In re Marriage of Grossman
Opinion
2026 IL App (2d) 250436-U No. 2-25-0436 Order filed March 26, 2026 NOTICE: This order was filed under Supreme Court Rule 23(b) and is not precedent except in the limited circumstances allowed under Rule 23(e)(1).
IN THE
APPELLATE COURT OF ILLINOIS
SECOND DISTRICT
In re MARRIAGE OF SARI GROSSMAN, Petitioner-Appellant, and JEFFERY ROTHBART, Respondent-Appellee.
Appeal from the Circuit Court of Lake County. Honorable Patricia L. Cornell, Judge, Presiding. No. 19D776
JUSTICE JORGENSEN delivered the judgment of the court. Justices Hutchinson and Mullen concurred in the judgment.
ORDER
¶1 Held: The court’s credibility finding was not against the manifest weight of the evidence, and it did not abuse its discretion in denying the petition to restrict respondent’s parenting time. Further, the court’s denial of the petition to modify was not contrary to the best interests of the children. Affirmed.
¶2 Petitioner, Sari Grossman, appeals from the circuit court’s September 4, 2025, order
disposing of several motions. She contends that the court erred by (1) failing to analyze her request
for a reduction of respondent’s, Jeffery Rothbart, parenting time under both the restriction and
best-interests standards; (2) finding that respondent was a credible witness; (3) determining that
she did not meet her burden showing that respondent’s parenting time should be restricted; and (4)
failing to modify respondent’s parenting time based on the best-interest standard. We conclude the
court did not err in finding respondent credible and in refusing to restrict his parenting time. Moreover, we conclude that the circuit court’s denial of the petition to modify was not against the
manifest weight of the evidence.
¶3 I. BACKGROUND
¶4 On October 9, 2020, the circuit court entered judgment dissolving the parties’ marriage. At
the time of dissolution, the parties shared three minor children, M.R. (born 11/27/2010), N.R. (born
9/12/2013), and E.R. (born 4/15/2015). On June 9, 2020, an allocation judgment (“AJ”) was
entered pertaining to the parental responsibilities and parenting plan for the three children. The AJ
provided respondent with parenting time every other weekend from Thursday (immediately after
school or, if there was no school, at 5 p.m.) to Monday (when school began or, if there was no
school, at 9 a.m.); the Thursday before petitioner’s weekend either beginning after school or, if no
school, at 5 p.m. until Friday when school began or at 9 a.m. if there was no school; and each
Monday after school (or at 4 p.m. if there was no school) until 7 p.m. The children resided with
petitioner outside of this time. The parties are required to use their best efforts to make joint major
decisions; however, petitioner would make a final decision after three weeks of an impasse, and,
if a child visited a therapist, the parties agreed to cooperate with the therapist and meet with him
or her upon request.
¶5 During pre- and post-decree divorce litigation, petitioner obtained three different orders of
protection (OP) against respondent. Most recently, petitioner sought an OP on June 4, 2024, in
response to an incident that occurred on Mother’s Day, where respondent sent text messages to
petitioner in a group chat containing the parties’ three minor children. Within the messages,
respondent used profanity and threatened to call police on petitioner if she was even one minute
late for a custody exchange. Respondent used the children as a conduit to convey his messages to
petitioner. Petitioner testified that the children were so afraid, fearful, and fidgety in response to
-2- the messages they received that they got in the car and waited for petitioner “well before it was
time to go.” On September 13, 2024, the circuit court entered a two-year plenary OP, finding that
respondent engaged in a pattern of inappropriate statements and, ultimately, harassment and abuse,
when respondent used his minor children to threaten petitioner’s arrest.
¶6 New post-decree litigation began on July 16, 2024, with a petition to restrict respondent’s
parenting time (“petition to restrict”). On July 22, 2024, Sally Lichter was appointed as guardian
ad litem (GAL). In between July 2024 and September 4, 2025 (the date of the appealed order), 15
motions were filed and 27 orders were entered by the circuit court. Of note, on August 30, 2024,
petitioner filed a petition to modify respondent’s parenting time and other provisions of the
allocation judgment (“petition to modify”) based on the children’s best interests. In an order filed
on March 17, 2025, the court noted it would be addressing both the petition to modify and petition
to restrict at the June 30, 2025, hearing. On March 28, 2025, petitioner sought to modify the AJ
regarding extracurricular activities.
¶7 On April 3, 2025, petitioner filed an emergency motion to suspend and restrict respondent’s
parenting time regarding E.R. Petitioner argued that respondent was harassing and disparaging
E.R. about her physical appearance, and E.R.’s therapist was already concerned about E.R.’s low
self-esteem, lack of confidence, and risk of developing an eating disorder. Petitioner asserted that,
following spring break, E.R. returned to petitioner’s house upset because respondent disparaged
her at dinner in front of her brothers regarding her weight. Petitioner argued that M.R. and N.R.
emulate respondent’s behavior to such a degree that, following this dinner, E.R. had to do a “weigh-
in.” On April 4, 2025, an agreed order suspended respondent’s parenting time and precluded
respondent from initiating contact with E.R. until April 14, 2025. Then, on April 14, 17, and 21,
respondent would regain parenting time after school until 7 p.m. Thereafter, on April 22, 2025, the
-3- parties agreed to temporarily modify respondent’s parenting time with E.R.—Mondays after
school to 7 p.m., Thursday after school until school drop-off on Friday morning, and alternating
Saturdays from 6 p.m. until Sunday at 6 p.m. This was the parenting schedule for E.R. at the time
of the hearing on the foregoing motions on June 30, 2025, and July 1, 2025.
¶8 Lichter issued her report on June 17, 2025. In the report, Lichter recounted petitioner’s
tumultuous relationship with respondent. Regarding the children, petitioner expressed that M.R.
has been parentified, as he tries to protect both his parents and siblings, yet he is tasked with
enforcing the rules at respondent’s residence. Petitioner attempted to put M.R. in therapy but she
believed that respondent bullied the therapist into discontinuing appointments, and respondent
pushed M.R. out of wanting therapy. Petitioner reported taking E.R. to see a therapist, Roberta
Auslander. Respondent is not supportive of this. Petitioner opined that respondent treats M.R., and
to some extent N.R., like friends and not children. For example, petitioner recounted that
respondent texted a picture to N.R. of a sign placed on his door while respondent hosted a party,
which said, “no fucking in here.” Respondent denied sending the picture; rather, he opined that his
friend took the picture and showed it to the children. Overall, petitioner reported that the children
return from respondent’s house dysregulated, taking up to 48 hours to return to normal. Petitioner
also believed that the children feared retribution from respondent whether by disconnecting their
cell phones or by him calling the police on petitioner.
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2026 IL App (2d) 250436-U No. 2-25-0436 Order filed March 26, 2026 NOTICE: This order was filed under Supreme Court Rule 23(b) and is not precedent except in the limited circumstances allowed under Rule 23(e)(1).
IN THE
APPELLATE COURT OF ILLINOIS
SECOND DISTRICT
In re MARRIAGE OF SARI GROSSMAN, Petitioner-Appellant, and JEFFERY ROTHBART, Respondent-Appellee.
Appeal from the Circuit Court of Lake County. Honorable Patricia L. Cornell, Judge, Presiding. No. 19D776
JUSTICE JORGENSEN delivered the judgment of the court. Justices Hutchinson and Mullen concurred in the judgment.
ORDER
¶1 Held: The court’s credibility finding was not against the manifest weight of the evidence, and it did not abuse its discretion in denying the petition to restrict respondent’s parenting time. Further, the court’s denial of the petition to modify was not contrary to the best interests of the children. Affirmed.
¶2 Petitioner, Sari Grossman, appeals from the circuit court’s September 4, 2025, order
disposing of several motions. She contends that the court erred by (1) failing to analyze her request
for a reduction of respondent’s, Jeffery Rothbart, parenting time under both the restriction and
best-interests standards; (2) finding that respondent was a credible witness; (3) determining that
she did not meet her burden showing that respondent’s parenting time should be restricted; and (4)
failing to modify respondent’s parenting time based on the best-interest standard. We conclude the
court did not err in finding respondent credible and in refusing to restrict his parenting time. Moreover, we conclude that the circuit court’s denial of the petition to modify was not against the
manifest weight of the evidence.
¶3 I. BACKGROUND
¶4 On October 9, 2020, the circuit court entered judgment dissolving the parties’ marriage. At
the time of dissolution, the parties shared three minor children, M.R. (born 11/27/2010), N.R. (born
9/12/2013), and E.R. (born 4/15/2015). On June 9, 2020, an allocation judgment (“AJ”) was
entered pertaining to the parental responsibilities and parenting plan for the three children. The AJ
provided respondent with parenting time every other weekend from Thursday (immediately after
school or, if there was no school, at 5 p.m.) to Monday (when school began or, if there was no
school, at 9 a.m.); the Thursday before petitioner’s weekend either beginning after school or, if no
school, at 5 p.m. until Friday when school began or at 9 a.m. if there was no school; and each
Monday after school (or at 4 p.m. if there was no school) until 7 p.m. The children resided with
petitioner outside of this time. The parties are required to use their best efforts to make joint major
decisions; however, petitioner would make a final decision after three weeks of an impasse, and,
if a child visited a therapist, the parties agreed to cooperate with the therapist and meet with him
or her upon request.
