Mahalingam Lakshmanan v. Setthalaksmhi Mahalingham

CourtCourt of Appeals of Washington
DecidedNovember 9, 2020
Docket80296-8
StatusUnpublished

This text of Mahalingam Lakshmanan v. Setthalaksmhi Mahalingham (Mahalingam Lakshmanan v. Setthalaksmhi Mahalingham) is published on Counsel Stack Legal Research, covering Court of Appeals of Washington primary law. Counsel Stack provides free access to over 12 million legal documents including statutes, case law, regulations, and constitutions.

Bluebook
Mahalingam Lakshmanan v. Setthalaksmhi Mahalingham, (Wash. Ct. App. 2020).

Opinion

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF THE STATE OF WASHINGTON

In the Matter of the Marriage of: No. 80296-8-I MAHALINGAM LAKSHMANAN, DIVISION ONE Appellant,

and UNPUBLISHED OPINION

SEETHALAKSHMI MAHALINGAM,

Respondent.

MANN, C.J. — Mahalingam Lakshmanan appeals the trial court’s entry of a

parenting plan. He argues that the trial court erred by (1) limiting his residential time, (2)

considering the recommendations of a court-appointed social worker, (3) granting sole

educational decision-making authority to the mother, and (4) ordering him to complete a

domestic violence class for dads. We affirm.

I.

Mahalingam 1 and Seethalakshmi Mahalingam entered into an arranged marriage

in India in July 2012 and had one child in April 2013. 2

1 We use the parties’ first names for clarity. No disrespect is intended. 2 The pertinent facts are set forth in the trial court’s uncontested findings of fact. Unchallenged findings are verities on appeal. In re Marriage of Rounds, 4 Wn. App. 2d 801, 804, 423 P.3d 895 (2018). We recite only those facts necessary to address the issues raised on appeal.

Citations and pin cites are based on the Westlaw online version of the cited material. No. 80296-8-I/2

Soon after their wedding, Mahalingam began to criticize Seethalakshmi’s manner

of speech and dress as not being up to his family’s standards and his family insulted her

for not knowing how to cook. Mahalingam yelled at Seethalakshmi and struck her

during the pregnancy. He also took Seethalakshmi’s mobile phone away and restricted

her ability to call friends. The couple moved to Washington in May 2013.

Once in Washington, Mahalingam withheld the immigration paperwork that

Seethalakshmi needed to work in the United States and did not give her access to the

family’s bank accounts. He devoted a great deal of attention to controlling everything in

their family. According to Seethalakshmi, the physical abuse she had experienced

infrequently in India now occurred about once a week, which included Mahalingam

pushing her and twisting her hands.

In 2014, as their child’s one-year birthday approached, Seethalakshmi told her

parents that she could not take it anymore, so her father bought tickets for her and the

child to return to India after the birthday party. After the child’s party, a big fight ensued.

Mahalingam believed that Seethalakshmi’s desire to return to India with the child meant

the marriage was irretrievably broken, slapped her on the face, and refused to produce

the child’s passport. Mahalingam turned over the passport after Seethalakshmi’s father

threatened to call the police. Seethalakshmi and the child departed to India in May

2014.

Seethalakshmi and Mahalingam Facetimed each other when she was back in

India, but Mahalingam never asked to Facetime with the child and indicated that he

wanted her to “change.” Meanwhile, Mahalingam’s parents and family in India were

denigrating Seethalakshmi’s reputation by telling people she came to India without

-2- No. 80296-8-I/3

Mahalingam’s permission. In order repair the marriage and return to Washington,

Seethalakshmi and her parents had to apologize to the business community, apologize

to Mahalingam’s family and pay them $3,000, and pay for the return tickets to Seattle.

In August 2015, after 15 months in India, Seethalakshmi and the child returned to

Washington. The marriage continued to deteriorate. Mahalingam complained to others

that Seethalakshmi was not working, but he would not provide her the immigration

papers she needed to get a work permit, and he sometimes took her laptop, keys, and

locked her inside or outside of the house for hours.

In December 2016, the couple had a two-day “mediation” that also involved a

neighbor and several of Mahalingam’s relatives and none of Seethalakshmi’s.

Mahalingam berated Seethalakshmi, yelled at her, and used abusive language. The

neighbor described Mahalingam as “about to explode.” Their child was present during

this mediation.

