In re Marriage of Oyadare

Court of Appeals of Iowa·Decided April 9, 2025·No. 24-0280·Published

Opinion

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF IOWA

No. 24-0280

Filed April 9, 2025

IN RE THE MARRIAGE OF SARAH A. OYADARE AND BILLY A. OYADARE

Upon the Petition of SARAH A. OYADARE, n/k/a SARAH A. BELLO, Petitioner-Appellee,

And Concerning BILLY A. OYADARE, Respondent-Appellant.

Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Woodbury County, John M. Sandy, Judge.

A former husband appeals from the district court’s property distribution award in the decree dissolving his marriage. AFFIRMED AND REMANDED WITH DIRECTIONS.

Billy A. Oyadare, self-represented appellant.

Deborah J. Morris of Tigges, Bottaro & Lessmann, LLP, Sioux City, for appellee.

Considered without oral argument by Greer, P.J., and Ahlers and Badding, JJ. Sandy, J., takes no part.

BADDING, Judge.

Sarah and Billy Oyadare were married for almost twenty-six years. In the first decade of their marriage, the couple decided to separate their finances. When Sarah petitioned for divorce years later, Billy urged the district court to divide their assets and debts according to that historical practice—or what Billy termed their “precursor financial divorce.” The district court rejected that approach, reasoning: “Billy wants a prenup postnup. If Billy wanted such to be the case, he could have filed for legal separation or dissolution in 2007. He did neither.” Declining to “wind the clock back seventeen years,” the court included all the assets and debts of the Oyadares in the divisible marital estate and awarded Sarah attorney fees.

Billy appeals, claiming the district court erred by (1) “ignoring the established and uncontested evidence of agreement and practice of the parties regarding asset distribution”; (2) failing to find that Sarah dissipated assets during the marriage; and (3) awarding Sarah attorney fees. We affirm the court’s dissolution decree and remand for a determination of reasonable appellate attorney fees for Sarah. I. Background Facts and Proceedings Sarah and Billy were married in Nigeria in 1998. They moved to Iowa the next year, where they had three children together.1 In 2001, they each pursued further education. Sarah enrolled in a nursing program at a community college, and Billy began law school. They each took out student loans to pay for their education. Sarah borrowed less than $5000, while Billy’s loans totaled

1 The two oldest children were adults by the dissolution trial. There are no issues involving the youngest child in this appeal.

$98,608.69. According to Billy, the couple used “a big chunk” of his loans for living expenses while they attended school.

Sarah graduated before Billy and began working full-time while he finished his third year of law school. After Billy graduated in 2004, the family moved to Sioux City, where Billy obtained a job with the state public defender. He is still employed there and earns a gross annual income of $132,829. Sarah works as a nurse at a retirement home, where she grosses $100,454 per year.

In 2007, the couple decided to separate their finances. Sarah testified that her mother’s health was the impetus for this decision: “My mom needed some money for . . . medical expenses, and I told Billy, and he said no, we can’t send any money to anybody.” Billy, however, said that Sarah wanted separate accounts because she didn’t want to pay for his student loans. Whatever the reason, from then on Sarah and Billy maintained separate accounts, which they used to pay for their individual cars, credit cards, and student loans. They also maintained a joint account, into which they each contributed $800 per month to pay for “expenses of the family,” like the mortgage.

Sarah agreed that she and Billy had “two different financial philosophies.”

Sarah focused on her cultural and familial connections, taking several trips to Nigeria, South Africa, and Europe, where the couple’s families lived. She took the children with her on some of those trips, which she financed with credit cards. She also regularly sent money to family members in Nigeria. And she bought a property there with her mother. Billy did not travel with Sarah, choosing to instead pay off his student loans and start college savings accounts for the children, although he also sent money to his family in Nigeria.

By February 2022, the parties decided they should separate not just their finances but also their lives. They scheduled a mediation for October, before either had filed for divorce. One morning after Sarah got home from working an overnight shift, Billy presented her with a document that he said needed to be signed and sent to the mediator. Sarah testified that she signed it without reviewing it thoroughly. When the document was discussed at mediation, Sarah discovered that it was a settlement agreement. Because she did not agree to most of it, she retained an attorney and petitioned for divorce in November. Trial was scheduled for August 2023.

Two weeks before trial, Sarah moved to compel discovery from Billy, who represented himself in the proceedings. Following a hearing, the district court granted the motion but denied Sarah’s request for attorney fees. The court warned Billy, however, that failure to produce the outstanding discovery could lead to continuing the trial or other sanctions. Billy did not heed that warning and failed to fully respond to Sarah’s discovery requests by the court’s deadline. As a result, the court continued the trial to January 2024.

The day before trial, Sarah filed a pretrial stipulation as directed by the district court’s trial scheduling order. But it did not include Billy’s required portion. So, on the day of the trial, the court delayed the proceedings for one hour so that Billy could complete his part. He did so by making handwritten notations on Sarah’s proposed property division spreadsheet. While the parties agreed on the values for all their assets and debts, Billy maintained most were nonmarital, arguing “the parties have lived separate lives, kept their individual finances separate, pursued their financial goals independently and made financial decisions

based on their own individual preferences and without consultation with the other.” He offered the settlement agreement that Sarah signed before their mediation as an exhibit, which he contended “was a codification” of their “oral agreement on how we were going to run our expenses.” The court admitted the exhibit, “not to document any negotiation or agreement,” but for context on “how the parties managed their finances together.”

In the ensuing dissolution decree, the district court rejected Billy’s proposed division, finding “[i]t is of no consequence whose bank account it was deposited in as there is truly only one bank account: the marriage’s.” The court also rejected Billy’s alternative argument that Sarah dissipated assets through her credit card debt and the money she sent to family in Nigeria. With those arguments out of the way, the court equally divided all the parties’ assets and debts, which resulted in Billy owing Sarah a cash equalization payment of $42,649. The court also awarded $2897.50 in attorney fees to Sarah.

Billy appeals, challenging the court’s property division as inequitable because it varied from the parties’ financial agreement during the marriage. He also claims the court erred in rejecting his dissipation claim and ordering him to pay Sarah’s attorney fees. II. Standard of Review “We review dissolution cases de novo.” In re Marriage of Fennelly, 737 N.W.2d 97, 100 (Iowa 2007). “Although we decide the issues raised on appeal anew, we give weight to the trial court’s factual findings, especially with respect to the credibility of the witnesses.” Id. (citation omitted).

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