¶5 During pre- and post-decree divorce litigation, petitioner obtained three different orders of
protection (OP) against respondent. Most recently, petitioner sought an OP on June 4, 2024, in
response to an incident that occurred on Mother’s Day, where respondent sent text messages to
petitioner in a group chat containing the parties’ three minor children. Within the messages,
respondent used profanity and threatened to call police on petitioner if she was even one minute
late for a custody exchange. Respondent used the children as a conduit to convey his messages to
petitioner. Petitioner testified that the children were so afraid, fearful, and fidgety in response to
-2- the messages they received that they got in the car and waited for petitioner “well before it was
time to go.” On September 13, 2024, the circuit court entered a two-year plenary OP, finding that
respondent engaged in a pattern of inappropriate statements and, ultimately, harassment and abuse,
when respondent used his minor children to threaten petitioner’s arrest.
¶6 New post-decree litigation began on July 16, 2024, with a petition to restrict respondent’s
parenting time (“petition to restrict”). On July 22, 2024, Sally Lichter was appointed as guardian
ad litem (GAL). In between July 2024 and September 4, 2025 (the date of the appealed order), 15
motions were filed and 27 orders were entered by the circuit court. Of note, on August 30, 2024,
petitioner filed a petition to modify respondent’s parenting time and other provisions of the
allocation judgment (“petition to modify”) based on the children’s best interests. In an order filed
on March 17, 2025, the court noted it would be addressing both the petition to modify and petition
to restrict at the June 30, 2025, hearing. On March 28, 2025, petitioner sought to modify the AJ
regarding extracurricular activities.
¶7 On April 3, 2025, petitioner filed an emergency motion to suspend and restrict respondent’s
parenting time regarding E.R. Petitioner argued that respondent was harassing and disparaging
E.R. about her physical appearance, and E.R.’s therapist was already concerned about E.R.’s low
self-esteem, lack of confidence, and risk of developing an eating disorder. Petitioner asserted that,
following spring break, E.R. returned to petitioner’s house upset because respondent disparaged
her at dinner in front of her brothers regarding her weight. Petitioner argued that M.R. and N.R.
emulate respondent’s behavior to such a degree that, following this dinner, E.R. had to do a “weigh-
in.” On April 4, 2025, an agreed order suspended respondent’s parenting time and precluded
respondent from initiating contact with E.R. until April 14, 2025. Then, on April 14, 17, and 21,
respondent would regain parenting time after school until 7 p.m. Thereafter, on April 22, 2025, the
-3- parties agreed to temporarily modify respondent’s parenting time with E.R.—Mondays after
school to 7 p.m., Thursday after school until school drop-off on Friday morning, and alternating
Saturdays from 6 p.m. until Sunday at 6 p.m. This was the parenting schedule for E.R. at the time
of the hearing on the foregoing motions on June 30, 2025, and July 1, 2025.
¶8 Lichter issued her report on June 17, 2025. In the report, Lichter recounted petitioner’s
tumultuous relationship with respondent. Regarding the children, petitioner expressed that M.R.
has been parentified, as he tries to protect both his parents and siblings, yet he is tasked with
enforcing the rules at respondent’s residence. Petitioner attempted to put M.R. in therapy but she
believed that respondent bullied the therapist into discontinuing appointments, and respondent
pushed M.R. out of wanting therapy. Petitioner reported taking E.R. to see a therapist, Roberta
Auslander. Respondent is not supportive of this. Petitioner opined that respondent treats M.R., and
to some extent N.R., like friends and not children. For example, petitioner recounted that
respondent texted a picture to N.R. of a sign placed on his door while respondent hosted a party,
which said, “no fucking in here.” Respondent denied sending the picture; rather, he opined that his
friend took the picture and showed it to the children. Overall, petitioner reported that the children
return from respondent’s house dysregulated, taking up to 48 hours to return to normal. Petitioner
also believed that the children feared retribution from respondent whether by disconnecting their
cell phones or by him calling the police on petitioner. She noted that the children also feared
speaking out against respondent, even to tell the truth.
¶9 Petitioner reported being concerned, especially for E.R., because of developing mental
health issues surrounding food and her “weight issue.” E.R.’s weight was reportedly at the “higher
end of normal.” At the time of the divorce, petitioner recounted that E.R. began sneaking food,
making bad food choices, and exhibiting an emotional connection to food. Petitioner described
-4- that respondent makes comments generally and to E.R. about her weight but fights E.R.’s
participation in dance lessons. Specifically, respondent called E.R. fat and gross in an Our Family
Wizard (OFW) message to petitioner. Petitioner stated N.R. also made comments about E.R. being
fat. In April 2025 (over spring break), respondent noted that he had a “long heart to heart
conversation” with E.R. regarding health concerns. Petitioner reported that, after returning from
spring break, M.R. and N.R. locked E.R. in the bathroom and forced her to get on the scale and
weigh-in. This was immediately after dinner with respondent, where he discussed E.R.’s weight.
In response to these incidents, respondent’s parenting time was reduced. Thereafter, petitioner
reported to Lichter that E.R. had reduced anxiety-driven eating, felt more comfortable, and
appeared happy and confident.
¶ 10 Lichter also interviewed respondent. He reported that both he and petitioner are guilty of
putting M.R. in the middle of disputes. Regarding his temperament, he indicated he had been in
therapy for five years, working on impulsiveness and anger issues. He opined that his
communication with petitioner was “bad,” but a therapist would not improve that; he and petitioner
needed to “do better.” He believed that he and petitioner were “two people that hate each other and
the kids are merely pawns.” However, respondent later testified that he had remorse about how he
handled the Mother’s Day situation. He concluded that he improperly emulated petitioner’s
behavior and “that was a mistake.” Lichter noted that respondent’s inappropriate statements and
behavior persisted despite his alleged therapy; specifically, Lichter described that respondent
attempted to have M.R. and N.R. persuade E.R. to contact him after his parenting time was
suspended; he continued to display anger towards E.R.’s therapist despite knowing it impacted
E.R.; and he reportedly exhibited anger towards restaurant servers.
-5- ¶ 11 Respondent indicated to Lichter that he is the parent that looks out for the children’s safety
and expresses love towards them. For example, he prevented N.R. from participating in tackle
football, despite N.R.’s interest, due to safety concerns, and he cuddled and showed love to the
children more than petitioner. As to respondent’s relationship with E.R.’s therapist, he wished to
discontinue E.R.’s therapy with Dr. Auslander because she is out of network, not helpful, and he
believed that E.R. hated her.
¶ 12 Respondent was upset that petitioner was attempting to modify or restrict his parenting
time, as Monday parenting time was when he was able to do activities with the children that
petitioner did not want to engage in. For example, respondent had a personal trainer for E.R. on
Mondays, but it was, ultimately, discontinued. Regarding E.R.’s health and weight, respondent
complained of E.R.’s inability to walk across a college campus or hike down the Grand Canyon.
Respondent believed that petitioner was to blame for E.R.’s decline in health because she “is eating
her feelings,” “eats an obscene amount of food,” eats only junk food, “is only growing
horizontally,” and lacks coping skills and self-confidence. E.R. reported to Lichter that respondent
called her overweight; respondent denied that allegation. Respondent requested a mental and
physical evaluation be done on E.R., but not by her current therapist or physician. Lichter
expressed concern about respondent’s statements about E.R.’s health and warned it may cause
disordered eating. Instead, Lichter recommended eliminating unhealthy snacks from respondent’s
household and implementing daily exercise with E.R.; however, respondent reportedly did not
have time for this.
¶ 13 Addressing the children’s interviews, Lichter noted that they “volunteered” information
and their responses seemed coached. The children did not want to speak poorly about respondent.
For example, E.R. was protective of respondent and made sure to follow any positive comments
-6- about petitioner, with equitable comments about respondent. Lichter noted that E.R. was a “people
pleaser” due to self-esteem concerns, and she had previously disclosed that she felt “invisible” at
respondent’s house. Lichter reported that E.R. does not confront respondent at his house but was
working with her therapist to discover ways to connect with respondent.
¶ 14 As related to parenting time, Lichter recommended that respondent’s time be reduced to
every other Friday from after school until school drop-off Monday morning and Tuesday nights
beginning after school until school drop-off Wednesday morning. Lichter noted that the present
schedule allotting respondent Monday evenings and a Thursday overnight did not work well and
created a long weekend. She recommended a Tuesday overnight to replace Monday dinners and
Thursday overnight. To justify the change, Lichter cited high conflict communication between the
parties, respondent’s refusal to cooperate with adults who are important to the children, and
respondent’s inability to consider the children’s needs and wants above his own.
