R.M. v. G.S.

• Court: New Jersey Superior Court Appellate Division
• Decided: May 21, 2026
• Docket: A-2513-24
• Status: Unpublished

Opinion

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SUPERIOR COURT OF NEW JERSEY APPELLATE DIVISION DOCKET NO. A-2513-24

R.M.,

Plaintiff-Respondent,

v.

G.S.,1

Defendant-Appellant. _________________________

Argued May 4, 2026 – Decided May 21, 2026

Before Judges Walcott-Henderson and Bergman.

On appeal from the Superior Court of New Jersey, Chancery Division, Family Part, Middlesex County, Docket No. FV-12-0010-93.

Jeffrey A. Skiendziul argued the cause for appellant (The Tormey Law Firm LLC, attorneys; Travis J. Tormey, of counsel; Jeffrey A. Skiendziul, on the brief).

1 We refer to the parties using their initials to protect their privacy and ensure the confidentiality of these proceedings. R. 1:38-3(d)(9). Jerry Eisdorfer argued the cause for respondent (Eisdorfer Eisdorfer & Eisdorfer, LLC, attorneys; Jeff Thakker, of counsel; Jerry Eisdorfer, on the brief).

PER CURIAM

Defendant G.S. appeals from a March 5, 2025 Family Part order denying

his motion to vacate a final restraining order ("FRO") entered against him in

1992, pursuant to the Prevention of Domestic Violence Act ("PDVA"), N.J.S.A.

2C:25-17 to -35. Defendant primarily argues that the court erred in failing to

consider the change in circumstances and the factors set forth in Carfagno v.

Carfagno, 288 N.J. Super. 424, 435 (Ch. Div. 1995). We affirm.

I.

The following facts are substantially undisputed. Plaintiff and defendant

were romantically involved from approximately 1990 to 1992, when plaintiff

obtained a FRO against defendant, which was entered by a Middlesex County

judge on July 9, 1992.

Because the facts underlying the entry of the 1992 FRO are germane to

this appeal, we provide a brief recitation here. Plaintiff relocated to Vermont in

August 1991 to attend college, leaving defendant, who resided with her family

in New Jersey. Defendant was serving in the United States military at the time.

According to plaintiff, defendant's harassing conduct escalated after she went to

A-2513-24 2 college, at which point, he began engaging in harassing phone calls and

becoming increasingly controlling, physically abusive, and obsessively jealous .

When she objected, defendant would become angry, yell at her, and grab her

arm, and his conduct only increased after she ended the relationship during the

1991 Christmas holiday. Defendant also appeared intoxicated at her dormitory,

threw rocks at the windows, banged on her dorm room door, and followed her

around campus for several days. Defendant sent her letters stating that he would

"never give up," would make it "his mission in life" to get her back, and would

"come at [her with] full force" because he had "nothing to lose."

Defendant also attempted to enroll as a student at the same college

plaintiff attended and even attempted to move into the same dorm where plaintiff

lived. Defendant's efforts were thwarted when plaintiff obtained a restraining

order in Vermont, which prompted the college to rescind defendant's acceptance.

Eventually, plaintiff transferred to another college out of fear that defendant

would attempt to locate her.

Plaintiff later married R.T. and adopted her husband's last name. After

moving around for several years due to her husband's career, plaintiff, her

husband, and her children relocated to Florida.

A-2513-24 3 In 2013, after the death of plaintiff's father, defendant mailed plaintiff a

package containing a handwritten note referencing the passing of plaintiff's

father and compact discs ("CDs") containing music.2 At no time did plaintiff

respond to defendant's unsolicited package. In 2022, defendant moved to

Florida, approximately forty-five miles from plaintiff's residence.

On December 20, 2023, defendant moved to vacate the 1992 FRO,

asserting that he was never served with the FRO, was never charged with a

crime, and that the persisting FRO interfered with his access to military

installations and international travel. Plaintiff opposed the motion, arguing she

continued to harbor a reasonable fear of defendant based on his prior conduct ,

as well as the unsolicited 2013 package and its contents.

