrs. Hadeen testified that she would allow Mr. Hadeen visitation if she were given custody of the children. She testified that she did not want custody of Lisa at that time unless "she is ready to live right and walk right with the Lord." Although their pastor had moved to Portland, there was a First Community Church in Seattle that Mrs. Hadeen would attend.
Mr. Hadeen testified that the church exercised control over its members to whatever extent possible. He said that he never treated his children violently, but had slapped and kicked Mrs. Hadeen in the children's presence following their separation. He did so, he testified, because on one occasion she would not talk to him and on another she cursed him and began "speaking in tongues."
Mrs. Hadeen's sister-in-law testified that the parties' religion had not had bad effects on the children and that their conduct was exemplary. Others testified similarly. Mr. Hadeen's sister-in-law testified that the church taught parents to spank their children until they stopped screaming. She further testified that ex-members were shunned. Another church member testified that ex-members were ostracized, and that some parents beat their children while others did not. According to this witness, the church came before family for Mrs. Hadeen.
The trial court interviewed three of the Hadeens' daughters in chambers. Lori testified that her grades are excellent and that she is active in basketball. She testified that the church did not force her or others to do anything. She said she did not visit her father because of the way he had treated her mother and tried to buy the children's affection. Lisa testified that her mother would not talk to her because she would not go to church. She left her mother because she beat her to force her to go to church. Lynn testified that she was in the seventh grade, played [570]*570sports, had high grades, and did not like her father because he tried to bribe her.
When the taking of testimony was complete, the trial court appointed a psychiatrist as an independent expert to evaluate (a) the children's interrelationship; (b) the parents' and children's interrelationship; (c) whether the children had personality problems; and (d) the problems, effects and desirability of split custody.1
[571]*571Two and one-half months after the first hearing, another hearing was held. Mrs. Hadeen testified that she and the [572]*572children had moved to Seattle where the children enrolled in school and she became employed. She testified that the move was made so she could get a job. According to her testimony, Lynn refused to visit her father, but she told her to visit him. As to Lisa, Mrs. Hadeen testified that she just wanted Lisa to abide by the rules by telling her where she is going and by being home at night. Mrs. Hadeen testified that she would not force the church on Lisa and would accept her back. Both parties agreed that there were and had been major disciplinary problems with Lisa, and that she was having emotional difficulties, was doing poorly in school, and was involved with alcohol and drugs. Mr. Hadeen testified that Mrs. Hadeen would not see Lisa, according to Lisa, until she got her bad spirits out. Mrs. Hadeen testified in rebuttal that she had never said anything to Lisa about bad spirits and that she wanted Lisa to visit her.
The trial court stated in its oral opinion:
The tenets of the church are not something the Court wants to spend a great deal of time with, primarily because religion, religious issues and conditions, I think, are those that fall peculiarly within the conscience and conviction of people who follow the dictates of their own [573]*573beliefs and conscience. The Court is not concerned particularly with the tenets of this church, other than as it may affect the children. And in that regard, it does appear to be a denomination that requires complete submission and fidelity to the exclusion of other reasonable relationships that usually exist.
Based on the records before it, the trial court entered the following findings of fact respecting custody:
a) That the four youngest children of the parties maintain strong emotional bonds with both parents.
b) That the Petitioner provides proper physical care for the children.
c) That the children are reasonably well adjusted with the exception of Lisa who is having difficulties adjusting to the dissolution.
d) That both of the parties were members at one time in the First Community Churchs [sic] of America.
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Callow, C.J.
Judith N. Hadeen, petitioner below in a suit for the dissolution of her marriage to Glen I. Hadeen, appeals from the trial court's award of custody of four of the Hadeens' five daughters to Mr. Hadeen. The trial court awarded Mr. Hadeen custody of Lisa, age 15, Lynn, age 13, Lila, age 11, and LaVon, age 8. Mrs. Hadeen was awarded custody of the Hadeens' oldest daughter, Lori, age 17. This [568]*568appeal presents the issues of whether religious acts may constitute a determinative factor in an award of custody, and, if so, what test must be used to protect the interests of children and the religious freedom of parents.