¶ 15 In response to Lichter’s report, respondent sent six emails disputing the contents of the
report and challenging her reputation. On July 20, 2025, Lichter filed a supplemental report. There,
she detailed respondent’s disparaging remarks used in his email correspondence and highlighted
his demands that she reconsider the recommendations made in her initial report “or lose [her]
career.” Further, Lichter recounted respondent’s email correspondence with E.R.’s therapist, where
he threatened to report Dr. Auslander to the licensing board unless she stopped seeing E.R. and
cancelled his outstanding balance.
¶ 16 In this new report, Lichter recommended a further reduction in parenting time. For E.R.,
Lichter recommended parenting time from Tuesdays after school to Wednesday at school drop-off
and alternating Saturdays from 6 p.m. until Sundays at 6 p.m. Lichter recommended this schedule
be implemented until E.R.’s therapist believed E.R. was ready for increased time. For M.R. and
-7- N.R., Lichter recommended parenting time from Tuesdays after school to Wednesdays at school
drop-off and alternating Fridays from 6 p.m. until Sunday at 6 p.m. Lichter revised her initial
recommendation because of respondent’s inability to regulate and stabilize his emotions and his
failure to take responsibility for his parenting and communication issues. Moreover, Lichter cited
E.R.’s improvement in emotional regulation, confidence, and decreased emotional snacking since
the reduced parenting-time schedule had been implemented.
¶ 17 On June 30, and July 1, 2025, a hearing was held on several motions filed by the parties.
In its order, the court specifically noted that it was resolving the petition to modify. The petition to
restrict was not specifically listed at the beginning of the order; however, restricting respondent’s
parenting time was discussed at the hearing and referenced throughout the order. In fact, at the
beginning of the hearing, the circuit court was reminded of the petition to restrict and stated that it
would address this petition. The court indicated that it got the pleadings “mixed up” and added the
petition to restrict to its “tally” of reviewable petitions.
¶ 18 At the hearing, respondent testified that he was M.R., N.R., and E.R.’s father, and he and
petitioner divorced in 2020. Respondent testified he had parenting time alternating weekends from
Thursday after school until Monday at 7 p.m. During the weeks he does not have weekend
parenting time, he still has the children on Mondays after school from 4 p.m. until 7 p.m., and
Thursdays after school until Friday morning. Respondent indicated that he works during the week,
and sometimes on weekends, but, during his parenting time, he is often available to his children in
his office. Even when it is not his parenting time, respondent likes to communicate with his
children every morning before school and at night.
¶ 19 Respondent testified that, overall, he was dissatisfied with Lichter. He opined that Lichter
failed to investigate several claims, especially regarding Dr. Auslander, and misrepresented
-8- statements made to her in the report. After Lichter released her report, respondent sent several
emails to her, notifying her that her “sexual orientation should be disqualifying” and that her report
was “materially lacking in investigation and quality and was biased and broke all of the rules of a
GAL.” Respondent also threatened to report Lichter to the Attorney Registration and Disciplinary
Commission and refused to pay for her services without a court order. At the hearing, respondent
affirmed that the substance of his emails was appropriate, and nothing in Lichter’s report caused
him to question his parenting skills. However, he eventually admitted that he is an “abrasive
person” and has a problem with the form in which he communicates but his communication
difficulty does not apply to his children, only the adults he feels have wronged him.
¶ 20 Respondent noted that he had “two-and-a-half” concerns he felt Lichter was not addressing
regarding E.R.—issues with her weight, which impacted her self-confidence; her lack of
friendships; and E.R.’s discomfort in secondhand clothing. Regarding E.R.’s weight, respondent
affirmed that he believed E.R. was overweight and did not get the right kind of exercise. E.R.’s
participation in dance, specifically, was not a rigorous enough form of exercise—“[d]ance is not
exercise. This is a stupid expense.” Nonetheless, E.R. enjoyed the dance classes. Respondent,
ultimately, signed E.R. up for personal training at Pulse. However, E.R.’s participation there was
also not rigorous enough to support her health requirements, so respondent terminated the training
sessions, despite E.R.’s somewhat enjoyment (“like ish”) of the sessions. Respondent then moved
E.R. to another personal training location, which continued for three to four weeks before the
sessions were terminated because E.R. disliked them. Despite respondent’s concerns about E.R.’s
health, he affirmed that he had not discussed his concerns with E.R.’s pediatrician, as he disliked
the pediatrician and believed that petitioner had had a sexual relationship with E.R.’s doctor.
-9- ¶ 21 Respondent conveyed his concerns to Lichter regarding E.R.’s health during spring break.
During the vacation, respondent reported, E.R. struggled with the “normal” amount of walking
that occurred, and E.R. refused to do a one-hour hike at the Grand Canyon. After returning from
vacation, respondent took the children out to dinner and respondent conveyed to E.R. that he was
concerned about her health. E.R. opined that her new personal trainer was too hard, and respondent
stated the hard work was good for her. After dinner, respondent discovered M.R. and N.R. in the
bathroom with E.R., trying to give her a weigh-in. Respondent testified that Lichter’s claims that
E.R. may develop an eating disorder due to the communication around her weight was “a complete
lie.” Following this incident, respondent’s parenting time with E.R. was suspended, and he was
very upset about the decision. Nevertheless, he testified that he read several internet articles about
encouraging healthy choices and intended to implement more healthy choices following E.R.’s
return from camp.
¶ 22 Regarding N.R. and extracurriculars, respondent testified that N.R. participated in park
district basketball and club basketball (with coach, TJ). Respondent wanted to remove N.R. from
club basketball because he did not like TJ or the way he spoke to the children, he found TJ’s
schedule to be problematic, and he believed that petitioner’s practice of leaving two children home
during N.R.’s games was inappropriate because games could last up to six hours. According to
respondent, if it were up to him, N.R. would not participate in club basketball with TJ. N.R. really
enjoyed club basketball and TJ.
¶ 23 Next, respondent expressed his dissatisfaction with E.R.’s therapist, Dr. Auslander. He
believed that therapy was “BS” and that Dr. Auslander and petitioner disparaged him to E.R.
Accordingly, he refused to participate in E.R.’s therapy or take her to therapy during his parenting
time. Moreover, he believed that E.R. did not like her therapist, as she was too old and had not
- 10 - connected to E.R., despite E.R.’s statements, reflected in the GAL report, that she thought Dr.
Auslander was fine. Prior to the June 30 hearing, respondent threatened to report Dr. Auslander to
her licensing board if she did not resign from E.R.’s case. When asked if respondent thought his
behavior was appropriate, he said: “Yes.” In fact, respondent had “no regrets” concerning his
communication with Dr. Auslander, and it was not respondent’s “highest priority” to consider how
his communication with Dr. Auslander impacted her relationship with E.R.
¶ 24 Over the two-day hearing, petitioner also testified. She affirmed that she was M.R., N.R.,
and E.R.’s mother. She divorced respondent, and their only form of communication was on OFW,
as she had an OP against respondent. She believed that her communication with respondent was
not productive, as it was “aggressive, it is usually harassing, and it is unkind.” Petitioner testified
that the children, especially N.R., were emulating respondent’s behavior—speaking in an
aggressive manner, cursing, and breaking rules. Since the conclusion of the divorce and entry of
the AJ, the parenting schedule had not been modified (apart from the temporary modification
regarding E.R.), and she had not discussed the children’s parenting schedule preferences with
them. She noticed, however, that since the temporary order modifying E.R.’s parenting time with
respondent, E.R. had been calmer, her anxiety was reduced, and her demeanor was lighter.
¶ 25 Petitioner testified that all three children have cell phones and communicate with
respondent from those phones. Petitioner does not restrict the children’s communication with
respondent unless she overhears something inappropriate. After spring break, petitioner asked E.R.
to get off the phone after she overheard respondent crying to E.R. on the phone—he was upset and
conveying to E.R. that restricting his parenting time was not what he wanted but what petitioner
and Lichter wanted. E.R. was visibly upset by the phone call.
- 11 - ¶ 26 Petitioner further testified about the children’s extracurricular activities. She noted that
N.R. participated in basketball with the park district and with TJ. N.R. has been doing this since
2021. He loved TJ and smiled whenever he went to practices. Petitioner stated she received
messages from respondent regarding N.R.’s participation in activities, indicating that he “will
protest the activity [TJ basketball] into perpetuity.” As to E.R., she participated in dance. E.R.
appeared excited about dance, and petitioner encouraged her to do dance because it allowed her to
get exercise and socialize. Petitioner was concerned that respondent would forbid E.R. from
participating in dance and that would make her sad.