During the ensuing motion hearing, defendant first denied having ever

received the 1992 FRO; however, on cross-examination, he admitted to signing

the certified-mail receipt for the FRO. Defendant further admitted to mailing

plaintiff the package following her father's death in 2013. Defendant testified

the compact discs contained "freestyle" music intended to console plaintiff,

although the music included numerous romantic songs. When questioned on

2 On a sticky note attached to the package, defendant wrote, "Thought you might enjoy these. Sorry to hear about your dad." A-2513-24 4 cross-examination regarding his prior criminal history, defendant acknowledged

that he had been charged in the State of Virginia with impersonating a police

officer and that his former spouse had obtained a TRO against him in the State

of Texas in either 2007 or 2008, information he had not disclosed in his motion

certification.

The court also heard testimony from plaintiff, her mother, and sister, each

of whom testified to defendant's prior manipulative and fright-inducing tactics

against plaintiff. Plaintiff made clear her opposition to vacating the FRO,

reiterating her concerns for her safety and the safety of her family. She further

testified that when she learned defendant had moved to Florida, it heightened

her fear and prompted her to install a home alarm system and obtain a large dog

for protection.

Following the presentation of the evidence, the court issued a written

order, accompanied by a detailed statement of reasons, denying defendant's

motion without prejudice. The court first addressed its credibility findings and

conclusion that plaintiff "appeared quiet, respectful, confident" and emotional,

and "answered questions in a clear and prepared manner that demonstrated to

the [c]ourt her respect and candor." By contrast, the court found defendant's

credibility "faltered" during cross-examination after he admitted he had in fact

A-2513-24 5 signed the certified-mail receipt for the 1992 FRO, mailed plaintiff an

unsolicited package in 2013 while the FRO was in effect, and had a prior

criminal charge.

The court next summarized the relevant testimony presented by the

parties' witnesses and the applicable law, addressing the substantive issue of

whether the FRO should be vacated and weighing the factors set forth in

Carfagno, 288 N.J. Super. at 435. After discussing the factors, the court rejected

defendant's argument the FRO significantly hindered his daily life as a basis for

vacatur, noting that it would not "dismiss the FRO based on . . . [d]efendant's

minor inconveniences." The court further noted several of defendant's

contradictory statements, including his repeated testimony that he had no contact

with plaintiff, only to admit that he in fact mailed her three CDs with 69 songs

to allegedly "console her," his denial that he was in fact served with the 1992

FRO, and his testimony that there were no other FROs against him.

The court agreed with plaintiff that defendant's actions were indeed

"creepy," referring to his specific action of culling together 69 songs and burning

them into CDs to mail to plaintiff after twenty years, which necessitated that he

search for plaintiff—under her new married name—and address. Based on this

evidence, the court concluded defendant's actions were not made in good faith

A-2513-24 6 towards plaintiff, and were similar to a "fishing expedition," in which

"[d]efendant was testing the metaphorical waters to see if the [p]laintiff would

bite back and contact him after receiving the package," but instead, defendant's

contact had the opposite effect of causing "[p]laintiff heightened fear and

anxiety." The court denied defendant's motion without prejudice. Defendant

appealed.

II.

Our review of a motion to dissolve an FRO is limited. See G.M. v. C.V.,

453 N.J. Super. 1, 11-12 (App. Div. 2018). We review the denial of such a

motion for an abuse of discretion. Id. at 11. We give "substantial deference" to

the trial court's factual findings and legal conclusions in a domestic violence

matter, C.C. v. J.A.H., 463 N.J. Super. 419, 428 (App. Div. 2020), due to the

Family Part's "'special jurisdiction and expertise in family matters,'" G.M., 453

N.J. Super. at 11 (quoting N.J. Div. of Youth & Fam. Servs. v. M.C. III, 201

N.J. 328, 343 (2010)).

Moreover, we are bound by the trial court's findings if they are "'supported

by adequate, substantial, credible evidence.'" Ibid. (quoting Cesare v. Cesare,

154 N.J. 394, 411-12 (1998)). However, "'[a] trial court's interpretation of the

law and the legal consequences that flow from established facts are not entitled

A-2513-24 7 to any special deference'" and are reviewed de novo. Hitesman v. Bridgeway,

Inc., 218 N.J. 8, 26 (2014) (quoting Manalapan Realty, L.P. v. Twp. Comm. of

Manalapan, 140 N.J. 366, 378 (1995)).

"[T]he court must carefully scrutinize the record and carefully consider

the totality of the circumstances before removing the protective shield [of the

FRO]." Kanaszka v. Kunen, 313 N.J. Super. 600, 605 (App. Div. 1998).