In 2017, the physical and emotional abuse worsened. Seethalakshmi called the

police several times. Mahalingam’s verbal abuse of Seethalakshmi, including degrading

her, always took place in front of their child. According to Seethalakshmi, she sent

photographs of her injuries to her uncle in Texas and to her parents. 3 Seethalakshmi

went to visit her uncle in Texas for a couple of weeks, she said, to escape

Mahalingam’s physical abuse. Upon her return to Washington, Seethalakshmi learned

that Mahalingam had gotten rid of her car, placed her clothes in the garbage, and

instructed her to sleep on the couch, on the floor, and in the garage. Meanwhile,

3 None of these photographs were produced at trial or made a part of the record on appeal.

-3- No. 80296-8-I/4

Mahalingam had taken over parenting the child and placed the child in extended day

care.

On September 15, 2017, Mahalingam and Seethalakshmi fought over the use of

a rice cooker. According to Seethalakshmi, Mahalingam hit her in the back and twisted

her hands behind her back. Seethalakshmi began to record the encounter on her

mobile phone. The video captured Mahalingam pushing Seethalakshmi three times,

almost causing her to fall. Law enforcement officers responded to the scene and

observed red marks and later bruises that were consistent with Seethalakshmi’s version

of the event.

Mahalingam was arrested and charged with assault in the fourth degree,

domestic violence. He accepted a Stipulated Order of Continuance that required him to

participate in domestic violence treatment, which he later completed. However,

Mahalingam demonstrated very little insight into his own behaviors and continued to

assert that his actions were all defensive.

On November 15, 2017, Mahalingam petitioned the King County Superior Court

for legal separation, which was eventually converted into a dissolution proceeding.

Days later, Seethalakshmi obtained a domestic violence protective order (DVPO) for

herself and the child. Mahalingam then stopped paying the rent, the utilities, and the

fee for the child to attend pre-kindergarten. He did not make any payments toward

supporting the child until the trial court required him to do so in a temporary order.

Seethalakshmi relied on friends to pay utility bills and to help her rent a studio

apartment. The trial court ordered Mahalingam to pay Seethalakshmi maintenance

based on his ability to pay and her need.

-4- No. 80296-8-I/5

During the four-day bench trial in April 2019, the trial court heard the testimony of

the parties, as well as 14 other family members, friends, and professionals. Sarah

Zubair, a Family Court Services social worker, who conducted a parenting evaluation

testified about her recommendations for a parenting plan. Zubair testified that

Mahalingam’s approach to parenting is “parent-centered.” Mahalingam was determined

to have the child placed in a “gifted academic program,” and yet the child’s teachers

said the child was below grade level. Zubair also testified that Mahalingam had signed

the child up for Kumon (beginning at age three), Indian dance and singing, piano,

gymnastics, and other activities.

Among other things, Zubair recommended that there be a restriction on

Free access — add to your briefcase to read the full text and ask questions with AI

Related

In Re Marriage of Littlefield
940 P.2d 1362 (Washington Supreme Court, 1997)
In Re the Marriage of Landry
699 P.2d 214 (Washington Supreme Court, 1985)
Mansour v. Mansour
106 P.3d 768 (Court of Appeals of Washington, 2004)
In Re Marriage of Bernard
204 P.3d 907 (Washington Supreme Court, 2009)
In Re The Marriage Of: Lance G. Rounds v. Brinetter R. Rounds
423 P.3d 895 (Court of Appeals of Washington, 2018)
In re the Marriage of Littlefield
133 Wash. 2d 39 (Washington Supreme Court, 1997)
In re the Marriage of Bernard
165 Wash. 2d 895 (Washington Supreme Court, 2009)
In re the Marriage of Katare
283 P.3d 546 (Washington Supreme Court, 2012)
In re the Marriage of Mansour
126 Wash. App. 1 (Court of Appeals of Washington, 2004)
In re the Marriage of Akon
160 Wash. App. 48 (Court of Appeals of Washington, 2011)
In re the Marriage of Kim
317 P.3d 555 (Court of Appeals of Washington, 2014)

Cite This Page — Counsel Stack

Bluebook (online)
Mahalingam Lakshmanan v. Setthalaksmhi Mahalingham, Counsel Stack Legal Research, https://law.counselstack.com/opinion/mahalingam-lakshmanan-v-setthalaksmhi-mahalingham-washctapp-2020.