Baer v. Baer

CourtCourt of Appeals of North Carolina
DecidedJuly 2, 2024
Docket23-868
StatusPublished

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Opinion

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF NORTH CAROLINA

No. COA23-868

Filed 2 July 2024

Wake County, No. 19CVD8313

MICHAEL J. BAER, Plaintiff,

v.

MELISSA B. BAER, Defendant.

Appeal by defendant from judgment entered 8 June 2023 by Judge Mark

Stevens in Wake County District Court. Heard in the Court of Appeals 1 May 2024.

Connell & Gelb PLLC, by Michelle D. Connell, for plaintiff-appellant.

Tharrington Smith, LLP, by Alice C. Stubbs, Jeffrey R. Russell, and Casey C. Fidler, for the defendant-appellee.

TYSON, Judge.

Michael J. Baer (“Husband”) appeals from the trial court’s order finding

Husband owed Melissa B. Baer (“Wife”) a distribution of $587,069.23 pursuant to a

separation agreement. Husband was also ordered to transfer title to the car Wife

drove. All attorney’s fees claims were reserved for a later date. We reverse and

remand.

I. Background

Husband and Wife married on 27 December 2014 for four years and officially

separated on 19 February 2019 after Wife had filed for and was granted an ex parte BAER V. BAER

Opinion of the Court

domestic violence order of protection (“DVPO”) against Husband in Wake County

District Court. Husband alleges Wife has claimed similar types of purported abuse

during a previous relationship. Husband was 43 years old when the parties married.

No children were born of the marriage.

A. Husband’s allegations

Husband alleges he was “subjected to psychological, physical, financial, and

emotional abuse at the hand of [Wife]” throughout the marriage “by intimidation and

threats, withholding affection, giving the ‘silent treatment,’ insulting him in front of

coworkers and friends, repeatedly belittling him, manipulating him, blaming him for

her own self-harm, and accusing him of having affairs.” Husband alleges Wife

regularly abused drugs, overly consumed alcohol, and called him explicit derogatory

names.

Wife had initially met with attorney Kristen Ruth (“Ruth”) on 26 September

2018. On 20 December 2018, Wife left a notice and demand letter for Husband on the

kitchen counter written by Ruth, dated 13 November 2018, which stated “that she

[Ruth] had been retained by [Wife] ‘to represent her in anticipation of [the parties’]

separation and divorce.’ ” The letter stated Ruth had advised Wife to remain living

within and occupying the marital home until a written settlement agreement was

reached.

After receiving this letter during Christmas week, Husband alleges he asked

Wife to spend the holidays with her family. Wife refused and requested they spend

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the holidays together. Husband’s affidavit avers Wife left notes for him on 21

December 2018 stating, “I LOVE YOU!!” and “THIS IS NOT WHAT I WANT!”

Neither party acted on the 13 November 2018 letter from Ruth.

On 15 February 2024 between the hours of 7:07 p.m. and 7:15 p.m., Wife gave

Husband a second demand letter from Ruth dated ten days earlier, on 5 February

2019, which stated Ruth “shall assume that you are not interested in sharing

financial information in order to determine [Wife]’s financial share of the marital

estate.” The letter concluded by saying “if I do not hear from you by Friday, February

15, 2019[,] by 5:00 p.m. we will proceed accordingly.”

Husband alleges Wife was drinking when she gave him the second demand

letter. With the receipt of the letter after its response due date and time had expired,

Husband was unable to respond timely or to retain an attorney. Husband called his

parents two times that night “because [Wife] was ‘drinking alcohol and verbally

abusing’ him.” The parties discussed on 17 February 2019 whether they could

proceed to a resolution without attorneys. Husband alleges Wife claimed, “she

deserved half of what we had and [threatened] that she would ruin [his] life and

career if [he] didn’t comply.”

On 19 February 2019, Wife, again with Ruth’s assistance, filed a sworn and

verified ex parte complaint and motion for a DVPO alleging Husband, among other

things, had kicked and shoved her causing numerous bruises, had kicked her dog

because he knows it hurts her, had put cameras in every room of their home without

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her knowledge, and had restricted her access to their finances.

Later that day and without prior notice, Husband was first served with an ex

parte domestic violence protective order (“ex parte DVPO order”) and escorted out of

the marital home by law enforcement officers. Husband claims Wife’s sworn

allegations were false and perjurious. He asserts she had filed the DVPO because he

did not agree to give her half of his assets, and the DVPO was prepared and filed

“with the intent to gain an unfair advantage in the separation process to gain an

inequitable financial settlement.”

Husband also claims, “[Wife] was aware that a DVPO would have dire

consequences on [Husband]’s reputation and career.” Husband filed an answer and

a counter claim for a DVPO on 22 February 2019.

The ten-day hearing on the ex parte DVPO order was continued and scheduled

for 13 March 2019. Prior to the hearing, parties participated in mediation with

certified Mediator Katherine Frye on 6 March 2019.

Leading up to mediation, and out of fear of violating the ex parte DVPO order,

Husband did not return to his office, because Wife’s father, Jim Bennett (“Bennett”),

worked in the same office. Husband alleges Bennett was given the option to relocate

immediately to another office in the community, but chose not to do so for over a

month, preventing Husband from entering his own office. Husband asserts an

internal investigation was initiated by his employer due to Wife’s false allegations of

domestic violence.

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Husband alleges his employer told him to “handle it” and the company could

not have someone in a management role with a DVPO against them. Further,

Husband asserts the DVPO would prevent him “from ever achieving General

Partnership with the Firm which [he] had been working for 25 years to achieve.”

Husband alleges he was at risk of losing his job as a financial advisor depending on

the outcome of the DVPO hearing. Husband alleges Wife was aware of the

importance of reputation in his career and had discussed the impact this ex parte

claim would have on his income.

Husband asserts Ruth and Husband’s attorney, Len Mueller, had agreed to a

two-part mediation, in which the parties would first resolve the issues and allegations

surrounding the DVPO, and thereafter negotiate a complete resolution to the

separation. Husband alleges once in mediation Wife abandoned and reneged on their

two-part agreement and was unwilling to resolve the DVPO unless a global resolution

and settlement was reached.

Husband avers he had no choice, that he either had to agree to the one-sided

terms or take chances at the DVPO hearing. He believed he would be fired from his

job and suffer irreparable damages to his reputation and career if the ex parte DVPO

hearing was not favorable to him.

B. Wife’s Allegations

Wife asserts Husband’s counsel drafted the Separation and Property

Settlement Agreement (“Agreement”) at the end of mediation in front of the mediator.

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