Mende v. Collins, No. Fa-87-0088175s (Aug. 2, 1991)

1991 Conn. Super. Ct. 7525
CourtConnecticut Superior Court
DecidedAugust 2, 1991
DocketNo. FA-87-0088175S
StatusUnpublished

This text of 1991 Conn. Super. Ct. 7525 (Mende v. Collins, No. Fa-87-0088175s (Aug. 2, 1991)) is published on Counsel Stack Legal Research, covering Connecticut Superior Court primary law. Counsel Stack provides free access to over 12 million legal documents including statutes, case law, regulations, and constitutions.

Bluebook
Mende v. Collins, No. Fa-87-0088175s (Aug. 2, 1991), 1991 Conn. Super. Ct. 7525 (Colo. Ct. App. 1991).

Opinion

[EDITOR'S NOTE: This case is unpublished as indicated by the issuing court.] MEMORANDUM OF DECISION The plaintiff herein has brought this action seeking a dissolution of the marriage to the defendant on the grounds of irretrievable breakdown. The complaint is dated March 13, 1987.

The couple were married on December 9, 1979, in Colchester. They have one child, Lisa, born September 22, 1983. At the time of the marriage the plaintiff was an attorney admitted in Connecticut, and employed in the legal department of the Hartford Group. The defendant owned and operated a new car dealership in Colchester and thereafter acquired a second car dealership in Colchester. When the child was born, the plaintiff quit her full-time job but worked part-time for a period of time thereafter. The marriage was the first for the plaintiff, and the second for the defendant. He has an adult daughter from his first marriage.

The parties knew each other for about five years prior to the marriage. After the marriage, they lived in a dwelling in CT Page 7526 Colchester, which had a swimming pool. They had a maid and lawn care was provided. The plaintiff retained all of her salary, which was $38,000 at the time, in addition to funds provided by the defendant.

The parties had a few altercations from time to time from the date of marriage to the filing of the complaint. A few days after the marriage, the plaintiff made an unflattering remark to the defendant about his daughter, and the defendant slapped the plaintiff on the shoulder. The plaintiff recounts several other incidents including the defendant's tearing of a sweatshirt worn by the plaintiff and calling her names in public on a few occasions. The defendant complained that the plaintiff had a "Jekyll-and-Hyde" personality; that she was moody, depressed and disagreeable and precipitated the events she complained of. The plaintiff further complained that the defendant was seeing other women during the marriage, and that he gambled extensively, but offered no conclusive evidence on either ground. As to the same period, the defendant complained that the house was cluttered, and, especially after the arrival of the child, the plaintiff would not have dinner ready for him. He also complained about her reckless spending, which ultimately led to the destruction of her credit cards.

In all candor, the court cannot find that the marriage had broken down irretrievably at the time of the filing of the complaint. Indeed, reconciliation was still being attempted long after the suit was brought. See Eversman v. Eversman, 4 Conn. App. 611,613-614; citing Joy v. Joy, 178 Conn. 254, 255-256. The evidence does not convince the court that their differences as of the time of suit could not have been resolved.

Such a finding will not prevent the court from proceeding to determine whether, as of the time of the hearing, an irretrievable breakdown has occurred since this court is exercising equitable powers in this matter. See, e.g., Kelsall v. Kelsall, 139 Conn. 163.

This suit was commenced March 13, 1987. The file indicates that, although numerous motions were filed on behalf of the plaintiff by the several attorneys representing the plaintiff, nothing really happened to cause the case to proceed until July 18, 1988, when the plaintiff filed a motion for an ex-parte restraining order alleging that the plaintiff believed the defendant was sexually molesting their daughter and asking that his visitation rights be terminated. Such order was granted, ex parte, on July 18, 1988 (Flanagan, J.) (#118).

There appears to be no particular event that precipitated the filing of the divorce papers. Commencing about CT Page 7527 six months prior to filing, the plaintiff would decline to have dinner with the defendant when he came home, preferring to spend the evening home with the child.

During this period of time, the plaintiff was consulting with Ms. Holly Hatch as to her emotional problem. Ms. Hatch a background as a social worker, and practiced in Colchester. In the middle of August, 1986, Ms. Hatch received a call from the plaintiff that Lisa told her that the plaintiff's mother had stuck something into her rearend. Ms. Hatch reported the matter to the Department of Children and Youth Services. This conversation followed a conversation a week earlier, when the plaintiff called Ms. Hatch about the matter of reporting child abuse.

On September 8, 1986, the plaintiff took the child to see Dr. Jamby Marvasti, a child psychiatrist in Manchester. She obtained his name from the sexual abuse hotline. The complaint of the plaintiff to Dr. Marvasti was that Lisa was afraid of her father because he hit her. She further related problems in the marriage, but didn't want the "state" to be involved. At the time, the plaintiff also told the doctor that Lisa had told her that other persons touched her, including a clown, a dog, her grandmother, three babysitters, and the defendant. Dr. Marvasti further testified that the plaintiff was unwilling to allow him to interview the child alone. He saw the child two times thereafter. The last time, he videotaped the interview to assure the plaintiff of the child's safety with him. This was in February 2, 1987. He further testified that he did not complete his evaluation, but referred the plaintiff to the Manchester Child Guidance Clinic.

At about the same time, Lisa was experiencing a series of stomach aches and was taken to see her pediatrician, Peter L. Hine, M.D. On September 13, 1986, Dr. Hine performed a rectal examination of Lisa as part of his diagnostic evaluation. He referred the child to a pediatric gastroenterologist at Hartford Hospital, Allen M. Leichtner, M.D. Dr. Leichter reported to Dr. Hine that he had also performed a rectal examination on September 26, 1986.

On February 4, 1987, the plaintiff took the child to Donald J. Heibel, a clinical psychologist in Glastonbury. She obtained his name from a nurse. He testified in court on August 8, 1990, that up to that time he had seen Lisa for ninety sessions. At the initial interview, Lisa complained that someone had touched her bottom and referred to her grandmother, a clown, another doctor, her father and others. Curiously, Dr. Heibel testified that in the early interviews, he became aware of the marital problems, and concluded that his treatment of the child would involve his helping the plaintiff to get out of the marriage, as this would help the mother handle Lisa. CT Page 7528

On cross-examination, he identified the areas of concern to him as being:

1. the alleged sexual abuse;

2. getting along with children at school;

3. the child's temperamental nature;

4. lack of discipline at home;

5. dealing with her grandmother's tendency to be over-indulgent.

He testified that the child, at the early interview, had delayed cognitive skills and noted that the refusal of the mother to "let go" of the child emotionally was probably a continuing factor. He further noted the child, at this time, was manipulative of her mother and played upon her for sympathy.

On May 17, 1987, Dr. Heibel inquired of Dr. Marvasti as to his findings concerning Lisa. Dr. Marvasti responded that he could form no opinion because he was unable to complete his evaluation.

From the witness's testimony, he saw Lisa weekly during the first three months and bi-weekly thereafter.

During the months following the filing for divorce, the couple continued to live together and reconciliations were attempted.

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