¶ 27 As to concerns about E.R.’s weight, petitioner testified that she would like E.R. to be
stronger, as she believed it would help “her mind and her body,” but she did not have any concerns
about E.R.’s weight. Petitioner tried to present healthy food options to all her children, but she did
not believe that healthy options were always presented outside of her home. Also, petitioner
overheard respondent make disparaging remarks to E.R. regarding her weight. For instance, when
E.R. asked respondent about obtaining swimsuits from his house for camp, and respondent asked
for the size, he also commented “that is really big, [E.R.].” Petitioner could tell that E.R. was upset
by this statement.
¶ 28 Petitioner also encouraged E.R. to self-advocate and make healthy choices for her mental
health. To encourage positive mental health, petitioner hired E.R. a therapist. Petitioner indicated
that respondent agreed to have E.R. see a therapist but he “wanted no part of it” and would not
take E.R. to therapy during his parenting time. E.R. was aware of this; however, petitioner had
never overheard respondent negatively discussing Dr. Auslander to E.R. Petitioner believed that
Dr. Auslander was helping E.R.; nonetheless, she was concerned that Dr. Auslander would
withdraw from being E.R.’s therapist because of respondent’s behavior.
- 12 - ¶ 29 Lichter also testified at the hearing. Therein, she reiterated the findings of her report and
noted that she did not make any intentional misrepresentations. Lichter appended to her report
respondent’s communications with her and Dr. Auslander “so the Court could fully understand the
flavor of [respondent]’s E-mails that he is vindictive against professionals related to the family[.]”
¶ 30 Regarding the temporary suspension of respondent’s parenting time with E.R., Lichter
recommended the suspension based on the issues with spring break and the “weigh-in” incident
thereafter. Lichter noted that E.R. seemed dysregulated and very upset. Also considered in writing
her report, Lichter received communications showing M.R. and N.R. pressuring E.R. to contact
respondent because he was “extremely emotional” after his parenting time was suspended. Lichter
did not think respondent’s reaction was appropriate, especially in front of his two children. Overall,
Lichter believed that therapy would be beneficial for all the children, but especially N.R., because
weeks after the “weigh-in” incident he had trouble displaying empathy and still thought the
incident was “the funniest thing.” She, however, did not make this recommendation in her report.
Lichter believed that petitioner was better equipped to address these concerns.
¶ 31 Regarding respondent’s general difficulty with impulse control and anger, Lichter noted
that respondent’s behavior impacted the children, especially E.R., as she knows that respondent
does not support her work in therapy. During Lichter’s investigation, she did not see an
improvement in respondent’s impulse control or anger issues; in fact, respondent’s behavior was
worse after she issued her initial report. Further, she did not believe that respondent could
cooperate with Dr. Auslander. Lichter was also concerned by respondent’s detached parenting
style, as he was available to his children if they needed him, but he was less engaged. She noted
that the children were more isolated at respondent’s house and just “doing their own thing.”
- 13 - ¶ 32 As to the children’s relationship with other adults and activities, Lichter was concerned
because respondent wanted to eliminate the people and things that were important to the children
without speaking to them. Respondent appeared to let his opinions dominate over the children’s
interests; however, Lichter indicated that respondent appeared to shield the children from the
extent of his opinions. Lichter had no evidence that respondent discussed Dr. Auslander with E.R.
in a negative light, after the initial report.
¶ 33 Lichter, ultimately, revised her report and recommended parenting schedule because she
witnessed E.R. improve on the more restricted schedule. However, Lichter was impeached with
her earlier deposition testimony that she did not learn anything new about E.R. between the filing
of her initial and supplemental report. Lichter also stated that she revised her report because she
realized, based on respondent’s response to the report, that he was not going to utilize the report
as a tool to improve his parenting style but, rather, he would reject the report whole cloth. Lichter
did not reinterview the parties or the children before revising her report and testified she did not
issue the supplemental report to retaliate against respondent. Lichter reaffirmed at the hearing that
her recommendations in the supplemental report were appropriate, as respondent’s testimony was
not self-reflective as to the discussed parenting concerns. However, she admitted that a restriction
in parenting time required a finding of serious endangerment, which was not discussed in her initial
report.
¶ 34 On September 4, 2025, the circuit court issued a 15-page detailed written order. Therein,
the court found that the supplemental report may have been reactive, but important. It stated that
respondent’s messages to petitioner on OFW were “inappropriate, disrespectful, and accusatory,”
and his reaction to Lichter’s report was “poor,” despite failing to read the document in its entirety.
Respondent’s behavior towards others was “very concerning”; he showed “complete disdain”
- 14 - toward petitioner and Dr. Auslander, and there was evidence that the children were aware of this.
Evidence showed that respondent “does not hide his comments about [petitioner] or any other adult
he dislikes to the children.” Further, the court considered respondent’s admission that he was an
abrasive person who directed his ire towards adults he felt wronged him. The court stated, it “has
had ample opportunity to monitor [respondent’s] disposition, observe his bullying nature, listen to
his nonstop comments and witness his disrespectful arrogance in open Court.” The court noted it
never received evidence that respondent was participating in anger-management or impulse-
control classes, and it was surprising that respondent would lash out against Lichter, if he were
involved in those classes. The court believed that respondent needed assistance with his behavior
because his constant communication with the children during petitioner’s parenting time was
disruptive and his communication with Dr. Auslander was not in E.R.’s best interests.
Nevertheless, the court found respondent, and all other witnesses, credible.
¶ 35 Next, the court found that the minor children volunteered their position in favor of equal
parenting time at the behest of respondent. The court noted it was “undisputed” that E.R. was
experiencing issues related to food and her mental health. In the court’s assessment, petitioner did
“essentially all” the caretaking, the children work better together at her house, petitioner managed
the extracurricular schedule, and petitioner showed she was more willing to place the needs of the
children above her own. Conversely, the court expressed concerns about respondent’s mental
health and implored him to make his children’s needs a priority and avoid taking his aggression
out on the adults in his children’s lives. The court found that respondent demonstrated that he
placed his own needs above his children by not taking them to appointments and activities and not
wanting them to participate in an activity because of his own misgivings. Also, respondent did not
care how his actions towards the adults in his children’s lives impacted his children.
- 15 - ¶ 36 In sum, the court ordered an adjustment in respondent’s decision-making responsibility for
extracurriculars, imposed a parenting coordinator, and referred respondent to anger-management
counseling because respondent’s conduct toward petitioner—communicating with his children
about the potential arrest of petitioner—“seriously endanger[ed] the minor children’s mental
health” and “significantly impaired the child’s emotional development.” However, the court
refused to restrict or modify respondent’s parenting time, as respondent’s behavior “has not
impacted the children enough to rise to the level of a restriction in parenting time,” and there had
not been a substantial change in circumstances to warrant a modification of parenting time.
Accordingly, the court reinstated respondent’s parenting time as to all the children to alternating
weekends from Thursday after school until Monday at 7 p.m., and, during the weeks he does not
have weekend parenting time, Mondays after school from 4 p.m. until 7 p.m., and Thursdays after
school until Friday morning.
¶ 37 Petitioner timely appealed, seeking reversal of the September 4 order and any other
underlying orders.
¶ 38 II. ANALYSIS
¶ 39 On appeal, petitioner argues that the circuit court erred where, (1) it failed to assess her
petition to modify respondent’s parenting time under the best-interests standard; (2) it found that
respondent was a credible witness; (3) it concluded that she failed to meet her burden showing
respondent’s parenting time should be restricted; and (4) it failed to find a substantial change in
circumstances that warranted a modification of respondent’s parenting time under the best-
interests standard.
¶ 40 Prior to discussing petitioner’s arguments, we must address the timeliness of this decision.
This case is designated as “accelerated” pursuant to Illinois Supreme Court Rule 311(a) (eff. July
- 16 - 1, 2018), because it involves a matter affecting the allocation of parenting time. Rule 311(a)(5)
provides, in relevant part, that “[e]xcept for good cause shown, the appellate court shall issue its
decision within 150 days after the filing of the notice of appeal.” Id. In this case, petitioner filed
her notice of appeal on October 1, 2025. Thus, the 150-day period to issue our decision expired on
March 2, 2025. We note, however, that petitioner was allowed to supplement the record with an
additional motion and the record materials from case Nos. 24-OP-1377, 22-OP-226, 20-OP-028,
and 19-D-776, and, on December 10, 2025, respondent was granted an extension of time to file his
responsive brief. As such, a revised briefing schedule was entered, allowing respondent until
December 31, 2025, to file his brief and petitioner until January 14, 2026, to file her reply brief.