In the fall of 1977, a person who had previously been the Hadeens' minister returned from Canada and activated a Bellingham branch of the First Community Churches of America. The First Community Church is a fundamentalist Christian sect which demands much of its members' time, their total loyalty, and a subservience to the teachings of the church. The church teaches a strict code of discipline as a means of gaining parental control of children. Mrs. Hadeen admitted that on one occasion she had her other children hold her daughter Lisa while she spanked her with a ping-pong paddle for 2 hours. Mrs. Hadeen testified that usually only a few spankings were necessary. It is unclear whether Mr. Hadeen sanctioned Mrs. Hadeen's disciplinary practices. Witnesses testified that the church teaches enforced isolation and fasting as another means of discipline. The church also teaches that there are essentially two classes of people: "natural people" and "spirit filled people" who have repented, been baptized and received the Holy Spirit. There was testimony that children were taught to use foul language when speaking to other children who were "natural people," and that there was nothing wrong with lying to "natural people." Mrs. Hadeen denied that church members were taught not to associate with "natural" people.
A few months before the separation of the parties in 1978, there was a split in the church. Mr. Hadeen went with the group that left the church while Mrs. Hadeen stayed. There is little testimony as to what precipitated this split. According to Mr. Hadeen, in February of 1978 the pastor of the church unsuccessfully attempted to get Mr. Hadeen to sell the family home and give the proceeds to the ministry. Mr. Hadeen testified that his relationship with his wife deteriorated rapidly as a result of an incident occurring on Memorial Day of 1978. At that time, he and his wife had [569]*569decided to paint the couple's house, but the pastor came over and said that they should not paint the house and that they were to go to a meeting in Seattle. Mr. Hadeen refused to go, but his wife argued that they should obey the pastor.
Mrs. Hadeen testified that she would allow Mr. Hadeen visitation if she were given custody of the children. She testified that she did not want custody of Lisa at that time unless "she is ready to live right and walk right with the Lord." Although their pastor had moved to Portland, there was a First Community Church in Seattle that Mrs. Hadeen would attend.
Mr. Hadeen testified that the church exercised control over its members to whatever extent possible. He said that he never treated his children violently, but had slapped and kicked Mrs. Hadeen in the children's presence following their separation. He did so, he testified, because on one occasion she would not talk to him and on another she cursed him and began "speaking in tongues."
Mrs. Hadeen's sister-in-law testified that the parties' religion had not had bad effects on the children and that their conduct was exemplary. Others testified similarly. Mr. Hadeen's sister-in-law testified that the church taught parents to spank their children until they stopped screaming. She further testified that ex-members were shunned. Another church member testified that ex-members were ostracized, and that some parents beat their children while others did not. According to this witness, the church came before family for Mrs. Hadeen.
The trial court interviewed three of the Hadeens' daughters in chambers. Lori testified that her grades are excellent and that she is active in basketball. She testified that the church did not force her or others to do anything. She said she did not visit her father because of the way he had treated her mother and tried to buy the children's affection. Lisa testified that her mother would not talk to her because she would not go to church. She left her mother because she beat her to force her to go to church. Lynn testified that she was in the seventh grade, played [570]*570sports, had high grades, and did not like her father because he tried to bribe her.
When the taking of testimony was complete, the trial court appointed a psychiatrist as an independent expert to evaluate (a) the children's interrelationship; (b) the parents' and children's interrelationship; (c) whether the children had personality problems; and (d) the problems, effects and desirability of split custody.1
[571]*571Two and one-half months after the first hearing, another hearing was held. Mrs. Hadeen testified that she and the [572]*572children had moved to Seattle where the children enrolled in school and she became employed. She testified that the move was made so she could get a job. According to her testimony, Lynn refused to visit her father, but she told her to visit him. As to Lisa, Mrs. Hadeen testified that she just wanted Lisa to abide by the rules by telling her where she is going and by being home at night. Mrs. Hadeen testified that she would not force the church on Lisa and would accept her back. Both parties agreed that there were and had been major disciplinary problems with Lisa, and that she was having emotional difficulties, was doing poorly in school, and was involved with alcohol and drugs. Mr. Hadeen testified that Mrs. Hadeen would not see Lisa, according to Lisa, until she got her bad spirits out. Mrs. Hadeen testified in rebuttal that she had never said anything to Lisa about bad spirits and that she wanted Lisa to visit her.
The trial court stated in its oral opinion:
The tenets of the church are not something the Court wants to spend a great deal of time with, primarily because religion, religious issues and conditions, I think, are those that fall peculiarly within the conscience and conviction of people who follow the dictates of their own [573]*573beliefs and conscience. The Court is not concerned particularly with the tenets of this church, other than as it may affect the children. And in that regard, it does appear to be a denomination that requires complete submission and fidelity to the exclusion of other reasonable relationships that usually exist.