Mindful that the purpose of the PDVA is "to protect the victims—not to punish

the person who committed the act of domestic violence[,]" an FRO may be

vacated "where there is . . . 'a change of circumstances [whereby] the continued

enforcement of the injunctive process would be inequitable, oppressive, or

unjust, or in contravention of the policy of the law.'" Carfagno, 288 N.J. Super.

at 434-35. An FRO may be dissolved only "upon good cause shown." N.J.S.A.

2C:25-29(d).

"The party asking to modify or dissolve the FRO has the 'burden to make

a prima facie showing [that] good cause exists for dissolution of the restraining

order prior to the judge fully considering the application for dismissal.'" G.M.

v. C.V., 453 N.J. Super. 1, 12-13 (App. Div. 2018) (alteration in original)

(quoting Kanaszka, 313 N.J. Super. at 608).

A-2513-24 8 In determining whether a movant has shown good cause, a court must

consider the following factors in accordance with the standard established in

Carfagno:

(1) whether the victim consented to lift the restraining order; (2) whether the victim fears the defendant; (3) the nature of the relationship between the parties today; (4) the number of times that the defendant has been convicted of contempt for violating the order; (5) whether the defendant has a continuing involvement with drug or alcohol abuse; (6) whether the defendant has been involved in other violent acts with other persons; (7) whether the defendant has engaged in counseling; (8) the age and health of the defendant; (9) whether the victim is acting in good faith when opposing the defendant's request; (10) whether another jurisdiction has entered a restraining order protecting the victim from the defendant; and (11) other factors deemed relevant by the court.

[G.M., 453 N.J. Super. at 13 (quoting Carfagno, 288 N.J. Super. at 434-35).]

Courts must weigh the Carfagno factors qualitatively, not quantitively,

Carfagno, 288 N.J. Super. at 442, and "carefully scrutinize the record and

carefully consider the totality of the circumstances" before dissolving a FRO,

G.M., 453 N.J. Super. at 14 (quoting Kanaszka, 313 N.J. Super. at 605). To

obtain a plenary hearing on a motion to dissolve a FRO, the movant must make

a prima facie showing that good cause exists for the requested dissolution and

A-2513-24 9 that there "are 'facts in dispute material to a resolution of the motion.'" Id. at 13

"The linchpin in any motion addressed to dismissal of a [FRO] should be

whether there have been substantial changed circumstances since its entry that

constitute good cause for consideration of dismissal." Kanaszka, 313 N.J.

Super. at 609. Even where some changed circumstances are shown, however,

dismissal is not automatic because the statute provides that an FRO "may" be

dissolved upon good cause shown, not that it must be dissolved. Stevenson v.

Stevenson, 314 N.J. Super. 350, 362 (Ch. Div. 1998).

Before us, defendant argues the court erred in denying his motion to

vacate the 1992 FRO and in finding he failed to demonstrate substantial changed

circumstances warranting dissolution of the FRO. Defendant primarily relies on

the passage of time, the absence of any contempt convictions, the absence of a

current relationship between the parties, and the alleged impact the FRO has had

on his access to military bases and international travel.

Guided by the well-settled legal principles enunciated above and our limited

standard of review, we reject defendant's wholly unpersuasive arguments and

affirm the court's well-reasoned decision. Despite the passage of more than

thirty-years since the entry of the FRO and twenty years following defendant's

A-2513-24 10 last contact with plaintiff in violation of the FRO, we are satisfied that the court

did not err in denying defendant's application for vacatur. As the court amply

noted, plaintiff remains in fear of defendant due to his actions both pre- and

post-entry of the 1992 FRO. The court found plaintiff's testimony more credible

than defendant's and properly concluded that defendant's testimony was replete

with contradictions concerning this victim, the 1992 FRO, his subsequent

criminal history, and the entry of at least one other FRO against him. Against

this backdrop, we conclude the court articulated a sufficient and adequate basis

to deny defendant's motion.

We likewise conclude defendant's argument that the court misapplied the

Carfagno factors is equally unavailing. Thus, we discern no basis to support

defendant's contention the court abused its discretion by denying his motion and,

accordingly, affirm the court's order.

To the extent we have not specifically addressed any of defendant's

remaining arguments, we conclude they lack any merit to warrant discussion in

a written opinion. R. 2:11-3(e)(1)(E).

Affirmed.

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