Importantly, both parties also requested oral argument in this case, and the case was docketed and
heard on March 12, 2026. As a result of the foregoing, the case was not submitted for a decision
until after oral argument. Since the case was not ready for disposition until after March 12, 2026,
we find good cause for issuing our decision beyond the 150-day deadline. See In re B’Yata I., 2013
IL App (2d) 130558, ¶ 26 (finding good cause where the briefs were filed after the initial briefing
deadlines but one week before the 150-day deadline); In re Marriage of Mayes, 2018 IL App (4th)
180149, ¶ 53 (finding good cause where accommodating requests for oral argument delayed the
filing of the decision).
¶ 41 A. Jurisdiction
¶ 42 Next, we must address whether we have jurisdiction to hear this appeal. Respondent argues
that we lack jurisdiction and must dismiss the appeal because, contrary to local rule, petitioner
failed to confirm that no other post-dissolution matter was pending in the circuit court at the time
of her appeal. See Ill. App. Ct., Second Dist., R. 114 (Oct. 4, 2022). In particular, respondent
argues that two matters were pending at the time of the appeal: (1) a petition for rule to show cause
- 17 - filed August 8, 2025, and (2) the petition to restrict filed July 16, 2024. Specifically, as to the
petition to restrict, respondent alleges that the court made no mention of the petition in the
September 4 order being appealed; thus, there is no final order to appeal, and its unresolved nature
impacts the court’s ability to finally resolve the petition to modify, as the petition to restrict and
petition to modify seek to alter identical provisions regarding respondent’s parenting time.
Moreover, respondent argues that petitioner failed to show how Illinois Supreme Court Rule
304(b)(6) was the basis for jurisdiction, where there was no final order on the two unadjudicated
petitions. Ill. S. Ct. R. 304(b)(6) (eff. Mar. 8, 2016).
¶ 43 Petitioner asserts that respondent’s reliance on the local rules for jurisdiction is misplaced.
Further, petitioner argues that her jurisdictional statement complies with Illinois Supreme Court
Rule 341(h)(4)(ii) and establishes jurisdiction pursuant to Rule 304(b)(6). See id.; Ill. S. Ct. R.
341(h)(4)(ii) (eff. Oct. 1, 2020). Specifically, petitioner asserts that the circuit court’s statements,
findings, final order, and the parties’ actions throughout the proceeding make clear that both the
petition to restrict and petition to modify were finally resolved. We agree with petitioner; we have
jurisdiction to address this appeal.
¶ 44 First, petitioner’s compliance or noncompliance with Local Rule 114 does not strip this
court of jurisdiction. Illinois Supreme Court Rule 22(h) (eff. Jan. 1, 2026) authorizes appellate
courts to adopt local rules governing criminal and civil cases within their jurisdiction. These rules,
however, must be consistent with existing statutes and supreme court rules. Id. It is well-settled
that local rules may not conflict with supreme court rules, change the substantive law, or impose
additional substantive burdens on litigants. Vision Point of Sale, Inc. v. Haas, 226 Ill. 2d 334, 357
(2007). Local Rule 114 does not confer jurisdiction, nor restrict the court’s jurisdiction. See Ill.
App. Ct., Second Dist., R. 114 (Oct. 4, 2022).
- 18 - ¶ 45 Generally, our jurisdiction is limited to the review of appeals from final judgments, unless
otherwise permitted under the supreme court rules or by statute. Puleo v. McGladrey & Pullen,
315 Ill. App. 3d 1041, 1043 (2000) (“Appellate jurisdiction is restricted to reviewing final
judgments unless the order to be reviewed comes within one of the exceptions for interlocutory
orders specified by our supreme court.”). Rule 304(b)(6) is one such exception that allows for the
interlocutory appeal of child custody or parental responsibility allocation orders. See Ill. S. Ct. R.
304(b)(6) (eff. Mar. 8, 2016). Thus, petitioner properly established that this court has jurisdiction.
Petitioner’s order appealed here, relating to the restriction or modification of respondent’s parental
responsibilities, which includes parenting time, falls within Rule 304(b)(6). See 750 ILCS 5/600
et seq. (West 2022). Accordingly, a final order as to all the claims raised in the case is not required.
Ill. S. Ct. R. 304(a), (b)(6) (eff. Mar. 8, 2016). Rather, it is only necessary that the circuit court
addressed both the petition to restrict and petition to modify because resolution of one, without the
other, would call into question the finality of the parental custody order. Here, however, this is not
an issue. Although the circuit court failed to expressly mention in its order that it was addressing
both the petition to restrict and the petition to modify, a thorough reading of the court’s September
4 order, the March 17, 2025, setting order, and the hearing transcripts make clear that the court
addressed both petitions. For instance, the court expressly addressed petitioner’s petition to
modify; however, it also found that respondent’s behavior “has not impacted the children enough
to rise to the level of a restriction in parenting time.” The court was even reminded in opening
remarks that it was addressing the petition to restrict during the hearing and made note of such.
Additionally, in count II of the petition to restrict, petitioner asked the court to impose anger-
management and parenting counseling on respondent. Respondent concedes that the petition to
restrict was addressed, insomuch as “the Court effectively granted the relief [petitioner] requested
- 19 - in Count II of her Petitioner to Restrict.” Finally, in an order filed on March 17, 2025, the court
expressly noted it would be addressing both petitions at the June 30 hearing. Accordingly, we
agree with petitioner that we have jurisdiction to hear the present appeal.
¶ 46 B. Credible Witness
¶ 47 Turning to the merits of the appeal, petitioner first asserts that the circuit court’s finding
that respondent was a credible witness was against the manifest weight of the evidence, as his
testimony was contradictory; his demeanor was “frequently reactive, hyperbolic, illogical, hostile,
and often reached broad sweeping conclusions on important issues”; and he evinced an
unwillingness to follow court orders. In response, respondent argues that the circuit court was in
the best position to judge credibility, thus, this court should not substitute its judgment for that of
the circuit court. We agree with respondent.
¶ 48 Credibility determinations are within the sole purview of the trier of fact, and we will not
substitute our judgment for that of the circuit court. In re Marriage of Stuhr, 2016 IL App (1st)
152370, ¶ 69; Vician v. Vician, 2016 IL App (2d) 160022, ¶ 29. “A reviewing court will defer to
the trial court’s findings because the trial court, ‘by virtue of its ability to actually observe the
conduct and demeanor of witnesses, is in the best position to assess their credibility.’ ” In re
Marriage of Manker, 35 Ill. App. 3d 465, 477 (2007) (quoting In re Commitment of Sandry, 367
Ill. App. 3d 949, 980 (2006)). A court’s finding of witness credibility may only be overturned if it
is against the manifest weight of the evidence. In re Marriage of Meadow, 256 Ill. App. 3d 115,
117 (1993). “A judgment is against the manifest weight of the evidence only when the opposite
conclusion is apparent or when the judgment is arbitrary, unreasonable, or not based on the
evidence.” Vician, 2016 IL App (2d) 160022, ¶ 27. Accordingly, we will affirm the judgment if the
record contains evidence to support the circuit court’s findings. Id.
- 20 - ¶ 49 Here, the court found that all witnesses were credible, including respondent. The circuit
court had years of experience working with petitioner and respondent, and, in the last year working
with the parties, the court issued 27 orders and reviewed 15 motions or petitions. With this
experience in mind, the court found that respondent was a credible witness.
¶ 50 Petitioner asserts that respondent should not have been found to be credible because of his
abrasive personality and temperament, citing In re Marriage of Stoker, 2021 IL App (5th)
200301, ¶ 70, and inability to follow court orders. However, Stoker does not stand for the
proposition for which it has been cited. There, the reviewing court did not evaluate the
temperaments of the parties and overturn the circuit court’s credibility finding; rather, the Stoker
court recited the following axiom: “It is well established that credibility determinations should be
left to the trial court, as it is in the best position to observe the personalities and temperaments of
the parties and assess their relative credibility when there is conflicting testimony on issues of
fact.” Id. Here, the court followed this well-settled principle. The court noted the extent to which
it had worked with the parties; the temperament of the witnesses; and behaviors the parties
exhibited that negatively or positively impacted their children, when it considered the credibility
of the witnesses. The court witnessed respondent’s testimony and reviewed his communications
with petitioner, the GAL, and Dr. Auslander. The court was also familiar with respondent’s
communications with petitioner before and after the entry of a plenary OP resulting from the
Mother’s Day incident. The fact that the circuit court found respondent to be credible is not
invalidated by the fact that the court also remarked on respondent’s bullying nature, constant
comments, and disrespectful arrogance. A witness’s believability and honesty is not synonymous
with his or her likability. Rather, in spite of these negative characteristics of respondent, the court
still found him credible. It was not unreasonable for the court to find respondent credible, despite
- 21 - his surly nature. In fact, his unvarnished honesty could have contributed to the court finding him
credible.
