S.S.D. VS. M.A.D. (FV-02-0066-20, BERGEN COUNTY AND STATEWIDE) (RECORD IMPOUNDED)

New Jersey Superior Court Appellate Division·Decided October 21, 2021·No. A-0054-19·Unpublished

Opinion

RECORD IMPOUNDED

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SUPERIOR COURT OF NEW JERSEY APPELLATE DIVISION

DOCKET NO. A-0054-19

S.S.D., Plaintiff-Respondent,

v. M.A.D.,

Defendant-Appellant.

Argued September 29, 2021 – Decided October 21, 2021 Before Judges Fuentes, Gilson, and Gummer.

On appeal from the Superior Court of New Jersey, Chancery Division, Family Part, Bergen County, Docket No. FV-02-0066-20.

Ana R. Tolentino argued the cause for appellant.

S.S.D., respondent pro se. 1 PER CURIAM

1 Plaintiff S.S.D. submitted a brief in response to defendant's appeal but did not appear at oral argument. We use initials to protect the identity of domestic- violence victims and to preserve the confidentiality of these proceedings. R. 1:38-3(d)(10).

Defendant appeals a final restraining order (FRO), which was entered pursuant to the Prevention of Domestic Violence Act, N.J.S.A. 2C:25-17 to -35 (PDVA), arguing, among other things, the trial judge erred in finding plaintiff had proven the predicate act of harassment. Because Judge Nina C. Remson's decision was supported by substantial, credible evidence, we affirm.

I.

We glean these facts from the trial conducted by the court. The parties were a married couple who had been together for more than thirty-eight years. When the court issued the FRO, the parties had a twelve-year-old son, a nineteen-year-old daughter, and a twenty-one-year-old son.

On the evening of July 2, 2019, when plaintiff returned home after taking the parties' twelve-year-old son to a local firework show, she sent their son to his bedroom and entered the bedroom she previously had shared with defendant. Plaintiff was sleeping on a couch and was no longer sleeping in their bedroom because she was "afraid to close [her] eyes in the bedroom." She told defendant she needed to talk to him about making some repairs to their home. When defendant responded by saying, "I'm not fixing any home," plaintiff continued to discuss the need to make the repairs. In testimony Judge Remson found "highly credible," plaintiff stated:

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[I]t escalated fairly quickly . . . I said you have to fix it.

And he says, you know, you're bugging me and you're provoking me and I said, I'm not provoking you, I just really need this fixed because it's -- besides being a biohazard it's uncomfortable for the kids, we can fix it, and the expletives started to tumble out and I didn't raise my voice . . . he says, no, you're provoking me and we both know what happens when you provoke me, and it was something about the way he said it that I just --

something in me said if I don't leave this room and say one more [word] it's going to escalate fairly quickly . .

..

Plaintiff "felt he threatened me because I felt at that very moment that if I said one more word that he was going to get off that bed, as he has in the past and come at me . . . . " She believed the "inference" of a bodily-injury threat "was clear based on our past history." According to plaintiff, their history included prior domestic-violence incidents and a conversation about plaintiff's sister, who had been killed by her fiancé, in which defendant said to plaintiff, "you have to wonder what she did to bring all that on."

Plaintiff left their bedroom and relayed to their twelve-year-old son and their daughter a code word meaning "we need to get out of the house." Plaintiff had developed the code word as part of an exit plan she had created in an Alternative for Domestic Violence program, which she had attended for over a year. When their daughter and son left the house, plaintiff called the police.

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Two police officers arrived and asked her what had happened and if this had been "the first time." When she explained that this was not the first incident, the officers went into the house and returned, saying defendant had "basically corroborated" what she had said. She told the officers she thought she needed protection and went with them to the police station.

Early the next morning, a temporary restraining order (TRO) was issued.

In her complaint seeking the TRO, plaintiff alleged defendant had harassed her "by shouting vulgarities at her," calling her "a bitch, a whore, and a cunt." She also asserted that his statement "you're provoking me, and you know where this goes" caused her "to become alarmed because she felt that [defendant] was referencing instances in the past where he had been physically abusive towards" her. She described a history of domestic violence involving "unreported shoving and striking with opened and closed fists." A week after she filed her complaint, plaintiff amended it to include additional allegations regarding past domestic- violence acts.

Judge Remson conducted a two-day trial, during which each party testified. After plaintiff testified about the events of the evening of July 2, 2019, Judge Remson asked her how she knew she "would need to leave or it would escalate." In response, plaintiff referenced and testified about "past incidences."

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Plaintiff described defendant's behavior as she drove him to a bus stop on the morning of the July 2 incident, stating he used "expletives" and "put downs" and told her "you ruined my fucking life" and "I despise you." She asserted defendant behaved like that "probably every morning – well, at least four out of five." Three weeks previously, while she was driving their family to their son's scouting event, defendant had "scream[ed] in [her] ear," calling her a "bitch," and saying he hated her, she had "ruined" his life, and he didn't "give a fuck" if their children heard him say those things to her because they "need[ed] to hear it."

She described a 2018 incident driving home from a movie with two of their children when defendant "started yelling" at her, saying he didn't "like [her] fucking shoes" and calling her "a fucking bitch." She repeated what defendant had said to her on her last birthday: "[y]ou know I absolutely despise you but I guess I could wish you a happy birthday, for what it's worth." He then "start[ed] in with . . . the play list," meaning "when he's constantly berating me . . . usually involv[ing] me being called any number of expletives." Plaintiff testified, "whenever I'm in his presence it appears that he can't control himself and at this point it doesn't matter whether the kids are around or not" and "what's become scary is it requires no input from me whatsoever."

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In addition to the "litany of verbal abuse," plaintiff provided examples of when defendant had been physically abusive. She described an earlier incident in their bedroom when he threw clothes at her and told her to "get the fuck out" after she had asked him to attend a bible study class with her. She testified defendant had "shoulder check[ed]" her as she passed him fourteen times in the past eighteen months, once every six to eight weeks. She said defendant had engaged in "choking" behavior about ten times in 2015 and 2016, placing her "in a headlock or . . . arm around the neck" and would "push [his] hand to [her] face," causing her discomfort and injury to her eye.

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