Milbauer v. Milbauer, No. Fa 93-0053954 (Aug. 29, 1997)

1997 Conn. Super. Ct. 9734
CourtConnecticut Superior Court
DecidedAugust 29, 1997
DocketNo. FA 93-0053954
StatusUnpublished

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Bluebook
Milbauer v. Milbauer, No. Fa 93-0053954 (Aug. 29, 1997), 1997 Conn. Super. Ct. 9734 (Colo. Ct. App. 1997).

Opinion

[EDITOR'S NOTE: This case is unpublished as indicated by the issuing court.]MEMORANDUM OF DECISION This is a marital dissolution action filed on September 13, 1993. Over the past several months, on various trial days, the court has heard testimony and received numerous documents relating to the parties' respective claims. The parties disagree with respect to the issues of alimony, property disposition, and allocation of debts. In addition, the parties have a dispute concerning whether the court should modify its temporary order of alimony. Based on the evidence adduced at the hearing, the court makes the following findings and orders.

FACTUAL BACKGROUND

Elaine, and Alan Milbauer were married on August 23, 1964 in Bridgeport, Connecticut. Prior to bringing this action, both parties resided continuously in Connecticut for more than one year. While two children have been born to the parties, both are over the age of eighteen and graduated from college. The plaintiff's birth name was Elaine F. Friedman.

Mrs. Milbauer is fifty five years of age. She is a high CT Page 9735 school graduate, and has taken various post-high school courses over the years at the University of Bridgeport, the University of Connecticut, and at a community college, including accounting, statistics, algebra, local government, and real estate. Mrs. Milbauer was employed at the time the parties were married, and continued her outside employment until pregnant with the parties' first child. Remaining at home to care for the children while they were very young, Mrs. Milbauer returned to outside employment in 1976. She worked as a bookkeeper for Peter Stanley Greenhouses for approximately four years, and later as a bookkeeper for a Certified Public Accountant for approximately eight years. During the marriage, she maintained the parties' books, and readied the parties' financial papers for submission to their tax preparer. For the past eight years she has worked for the Town of Somers, with her salary increasing from seventeen thousand ($17,000) dollars a year to its present level of twenty four ($24,000) thousand a year. As Administrative Assistant to the First Selectman, her duties have included general office administration, and some computer usage, including word processing. She has also exercised administrative responsibility relating to the provision of general assistance to Somers residents.

The plaintiff moved from the family residence on November 1, 1993 initially to an apartment in Stafford Springs. Since September, 1996, she has resided at 200 Billings Road, Somers, a single family residence in her name alone, with Peter Irwin, a gentleman with whom she rekindled an old romantic relationship in 1993. Mrs. Milbauer testified that at the end of May, 1993, Mr. Irwin, seeing her name on a mail box, stopped by the house, and from that point they renewed their old friendship. She stated that from May, 1993 to November, 1993, she spoke frequently with Mr. Irwin on the phone, had lunch with him occasionally, and went to his apartment to study from time to time. Though denying that she has had a sexually physical relationship with Mr. Irwin since 1993, the plaintiff admits that she had sexual intercourse with him in 1975 or 1976. While the court confronts her denials of a present physical relationship with skepticism, proof or disproof of this issue neither contributes nor detracts from the court's conclusion that this early-marriage romantic relationship was renewed while the Milbauers were still residing together in the spring of 1993 and contributed to the failure of the parties' marriage. While perhaps not actually residing with Mrs. Milbauer until 1996, Mr. Irwin was a frequent guest, overnighting approximately ten to twelve times a month with the plaintiff CT Page 9736 starting in 1994 until he officially changed his residence in September, 1996.

Also corrosive to the marriage was the plaintiff's relationship with Peter Stanley, with whom, she worked in the mid 1980's. During her employment as a bookkeeper for Stanley Greenhouses, the plaintiff maintained a joint personal account with Mr. Stanley. On April 6, 1985, the account had a balance of fifteen thousand sixty three ($15,063) dollars. The plaintiff claimed that this money was, in fact, Mr. Stanley's, and that she maintained the account with him as an accommodation because he was going through a divorce. Perhaps in corroboration of Mr. Stanley's precarious marital state at the time, the plaintiff's calendar contains a notation that on August 19, 1985 she had an appointment at 11:20 a.m. with "PWS re: possible divorce." Defendant's Exhibit DD, Plaintiff's calendar for February and August, 1985. Additionally, the plaintiff acknowledged at trial that prior to August, 1985, the parties' daughter had arrived at the family home and found her and Mr. Stanley in the parties' bedroom. While the defendant testified that their daughter found the plaintiff and Mr. Stanley on the bed in a darkened bedroom, the plaintiff stated that Mr. Stanley was at the house for a business reason, and that she and he were sitting on the floor in the bedroom. The court does not credit, as trustworthy, the plaintiff's testimony that Mr. Stanley's presence in the house, and the parties' bedroom, was for a legitimate business purpose and not for any personal reasons. The combination of this unfortunate event together with the existence of a joint personal account with Mr. Stanley, as well as the fact that the plaintiff chose to accompany Mr. Stanley to a legal meeting to discuss a possible divorce, all belie the plaintiff's claim that she had no more than a business relationship with this gentleman. Whether or not it was physically intimate, the plaintiff's attentions to Mr. Stanley and her involvement in his marital disharmony were not behaviors conducive to the maintenance of a viable spousal relationship with the defendant.

The plaintiff claimed that she ultimately left the marital home out of fear of the defendant. She stated that she found him listening to her phone calls, and awakened to find him standing over her bed. While the defendant may have, in fact, attempted to listen in on the plaintiff's phone calls, and it is clear that he was distressed by the status of their marital relationship in 1993 and became withdrawn from the plaintiff, the more probative evidence is that the failure of the marriage was occasioned CT Page 9737 primarily by the plaintiff's unfaithfulness to the defendant and her ultimate decision to leave the marriage in order to take up with Mr. Irwin.

In the early years of the marriage, the parties moved several times, living in an apartment owned by the plaintiff's parents, in a residence they purchased in Springfield, Mass, and then in the Milridge Road residence until their separation. While this home was originally in both parties names it was transferred to the plaintiff's name alone during a time that the defendant's business relationships caused concern to the parties.

In February, 1996, Nancy Zaccardi and her children moved into the former marital residence with Mr. Milbauer. While she was unemployed when she initially lived with the defendant, Ms. Zaccardi presently earns approximately twenty five thousand ($25,000) dollars a year working for a women's health group in Enfield. Ms. Zaccardi and her two children moved with Mr. Milbauer from Milridge Road to their present rental facility in Enfield when the marital residence was sold earlier this year. She contributes sporadically to the household expenses. Since Ms. Zaccardi and Mr. Milbauer met on December 30, 1994, approximately a year after the Milbauer's separation, there is no claim, nor any evidence, that Mr. Milbauer's relationship with Ms. Zaccardi contributed to the breakdown of the marriage.

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