¶ 51 Next, petitioner asserts that respondent offered baseless opinions to the court and presented
contradictory evidence, which should have negatively impacted his credibility. First, the court
heard evidence about respondent’s opinions as to petitioner, Dr. Auslander, TJ, and the GAL. The
court was free to accept or reject all or some of respondent’s opinions about those individuals. See
In re Marriage of Patel and Sines-Patel, 2013 IL App (1st) 112571, ¶ 78 (noting that it is within
the function of the court to accept or reject witness testimony). Here, it is evident that the court
rejected some of respondent’s opinions based on its written findings and because it granted several
forms of relief in petitioner’s favor. Nonetheless, the court’s apparent rejection of respondent’s
opinions regarding the adults in his children’s lives does not invalidate the court’s finding that,
overall, respondent was a credible witness. Id.
¶ 52 As to any potential contradictory statements made by respondent, it was not unreasonable
for the court to find respondent credible despite any contradictions. Here, petitioner highlights
instances where the court questioned respondent’s credibility—noting that respondent testified that
he did not initiate conversations with the children about parenting time yet, in an email, respondent
indicated that he did initiate a conversation on that topic, and respondent’s testimony contradicted
another credible witness. We emphasize that it is not this court’s role to second-guess a circuit
court’s resolution of conflicts between contradictory evidence, nor does the conflicting nature of
the evidence render the outcome unreasonable. Chicago Title Land Trust Co. v. JS II, LLC, 2012
IL App (1st) 063420, ¶ 31. Accordingly, we will not reweigh the evidence here.
¶ 53 Finally, the court discussed evidence that supports its finding that respondent was a credible
witness. Although the court recognized respondent’s abrasive nature, it also believed respondent’s
- 22 - testimony that his ire was directed at the “adults that [respondent] feels have wronged him.” The
court recognized that the initial GAL report did not find any evidence of physical violence, serious
endangerment to the children, or pattern of abuse against the children. Lichter also concluded that
respondent appeared to shield his children from the extent of his opinions. The circuit court was
in the best position to judge the credibility of respondent because it was able to hear his testimony,
observe his demeanor, and witness his conduct. In re Commitment of Sandry, 367 Ill App. 3d 949,
980 (2006). Here, there is sufficient evidence to support the circuit court’s finding that respondent
was credible. Overall, petitioner presents no compelling reason for us to reweigh respondent’s
testimony and substitute our judgment for that of the circuit court.
¶ 54 C. Petition to Modify
¶ 55 Next, as to the petition to modify, petitioner asserts that the circuit court erred when it
denied her petition. Specifically, petitioner argues that the circuit court improperly determined that
there was not a substantial change in circumstances that warranted a reduction of respondent’s
parenting time, and the court also failed to address the modification of respondent’s parenting time
under the best-interests standard. See 750 ILCS 5/610.5(c) (West 2022). Alternatively, petitioner
asserts that, to the extent the best-interests standard was addressed, the court’s findings were
contrary to the manifest weight of the evidence. Respondent argues that petitioner’s arguments are
founded on mistaken premises, contradict themselves, improperly go beyond the relief requested
in the petition to modify, violate Rule 341 and should be forfeited, and have no merit.
¶ 56 Of note, the record and findings of the court, regarding the petition to modify and petition
to restrict, are not clear. As indicated throughout this disposition, the court reviewed multiple
pleadings with various standards and burdens of proof, many of which overlap, within the same
hearing. As a result, these petitions and their sub-issues were ripe for conflation. We are mindful
- 23 - of the court’s busy docket and pursuit of judicial economy and the complexity of the statutes
involved; however, it is essential, in cases such as this, that the court holds each party to his or her
appropriate burden and makes specific findings addressing those individualized burdens.
¶ 57 With the foregoing in mind, we are compelled to first address the legal standard by which
petitioner’s claims should be addressed. Here, the petition to modify is framed as a modification
of the AJ and not just a change to parenting time. Both parties also address this issue in terms of
requiring a substantial change in circumstances, thus, conceding section 610.5(c) applies. We agree
with the application of this standard. See In re Marriage of Trapkus, 2022 IL App (3d) 190631, ¶¶
21-29 (holding that the substantial-change standard set forth in section 610.5(c) of the Act applies
to a request for the modification of a parenting plan, including sections relating to parenting time);
accord Reynolds v. Reynolds, 2025 IL App (2d) 240028, ¶¶ 7, 32 (seeking only to modify parenting
time and not the parenting plan or allocation judgment). Section 610.5(c) of the Illinois Marriage
and Dissolution of Marriage Act (Act). (750 ILCS 5/610.5(c) (West 2022)) provides:
“(c) Except in a case concerning the modification of any restriction of parental
responsibilities under Section 603.10, the court shall modify a parenting plan or allocation
judgment when necessary to serve the child’s best interests if the court finds, by a
preponderance of the evidence, that on the basis of facts that have arisen since the entry of
the existing parenting plan or allocation judgment or were not anticipated therein, a
substantial change has occurred in the circumstances of the child or of either parent and
that a modification is necessary to serve the child’s best interests.” (Emphasis added.) Id.
¶ 58 The allocation of parenting time and modification of a parenting plan is within the
discretion of the circuit court. Accordingly, we provide great deference to the court when
reviewing the modification of a parenting plan because it is in the best position to assess witness
- 24 - credibility and determine the child’s best interests. In re Marriage of Wendy L. D. & George T.
D., III, 2017 IL App (1st) 160098, ¶ 76. We will overturn a court’s finding that no substantial
change occurred, warranting a change to the parenting plan, under the manifest-weight-of-the-
evidence standard. In re Marriage of Wengielnik, 2020 IL App (3d) 180533, ¶ 12 (holding that
“[w]hen the trial court finds that no substantial change in circumstances has occurred, we review
whether the manifest weight of the evidence supports the finding”). Illinois law requires the court
to consider the totality of the circumstances. In re Marriage of Trapkus, 2022 IL App (3d) 190631,
¶ 33. A judgment is against the manifest weight of the evidence only when the opposite conclusion
is apparent or when the judgment is arbitrary, unreasonable, or not based on the evidence. Vician,
2016 IL App (2d) 160022, ¶ 27.
¶ 59 1. Substantial Change in Circumstances
¶ 60 Respondent asserts that petitioner’s claims have been forfeited because she failed to
sufficiently comply with Rule 341. Ill. S. Ct. R. 341 (eff. Oct. 1, 2020). Specifically, respondent
asserts that petitioner’s brief is disorganized, lacks citation to the record and authority, fails to
include a “Statutes Involved” section, and impermissibly cites an unpublished decision. While we
agree with respondent in some regards, he also largely places form over function. Petitioner does
support each argument with some citations to authority and citations to the record. She also
includes the relevant statutes in the appendix of her brief. Overall, any improper citations to
authority will be disregarded, and we will not find petitioner’s arguments forfeited. See Chaudhary
v. Department of Human Services, 2021 IL App (2d) 200364, ¶ 37 (noting that forfeiture is a
limitation on the parties and not this court; we may “overlook forfeiture and address the merits of
an issue to obtain a just result or maintain a sound and uniform body of precedent”).
- 25 - ¶ 61 The first prong of section 610.5(c) requires petitioner to show that a substantial change in
circumstances has occurred. The court noted that it had ample time throughout these proceedings
to “observe [respondent’s] bullying nature, listen to his nonstop comments and witness his
disrespectful arrogance in open Court ***.” Thereafter, the court conflated the petitions, yet,
expressly found there had not been a substantial change in circumstances to warrant a modification
of parenting time because respondent’s behavior had been consistent and “at present, has not
impacted the children enough to rise to the level of a restriction in parenting time.” We disagree
with the court’s finding that there has not been a substantial change in circumstances and conclude
that respondent’s conduct, detailed below, coupled with the court’s findings, resulting from the
issuance of the plenary order of protection—that respondent seriously endangered the children and
significantly impaired their mental health—was more than sufficient to meet the substantial change
predicate required in section 610.5(c).
¶ 62 As mentioned in the court’s order, on April 3, 2025, petitioner filed an emergency motion
to suspend respondent’s parenting time. Petitioner filed the motion in response to E.R.’s recounting
of her spring break and “weigh-in” thereafter, which left E.R. distraught. Assuming respondent’s
testimony is credible, the record showed that, after spring break, an incident occurred that
concerned respondent and E.R. During the vacation, respondent reported to Lichter that E.R.
struggled with the “normal” amount of walking that occurred, and E.R. refused to do a one-hour
hike at the Grand Canyon. After returning from vacation, respondent took the children out to dinner
and E.R. indicated that her new personal trainer was too hard. Respondent conveyed to E.R. that
he was concerned about her health, and he believed the hard work was good for her. After dinner,
while respondent was doing laundry, he heard E.R. scream and he, subsequently, found M.R. and
N.R. in the bathroom with E.R., trying to give her a “weigh-in.” Respondent testified that Lichter’s
- 26 - claims that E.R. may develop an eating disorder due to the communication around her weight was
“a complete lie.” However, the court found that it was “undisputed” that E.R. was “experiencing
some issues as it relates to eating which also coincides with mental health and is currently seeing
a therapist,” and that E.R. felt invisible at respondent’s home. As a result of granting the emergency
motion, E.R.’s parenting time with respondent was temporarily reduced after the spring break
incidents, and both petitioner and Dr. Auslander reported that E.R. was less anxious and more
relaxed after reducing respondent’s parenting time.