Based on the records before it, the trial court entered the following findings of fact respecting custody:
a) That the four youngest children of the parties maintain strong emotional bonds with both parents.
b) That the Petitioner provides proper physical care for the children.
c) That the children are reasonably well adjusted with the exception of Lisa who is having difficulties adjusting to the dissolution.
d) That both of the parties were members at one time in the First Community Churchs [sic] of America. The Respondent has subsequently removed himself from the church.
e) That the Petitioner, Judith Hadeen, is in complete submission to the First Community Church of America, to the exclusion of other reasonable relationships.
f) That the Petitioners first fidelity is to the church, as is evidences [sic] by the Petitioner's rejection of the parties' minor child Lisa, and as evidenced by the Petitioner's move to Seattle with only a short time remaining in school and the subsequent move made in Seattle, all of which are not in the best interest of the parties' minor children.
g) That [the psychiatrist] recommends the children's custody be with the Petitioner, provided the problems caused by the Petitioner's religious involvement with the First Community Churches of America are satisfactorily resolved.
h) To award custody to the Petitioner, Judith Hadeen, would effectively cut Glen Hadeen off from his involvement with the children, and that the children need to have continued contact with both parents. That Lori Hadeen, the oldest of the parties' minor children, is deeply involved with the First community Church of America, and she had close associations with her mother and the church. Because of her age Lori should be placed in the custody of her mother.
[574]*574i) The best interest of the parties' other minor children is served by placing those children in the custody of the Respondent, Glen Hadeen, subject to reasonable rights of visitation for the Petitioner.
Mrs. Hadeen assigns error to the last five of the findings and contends that the custody award constitutes a manifest abuse of discretion. She concedes that the best interests and welfare of the children are the primary and controlling considerations in custody matters, but argues that the trial court curtailed her First Amendment right freely to exercise her religion because the custody award was not made upon a clear and affirmative showing that her religion adversely affects the welfare of the children. She argues that the evidence does not support the finding that she is in complete submission to the church and that the court's consideration of her religion as an integral part of its decision constituted an abuse of discretion. She argues that there is no evidence to support the finding that an award to her would cut off Mr. Hadeen from his involvement with the children, but that even if this were true, this finding provides no basis for the trial court's order, citing Quiner v. Quiner, 59 Cal. Rptr. 503 (Cal. App. 1967).
The best interests and welfare of the children are paramount in custody matters. RCW 26.09.190; Munoz v. Munoz, 79 Wn.2d 810, 812, 489 P.2d 1133 (1971). The trial court must consider all relevant factors, including the parents' and children's wishes; the interrelationship of the children with their parents and others who may affect their best interests; the child's adjustment to his or her home, school, and community; and the mental and physical health of all concerned. RCW 26.09.190. We assume that the trial court discharged its duty and considered all evidence before it relating to these factors. In re Marriage of Croley, 91 Wn.2d 288, 291, 588 P.2d 738 (1978). Whether the trial court considered and premised its decision upon considerations violative of the First Amendment's provision respecting religion requires our consideration of the principles [575]*575used in determining the scope and application of the First Amendment's provision respecting religion.
The First Amendment provides in pertinent part, "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof ..." This clause applies through the Fourteenth Amendment to the states, Cantwell v. Connecticut, 310 U.S. 296, 84 L. Ed. 1213, 60 S. Ct. 900, 128 A.L.R. 1352 (1940), including the states' judiciary, see Shelley v. Kraemer, 334 U.S. 1, 92 L. Ed. 1161, 68 S. Ct. 836, 3 A.L.R.2d 441 (1948). The dual nature of the First Amendment's provision respecting religion encompasses the establishment clause, which guarantees government neutrality in matters touching upon religion, and the free exercise clause, which recognizes the individual's liberty in religious matters. The overall purpose respecting freedom of religion is to insure that no religion is advanced or favored, commanded or inhibited. Walz v. Tax Comm'n, 397 U.S. 664, 25 L. Ed. 2d 697, 90 S. Ct. 1409 (1970). As regards the free exercise clause, "[a] regulation neutral on its face may, in its application, nonetheless offend the constitutional requirement for governmental neutrality if it unduly burdens the free exercise of religion." Wisconsin v. Yoder, 406 U.S. 205, 220, 32 L. Ed. 2d 15, 92 S. Ct. 1526 (1972). While the freedom to believe is absolute, the freedom to act is subject to regulation for society's protection, Cantwell v. Connecticut, supra at 303-04, but even then '"[ojnly the gravest abuses, endangering paramount interests, give occasion for permissible limitation,' . . (Citation omitted.) Sherbert v. Verner, 374 U.S. 398, 406, 10 L. Ed. 2d 965, 83 S. Ct. 1790 (1963).
