In re the Marriage of Adam

CourtCourt of Appeals of Iowa
DecidedMay 11, 2022
Docket21-0693
StatusPublished

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IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF IOWA

No. 21-0693 Filed May 11, 2022

IN RE THE MARRIAGE OF BEKELE TUKE ADAM AND HABIBA HUSSEIN ADAM

Upon the Petition of BEKELE TUKE ADAM, Petitioner-Appellant,

And Concerning HABIBA HUSSEIN ADAM, Respondent-Appellee. ________________________________________________________________

Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Johnson County, Lars G. Anderson,

Judge.

A former husband appeals the district court decision granting a dissolution

rather than an annulment of his marriage. AFFIRMED.

Joseph C. Pavelich of Spies & Pavelich, Iowa City, for appellant.

Charles L. Pierce of Iowa Legal Aid, Iowa City, for appellee.

Heard by Vaitheswaran, P.J., and Tabor and Badding, JJ. 2

TABOR, Judge.

Bekele Adam and Habiba Kedir chose to end their marriage. Bekele

preferred an annulment, but the district court rejected that bid and granted a

dissolution. Bekele appeals contending two statutory grounds exist for an

annulment: (1) the marriage was prohibited by law and (2) one of the parties was

impotent at the time of the marriage. See Iowa Code § 598.29 (2018). Because

Bekele failed to prove either ground, we affirm the dissolution.

I. Facts and Prior Proceedings

Both Bekele and Habiba are from Ethiopia and immigrated to the United

States, he as a refugee and she on a fiancée visa. But the record regarding their

marriage histories is imprecise. Bekele testified he married his first wife in Ethiopia

in 1986, then gave wavering testimony about the validity of that marriage. That

wife disappeared from Ethiopia shortly after their purported marriage.

Bekele met Habiba in 2000—he was forty-three and she was sixteen. She

testified that she was a student at the school where Bekele was a teacher. Shortly

after they met, Bekele asked Habiba’s family if he could marry her. Bekele and

Habiba had a ceremony that same year, though they disagree about what it

symbolized. He claimed his family attended an engagement ceremony. But she

testified it was a wedding. To counter, Bekele introduced several letters from

municipal authorities in Ethiopia stating they could not locate any marriage

certificate between the parties.

Still, after this 2000 ceremony, Habiba moved into the house of Bekele’s

family. Two years later, Habiba and Bekele had a son, A.A., who is now an adult.

That same year, Bekele moved to Kenya for political reasons, leaving Habiba and 3

A.A. in Ethiopia. Bekele would occasionally communicate with Habiba by phone

or letter. While in Kenya, he discovered that his first wife was living in the United

States. With her sponsorship, he moved to the United States in 2004. In 2006,

Bekele’s first wife obtained a divorce by default decree in Colorado.

Having settled in Iowa City, in 2008, Bekele began sending remittances to

Ethiopia to support Habiba and A.A., a practice he continued for eight years. In

2012, Bekele became a U.S. citizen.

The next year, Bekele returned to Ethiopia and brought their then eleven-

year-old son, A.A., back to the United States. Habiba supported the move,

explaining: “Even though, as a mother, I felt bad when he departed, I was happy

that he came to the United States to get a good education.”

Around that same time, Bekele and Habiba agreed that Bekele would apply

for a visa listing Habiba as his fiancée so that she could join him and their son in

the United States. On his own, Bekele twice filed applications, which were denied.

For the third application, Bekele hired an immigration attorney, and the application

was approved. As part of the process, Bekele and Habiba agreed to wed within

ninety days of her arrival in the country. Bekele paid the application fees, attorney

expenses, and Habiba’s travel costs.1

With the visa approved, Habiba came to the United States in January 2017.

Dutifully, the parties were married on February 1, 2017, according to the certificate

recorded in Johnson County, Iowa. After the wedding, they filed paperwork to

1 Meanwhile, Bekele went back to Ethiopia in 2015, at which time there was another wedding according to Habiba. She produced a civil marriage certificate dated July 12, 2015, which Bekele claims is fraudulent. 4

allow Habiba to work in the United States, which received approval in early

October. Habiba began working as a housekeeper at a local hotel, a job she

enjoyed.

But married life proved distressing. According to Habiba, Bekele was

physically and emotionally abusive, sometimes holding her immigration status over

her head. She testified that Bekele strangled her, slapped her, and called her a

“bitch.” Bekele denied the abuse. At one point, Habiba’s employer called Bekele

to ask for a copy of her work authorization paper. Bekele denied that such

paperwork existed, and Habiba lost her job. Soon after that incident, Habiba

moved out of their house. From November 2017 forward, she spent seven months

living in a domestic violence shelter. In March 2018, while still living in the shelter,

she petitioned for relief from domestic abuse; the court granted the protective

order. Family members in Ethiopia coordinated with a cousin in Minneapolis who

was dispatched to pick up Habiba. She has lived in Minnesota since then.

Also in March 2018 Bekele petitioned for annulment, claiming that Habiba

refused to consummate the marriage in 2017 and had only married him for

immigration purposes. Habiba resisted annulment, arguing they were married in

2000 and consummated the marriage then. She also asked for the court to convert

the case to a dissolution of marriage. She sought no property or spousal support.2

The district court held a trial on those matters in January 2021.

At the trial, both parties agreed they did not have sex after the 2017

wedding. Bekele testified Habiba refused to have sex with him, saying that she

2 Bekele was then sixty-three, and Habiba was thirty-seven. Their son was no longer a minor. 5

was “cursed” or was going to be “cursed.” Bekele added that he did not believe

that she actually had a curse. Habiba denied telling Bekele that she was cursed.

Instead, she testified that when they tried to have sex he experienced premature

ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, for which he said he would seek treatment,

asking her to “be patient” with him. But he never sought treatment.

The court found Bekele did not establish that the 2017 marriage should be

annulled for either illegality or impotency.3 As to illegality, the court found the

evidence did not show the marriage between these parties was prohibited by law.

No Iowa cases cited an immigration violation as reason for annulment. But even

if an immigration violation fit the statutory language, the court found that Bekele

did not “establish that Habiba was motivated to marry him solely for immigration

purposes.” In reaching that result, the court made strong credibility findings that

Habiba was the more believable witness.

As to impotency, the court found “the fact that the parties did not have sex

after they married does not equate to impotency under the statute.” And Bekele

did not prove by a preponderance of the evidence that their failure to have sex was

a result of the impotence of either party. The court denied Bekele’s post-ruling

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