¶ 63 Thereafter, the court recounted that respondent agreed to suspend his parenting time until
April 14, 2025. On April 22, 2025, the parties agreed to temporarily modify respondent’s parenting
time with E.R.—Mondays after school to 7 p.m., Thursday after school until school drop-off on
Friday morning, and alternating Saturdays from 6 p.m. until Sunday at 6 p.m.
¶ 64 The court also noted, between the filing of the AJ and the June 30 hearing, petitioner
obtained several OPs against respondent. Closest in time to the hearing, the court entered a plenary
OP on September 13, 2024, resulting from the Mother’s Day incident. There, respondent messaged
his children in a group chat with petitioner and used the children as a conduit to threaten police
action against petitioner if she was late for a custody exchange. Petitioner testified that the children
were so afraid, fearful, and fidgety in response to the messages they received that they got in the
car and waited for petitioner “well before it was time to go.” As to this instance, the court found
that respondent “significantly impaired the child[ren]’s emotional development because he was
communicating with the children about the potential arrest of their Mother,” and respondent
“seriously endanger[ed] the minor children’s mental health.” (Emphases added.) These findings
were the basis for the court’s order modifying respondent’s parental responsibilities, requiring him
to complete anger-management counseling, and imposing a parental coordinator. Additionally, the
- 27 - court found there is evidence that respondent’s poor treatment of petitioner has continued. The
court classified respondent’s attitude towards petitioner as “complete disdain” and noted that
evidence showed that the children were aware of respondent’s dislike of petitioner; “he does not
hide his comments about [petitioner] or any other adult he dislikes to the children.”
¶ 65 Finally, as the court found, respondent has refused to take his children to an activity or
appointment, or sought discontinuation of an activity, because he does not like the associated adult.
For example, since the entry of the AJ (around September 2024), E.R. started seeing Dr. Auslander.
Since that time, respondent has made E.R. aware that he will not take her to appointments with Dr.
Auslander. Respondent also behaved disdainfully towards Dr. Auslander, and he testified he
believed his behavior was appropriate. In fact, respondent had “no regrets” concerning his
communication with Dr. Auslander, and it was not respondent’s “highest priority” to consider how
his communication with Dr. Auslander impacted her relationship with E.R. Respondent also
testified that he does not like the children’s pediatrician, so he avoids taking his children to the
doctor’s office “if [he] can avoid it.” Further, respondent does not like N.R.’s basketball coach,
because of his alleged use of profanity around the children, and respondent testified that, if it were
up to him, N.R. would not do basketball with coach TJ. These instances led the court to believe
that “[respondent] does not care about the effect of his action towards an adult with [sic] have one
on [sic] of his children.”
¶ 66 Despite the myriad of negative behavior cited above, the circuit court did not find there
was sufficient evidence of a substantial change in circumstances. We disagree. The record before
us establishes a substantial change in circumstances, thus, we conclude that the court unreasonably
found that no substantial change in circumstances occurred. First, the respondent weaponized his
children, thereby seriously impairing the children’s emotional development and seriously
- 28 - endangering the children’s mental health, to harass petitioner, and, in response to this evidence,
the circuit court reasonably made changes to respondent’s parental responsibilities, ordered him to
complete anger-management counseling, and imposed a parenting coordinator. This alone should
have substantiated a substantial change in circumstances, and it was unreasonable for the court to
find differently.
¶ 67 Nonetheless, there is more evidence that shows the court’s determination—that there was
no substantial change in circumstances—was unreasonable. The totality of the evidence shows that
respondent’s “bullying nature” and “disrespectful arrogance” towards other adults in his children’s
lives has already impacted his children to some degree, even just in the time between the AJ and
the June 30 hearing, and respondent does not care about the extent to which his actions will impact
his children’s lives in the future. Specifically, as to E.R., the record reflects that respondent is
discouraging healthy outlets for E.R. that she enjoys—therapy and dance—leaving her to deal with
her issues in ways only respondent finds acceptable. Further, even taking respondent’s account of
the spring break incidents as credible, the record reflects that E.R.’s extended presence at
respondent’s home with respondent and her brothers has negatively impacted her. In light of the
foregoing, it is clearly apparent that respondent’s behavior has negatively impacted his children,
especially E.R., reflecting a substantial change in circumstances.
¶ 68 In total, the circuit court had the foregoing new information in front of it—the court found
that respondent’s behavior seriously impaired the children’s emotional development, determined
that respondent’s behavior toward petitioner seriously endangered the children’s mental health,
stated that respondent failed to consider his children’s needs above his own, and considered that
respondent did not care about the fallout from his behavior towards adults and how it would impact
his children—and, thus, unreasonably concluded that respondent’s behavior did not constitute a
- 29 - substantial change in circumstances that warranted further review. We cannot conclude that the
court’s determinations were reasonable based on the evidence or its own findings. Accordingly,
we conclude that respondent’s behavior since the entry of the AJ constituted a substantial change
in circumstances.
¶ 69 2. Best-Interests Standard
¶ 70 Petitioner argues that the circuit court failed to apply the best-interests standard to her
petition to modify or, alternatively, to the extent that it did apply the best-interests standard, its
ruling was against the manifest weight of the evidence. Respondent contends that petitioner’s
arguments are contradictory and not against the manifest weight of the evidence. We conclude that
the court’s ruling was not against the manifest weight of the evidence.
¶ 71 Allocation of parenting time within the parenting plan is to be determined based on the
children’s best interests. 750 ILCS 5/602.7 (West 2022). In determining the children’s best
interests, the court is required to consider all relevant factors, including: (1) the wishes of each
parent; (2) the wishes of the children (taking into account maturity level); (3) the amount of time
each parent spent performing caretaking functions for the children in the 24 months preceding the
filing of any petition for allocation of parental responsibilities; (4) any prior agreement or course
of conduct between the parents relating to the caretaking of the children; (5) the interaction and
interrelationship of the children with their parents; (6) the children’s adjustment to their home,
school, and community; (7) the mental and physical health of all individuals involved; (8) the
children’s needs; (9) the distance between the parties’ residences, transportation, schedules, and
the ability of the parents to cooperate in the arrangement; (10) whether a restriction on parenting
time is appropriate; (11) any physical violence or threat of physical violence by the children’s
parent directed against a child; (12) the willingness and ability of each parent to place the children’s
- 30 - needs ahead of his or her needs; (13) the willingness and ability of each parent to facilitate and
encourage a close and continuing relationship between the other parent and the children; (14) any
occurrence of child abuse; (15) whether one of the parents is a convicted sex offender or lives with
a convicted sex offender; (16) either parents military family-care plan; and (17) any other relevant
factor. Id. § 602.7(b).
¶ 72 We find petitioner’s arguments that the court failed to address the best-interests standard
and that the court’s best-interests analysis was against the manifest weight of the evidence to be
alternative claims for relief. And although the court did not expressly identify the petitions it
considered in assessing the children’s best interests, the circuit court broadly considered the best
interests of the parties’ children in addressing all of petitioner’s and respondent’s claims for relief.
Accordingly, we assess whether the court’s best-interests findings were against the manifest weight
of the evidence and conclude that the circuit court’s decision not to modify the parenting plan to
reduce respondent’s parenting time was not unreasonable.
¶ 73 Petitioner’s arguments essentially ask this court to reweigh the evidence and reassess the
witnesses’ credibility, which we will not do. In re Marriage of Gorr, 2025 IL App (3d) 230412, ¶
46. The court thoroughly considered the presented evidence and drafted a detailed order that
corresponds to the factors outlined in section 602.7, including, but not limited to, the parties’ and
the children’s wishes; the mental health of the children, and the behavioral pathologies and self-
centered nature of respondent; the ability of the parents to cooperate; the level of conflict between
the parties that affects their ability to cooperate; the function of the children, especially at
petitioner’s house; each parent’s past participation in decision-making and caretaking functions;
prior agreements and course of conduct between the parents; the willingness and ability of each
parent to facilitate and encourage a close and continuing relationship between the other parent and
- 31 - the children; the interaction and interrelationship of the children with his or her parents, including
respondent’s care and concern for his children and his description of positive aspects of his
relationship with his children; whether a restriction on parenting time is appropriate; and the
willingness and ability of each parent to place the children’s needs ahead of his or her needs.
Overall, the court found both that respondent was not entitled to equal parenting time and that
petitioner failed to meet her burden to further reduce respondent’s parenting time within the
parenting plan. We will not step into the circuit court’s shoes and simply reweigh the evidence or
reassess witness credibility because the testimony of the witnesses could support a different
outcome. Id. This record contains sufficient support for the court’s findings that modification of
the parenting plan to reduce respondent’s parenting time was not in the children’s best interests.