Wisconsin v. Yoder, supra, considered whether compulsory school attendance laws past the eighth grade violated the right of Amish parents to exercise their religious beliefs. Noting that parents have the right to direct the religious upbringing of their children, Wisconsin v. Yoder, supra at 233-34 (citing Pierce v. Society of Sisters, 268 U.S. 510, 534-35, 69 L. Ed. 1070, 45 S. Ct. 571, 39 A.L.R. 468 (1925)), added:
[576]*576To be sure, the power of the parent, even when linked to a free exercise claim, may be subject to limitation under Prince [v. Massachusetts, 321 U.S. 158, 88 L. Ed. 645, 64 S. Ct. 438 (1944)] if it appears that parental decisions will jeopardize the health or safety of the child, or have a potential for significant social burdens.
This must be read in light of the court's admonition that "only those interests of the highest order and those not otherwise served can overbalance legitimate claims to the free exercise of religion." Wisconsin v. Yoder, supra at 215. The court held that Amish parents could not be penalized for a violation of the compulsory attendance laws, but noted that the case before it was not a case in which "any harm to the physical or mental health of the child . . . has been demonstrated or may be properly inferred." Wisconsin v. Yoder, supra at 230.
Cases involving religion as an aspect of a custody dispute generally comport with the language of Wisconsin v. Yoder, supra at 233-34, regarding a showing that the parental decisions will jeopardize the child's health or safety. The showing that must be made and the test involved in the determination of when the jeopardy must arise are, however, subject to significant dispute.
In Stone v. Stone, 16 Wn.2d 315, 133 P.2d 526 (1943), the question was whether the trial court had deprived a mother of the control and custody of her children solely because the trial court believed that the teachings of the Jehovah's Witnesses rendered the mother unfit to have care and control of the children. The opinion observed that although the mother devoted 6 hours a week to distributing religious literature, that did not appear to result in her neglecting her home or family. The children attended school and had above average grades. The court could not find that the mother was unfit to have custody of the children because of her religious beliefs. Stone v. Stone, supra at 322. The court stated that the fact that Jehovah's Witnesses would not salute the flag could not be relied upon as [577]*577a factor in the trial court's award of custody. Accord, Smith v. Smith, 90 Ariz. 190, 367 P.2d 230 (1961).
In Quiner v. Quiner, 59 Cal. Rptr. 503 (Cal. App. 1967), the mother belonged to the Plymouth Brethren Church and embraced its doctrine of "separation," which maintains that church members shall have no fellowship or association with nonchurch members and shall completely avoid radio, television, movies and theater. The mother attended church meetings six times a week, each meeting lasting 1 1/4 hours. Children were brought up to view any outsiders as "unclean." A schism in Mr. and Mrs. Quiners' fellowship developed over the doctrine of "separation." The husband went with one branch of the church while the mother went with the other. Following a hearing on the dissolution of the parties' marriage, the trial court found both parents to be of good character and able to care for the child's physical needs. The trial court awarded custody of the child to the husband on the basis of the court's finding that the child's mental welfare and opportunities for intellectual character and personality growth would be furthered best with the father. The trial court further found that the mother considered it her duty to inculcate the child on the basis of separation, and that her religious devotions were more important to her than her son and husband.
On the mother's appeal in Quiner, the court noted that the best interests of the child is the paramount consideration in a custody dispute and that, by statute, a mother is to be awarded custody of a child of tender years, all other things being equal. Quiner v. Quiner, supra at 509. The mother argued that she had been penalized for her religious beliefs by denying her the custody of her child. There was no evidence or finding that the child, 2 1/2 years old, regarded his father as unclean or did not love him, or that the principles of separation "had actually taken place and had impaired the physical, emotional and mental health and well-being of the child." Quiner v. Quiner, supra at 511. The court stated that "the reasons assigned are inextricably a part and parcel of religious belief and that a [578]*578judgment so bottomed cannot withstand constitutional attack." Quiner v. Quiner, supra at 513.2 The dissent stated that the majority's requirement of evidence of [579]*579"actual impairment of physical, emotional and mental well-being contrary to the best interests of the child" was a test totally ignoring the best interests of the child. Quiner v. Quiner, supra at 519 (Herndon, J., dissenting).3
We glean from these cases that religious decisions and acts may be considered in a custody decision only to the extent that those decisions or acts will jeopardize the temporal mental health or physical safety of the child. The question remains whether jeopardy to a child must be one of actual present impairment of the child's physical and/or mental well-being or a reasonable and substantial likelihood of impairment. We conclude that the Quiner requirement of actual impairment is improvident and could lead a trial court to ignore a child's present welfare. We hold that the requirement of a reasonable and substantial likelihood of immediate or future impairment best accommodates the general welfare of the child and the free exercise of religion by the parents. See Morris v. Morris, _ Pa. Super. Ct. _, _, 412 A.2d 139, 146-47 (1979).
[580]*580The trial court's finding that Mrs. Hadeen is in complete submission to the church to the exclusion of other "reasonable" relationships is a subjective conclusion which should have played no part in the trial court's decision unless Mrs. Hadeen's submission posed a substantial threat of endangering the children's mental or physical welfare. There was no evidence that Mrs. Hadeen neglected her children or did not provide them with her companionship because of her membership in the church. In fact, the trial court expressly found that the children were adjusted reasonably well.
Also unsupported by substantial evidence is the finding that the psychiatrist's recommendation of custody being with the mother was conditioned upon the mother's resolution of her involvement with the church. The psychiatrist stated that it was in the children's best interests to maintain contact with the father if that could be done without having the mother and father fight. He recommended that if the children were uncomfortable with visitation, then it would be in their best interests not to be forced to visit either parent.
There is substantial evidence to support the finding that Mrs. Hadeen's first fidelity is to the church, even to the extent of rejecting her children. The psychiatrist reported that Lisa was under a great deal of stress partially attributable to her mother's rejection of her, and he reported that Lisa might need treatment if her mother rejects her again. Due to the close attachment the children have for each other, the rejection of one child by the mother in the name of religion must impose a heavy burden on the other children's emotional well-being. The trial court properly relied upon its finding regarding the mother's rejective behavior. Also supported by substantial evidence is the finding that the children effectively would be cut off from Mr. Hadeen if Mrs. Hadeen were awarded custody. As stated in Brock v. Brock, 123 Wash. 450, 452, 212 P. 550 (1923), "to deny to the child an opportunity to know, associate with, love and be loved by either parent, may be a more serious ill than to refuse it in some part those things [581]*581which money can buy." Accord, Delle v. Delle, 112 Wash. 512, 192 P. 966, 193 P. 569 (1920). Visitation nevertheless remains but one consideration in making the decision of what is in the best interests of the child's welfare. Joslin v. Joslin, 45 Wn.2d 357, 364, 274 P.2d 847 (1954); Borenback v. Borenback, 34 Wn.2d 172, 178, 208 P.2d 635 (1949). Substantial evidence supports the finding that the children need to have continued contact with both parents. The trial court was of the opinion that this was in the children's best interests. The psychiatrist recommended that LaVon and Lisa particularly needed contact with their father to further their development, and it may be inferred therefrom that to sever the children's emotional ties to their father would present a reasonable and substantial likelihood of impairing their mental well-being.
There are many conflicting elements present which will pull a trial judge in opposite directions in deciding where to place custody. As we read the record and the findings, it is likely that a determining factor here was the mother's involvement with her church. Since the trial court did not find that the church membership of the mother posed a threat to the mental or physical welfare of the children, it would be improper to consider the religious involvement of the mother as an ingredient in the decision as to the award of custody. See Munoz v. Munoz, 79 Wn.2d 810, 814, 489 P.2d 1133 (1971). The cause is remanded to the trial court for retrial of the issue of custody consistent with the guidelines expressed herein.
In view of our remand of the issue of custody, the award of the furniture and family home is also remanded to the trial court for reconsideration, since the award of these items was intertwined inextricably with the award of custody.
Finally, both parties argue that they should be allowed attorney's fees on appeal pursuant to RCW 26.09.140. The award of attorney's fees shall abide the final disposition of the cause.
[582]*582Reversed and remanded.
Ringold, J., concurs.