¶ 74 D. Petition to Restrict
¶ 75 Finally, petitioner asserts that the circuit court erred in finding that respondent’s parenting
time should not be restricted because respondent’s behavior towards petitioner and other adults
has “not impacted the children enough to rise to the level of a restriction in parenting time.”
Petitioner claims that respondent exhibited a pattern of behavior that “seriously endangered the
minor children’s mental, moral, or physical health and/or significantly impaired the minor
children’s emotional development.” In response, respondent asserts that petitioner’s arguments are
(1) forfeited, as her petition to restrict was not adjudicated; (2) the court knew and properly applied
the law; and, (3) even if serious endangerment was found, the court properly exercised discretion
in denying the reduction in parenting time and, instead, ordering respondent to attend weekly
therapy for anger management. We agree with respondent’s third point and conclude that the circuit
court did not abuse its discretion in refusing to reduce respondent’s parenting time.
- 32 - ¶ 76 For the reasons discussed herein, this issue is not forfeited as it was addressed by the circuit
court at the June 30 hearing and included sufficiently in the September 4 order. Additionally,
petitioner has made some arguments and cited some relevant case law and portions of the record.
See Chaudhary, 2021 IL App (2d) 200364, ¶ 37.
¶ 77 As to the merits of the petition to restrict, section 603.10(a) of the Act provides for the
restriction of parental responsibility, decision making, and parenting time because of a parent’s
conduct. 750 ILCS 5/603.10(a)(1), (8) (West 2022). This section states:
“After a hearing, if the court finds by a preponderance of the evidence that a parent
engaged in any conduct that seriously endangered the child’s mental, moral, or physical
health or that significantly impaired the child’s emotional development, the court shall
enter orders as necessary to protect the child. Such orders may include, but are not limited
to, orders for one or more of the following:
(1) a reduction, elimination, or other adjustment of the parent’s decision-
making responsibilities or parenting time, or both decision-making responsibilities
and parenting time;
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(8) requiring a parent to complete a treatment program for perpetrators of
abuse, for drug or alcohol abuse, or for other behavior that is the basis for restricting
parental responsibilities under this Section[.]” Id.
¶ 78 Restricting parenting time is a two-step process. First, the circuit court must find by a
preponderance of the evidence that the non-moving parent has “engaged in any conduct that
seriously endangered the child’s mental, moral, or physical health or that significantly impaired
the child’s emotional development.” Id. This standard has been described as an “onerous, stringent,
- 33 - and rigorous,” as liberal parenting time is the rule and restrictions are the exception. In re
Parentage of J.W., 2013 IL 114817, ¶ 43; Heldebrandt v. Heldebrandt, 251 Ill. App. 3d 950, 957,
(1993). If the court finds the evidence is sufficient to show serious endangerment to the child, then
it must then enter orders necessary to protect the child. Id. The court must exercise its discretion
in selecting appropriate restrictions to parenting responsibilities to provide for the child’s safety
and welfare. See 750 ILCS 5/603.10(a)(1)-(9) (West 2022).
¶ 79 Circuit courts are “vested with wide discretion in resolving visitation issues.” In re
Marriage of Minix, 344 Ill. App. 3d 801, 803 (2003). As to the circuit court’s finding of serious
endangerment, we review whether the court’s finding is against the manifest weight of the
evidence. In re Marriage of Mayes, 2018 IL App (4th) 180149, ¶ 59. A ruling is against the
manifest weight of the evidence when the opposite conclusion is clearly evident. Vician, 2016 IL
App (2d) 160022, ¶ 27. We review the circuit court’s determination that certain restrictions are
necessary for an abuse of discretion. In re Marriage of Mayes, 2018 IL App (4th) 180149, ¶ 61.
The court abuses its discretion when its ruling is arbitrary, fanciful, or unreasonable or where no
reasonable person would take the view adopted by the trial court. In re Marriage of Hipes, 2023
IL App (1st) 230953, ¶ 54.
¶ 80 The first step in the analysis is to determine whether respondent “engaged in any conduct
that seriously endangered the child’s mental, moral, or physical health or that significantly
impaired the child’s emotional development.” (Emphasis added.) 750 ILCS 5/603.10(a) (West
2022). Of note, in this part of the analysis, respondent’s conduct need not be categorized as
specifically impacting decision making or parenting time to support a decision imposing
restrictions in those areas. It is enough that he exhibited conduct that either seriously endangered
or significantly impaired his children in any of these areas. Here, regarding respondent’s decision-
- 34 - making responsibilities, the court found by a preponderance of the evidence that respondent’s
conduct stemming from the Mother’s Day incident “significantly impaired the child[ren]’s
emotional development because [respondent] was communicating with the children about the
potential arrest of their Mother.” Moreover, the court found that “[respondent]’s conduct towards
[petitioner] seriously endangers the minor children’s mental health.” Accordingly, the court
determined that petitioner satisfied the seriously-endangered element. Nothing in the record
compels us to substitute our judgment for that of the circuit court, as the court’s determination was
not against the manifest weight of the evidence.
¶ 81 Upon a finding that a parent’s conduct seriously endangered his or her children, the court
must then determine what restrictions are necessary to protect the children. Id. § 603.10(a)(1)-(9).
Petitioner argues that the circuit court erred in refusing to reduce respondent’s parenting time,
especially after finding,
“(1) E.R. reported she “felt invisible” at [respondent]’s house; (2) [respondent]
violated court orders by questioning E.R. about parenting time; (3) the minor children are
aware that [respondent] dislikes [petitioner]; (4) [respondent] does not hide his comments
about adults he dislikes from the minor children; (5) [respondent] did not take E.R. to
therapy during his parenting time; (6) the children volunteered their opinion on parenting
time ‘to appease’ [respondent]; (7) [respondent] does not care about the effect that his
actions towards adults have on his children; (8) [respondent] places his needs above the
children’s needs and he should prioritize the children’s needs; (9) [respondent] has directed
similar concerning behaviors to his children that he has directed at adults in their lives; (10)
[respondent]’s conduct ‘significantly impaired the child’s emotional development’ when
- 35 - he threatened the children to have [petitioner] arrested on Mother’s Day; and (11)
[respondent]’s conduct toward [petitioner] seriously endangers the children.”
In response, respondent argues that the court properly exercised its discretion in selecting anger-
management therapy and reducing respondent’s decision-making responsibility as restrictions,
over a restriction to parenting time. Again, we agree with respondent.
¶ 82 In entering its order, the circuit court selected restrictions on decision-making
responsibilities as to extracurricular activities, required anger-management therapy for respondent,
and appointed a parenting coordinator. See 750 ILCS 5/603.10(a)(1), (8) (West 2022). The court
noted that the parties had significant difficulties communicating, especially around the children’s
enrollment in extracurricular activities. The court’s prior recommendation, that necessitated a
three-week discussion period, was no longer feasible because of the significant breakdown in
communication. By restricting respondent’s decision-making responsibility and imposing a
parenting coordinator, the court tailored its decision to address a significant issue facing the parties.
¶ 83 The court also required respondent to participate in anger-management therapy because of
respondent’s abhorrent behavior. The record certainly supports the court’s imposition of anger-
management therapy as reasonable. Respondent’s behavior described in this “cold” record is
deplorable. His treatment of petitioner, Dr. Auslander, Lichter, other adults in his children’s lives,
and E.R. generated reasonable concern for the circuit court, especially respondent’s failure to
recognize how his behavior towards adults impacted his children and his complete lack of
contrition regarding his behavior towards these adults. While respondent continues to contend that
his behavior towards the adults in his children’s lives is not inappropriate, it was very reasonable
for the court to view this differently.
- 36 - ¶ 84 Nonetheless, the circuit court declined to restrict respondent’s parenting time, determining
that respondent had not “impacted the children enough to rise to the level of a restriction in
parenting time.” Despite our significant concerns, we will not substitute our judgment for that of
the circuit court. The circuit court spent a significant amount of time with the parties through the
duration of this case and was in a better position to judge credibility and observe the demeanor of
the witnesses. The court also was in a better position to assess the harm inflicted on the children
as a result of respondent’s behavior and assess any potential future harm. Overall, the court
implemented relevant restrictions targeted toward the issues addressed at the June 30 hearing. We
simply cannot say that no reasonable person would take the view adopted by the circuit court here.
Accordingly, we conclude that the court did not abuse its discretion in refusing to restrict
respondent’s parenting time.
¶ 85 III. CONCLUSION
¶ 86 For the reasons stated, we affirm the court’s judgment finding respondent credible and
refusing to restrict respondent’s parenting time. As for the petition to modify, we find that the
court’s denial of the petition to modify was not against the manifest weight of the evidence.
¶ 87 Affirmed.
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