L.J. v. R. J. CA4/3

CourtCalifornia Court of Appeal
DecidedOctober 31, 2023
DocketG061890
StatusUnpublished

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Filed 10/31/23 L.J. v. R. J. CA4/3

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IN THE COURT OF APPEAL OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA

FOURTH APPELLATE DISTRICT

DIVISION THREE

L.J.,

Respondent, G061890

v. (Super. Ct. No. 21D007379)

R.J., OPINION

Appellant.

Appeal from an order of the Superior Court of Orange County, Carmen R. Luege, Judge. Affirmed in part, reversed in part, and remanded. Strunk Loos and Shannon R. Thomas for Appellant. Sarieh Law Offices, Wail Sarieh and Jennifer Axelrod for Respondent. L.J. (Wife) and R.J. (Husband), who are now going through a marital dissolution, are the parents of three young children. It is unclear when their relationship began to deteriorate, but certainly by late 2021, the marriage was on an untenable path and Wife was seeing someone else. Wife filed for divorce after seeking and obtaining a temporary domestic violence restraining order (DVRO) against Husband. In October 2021, Husband had wielded a weapon inside the couple’s home and threatened to kill her (the gun incident). Even so, her request for a permanent DVRO was denied, with the judge then presiding, leaving the door open to reconsideration if there were new allegations. The DVRO and marital dissolution proceedings were merged. A little less than one year later, Wife filed a new request for a DVRO. This time, she pointed to a pattern of controlling and obsessive behavior by Husband, in addition to the gun incident. She also told the trial court her children were essentially being threatened and/or weaponized against her by Husband, and that he was systematically turning neighbors and friends against her. She wanted a DVRO protecting her and the children. The court granted the DVRO and ordered Husband to obtain a mental health assessment. Husband appeals not just the grant of the DVRO, but also its requirement that he obtain a mental health evaluation and treatment plan. The trial court felt he was struggling to cope with the breakdown of his marriage and his wife’s new relationship, and his struggles were becoming a danger to himself and his children. We appreciate the court’s concerns. However, we agree with Husband that the assessment order was an abuse of discretion. We reverse this aspect of the court’s ruling and remand it so the issue can be corrected. We affirm the remainder of the DVRO. FACTS Wife and Husband had an argument before Husband left for work. Husband awakened Wife and accused her of being in love with her personal trainer (Boyfriend). He then told her he was going to “go get a gun to kill us all.” According to

2 Wife, this was not the first time Husband had threatened to kill her—indeed, he had just 1 made the threat the week before. Husband proceeded to remove a handgun from the family gun safe and carry it in front of Wife. Wife took a video of this incident and sent the video to her mother. She “thought he was going to kill” her and the children, and she wanted her mother to “have a record of it.” Wife’s mother notified the police, who responded to the couple’s residence after Husband had departed for work. Husband was ultimately arrested and an emergency protective order was issued because of the incident. The following day, Wife filed an ex parte request for a DVRO. A temporary DVRO issued that day, and a hearing was conducted to consider the possibility of a permanent DVRO. After hearing testimony from Wife and Husband, the judge presiding at the time declined to issue a permanent DVRO. Husband had testified he had gotten the gun because he was concerned Boyfriend might be able to access it. The judge seemed to think Husband’s concern about his wife’s frequent communication with Boyfriend was credible. Having watched Wife’s video of the gun incident, the judge noted Husband had walked around with the gun in his hand, but had then secured it in his waistband behind him and later put it back. According to the judge, Husband did not appear to threaten anyone or lose his temper in the video. The judge also questioned whether Husband had ever made any threats because Wife had never called the police and had waited several weeks to seek a restraining order after Husband supposedly began making the threats. The court left open the possibility that grounds for a permanent DVRO might later come to light, stating Wife could refile based on any new allegations. Shortly after filing for the DVRO, Wife initiated divorce proceedings.

1 Husband testified he had caught Wife and Boyfriend in a compromising position in the back of Boyfriend’s truck about 10 days prior.

3 In March 2022, the Orange County Sheriff’s Department sought and obtained a gun violence restraining order (GVRO) against Husband based on the gun incident. At the GVRO hearing, the trial court found by clear and convincing evidence that Husband posed a significant danger to himself or others by possessing firearms. He was required to surrender his firearms and prohibited from possessing any for a period of five years. In April 2022, Husband and Wife were to do a custody exchange of the children in front of the family home. Husband chose to record the exchange and insisted he be permitted to enter the residence to view some slab-leak damage that had occurred. The video shows Wife was clearly uncomfortable allowing Husband to enter the home. Friends and neighbors of the couple began to publicly rebuke and harass Wife over her dispute with Husband, starting in February 2022. In February, one of Husband’s close friends had a written and public exchange with Wife on Facebook, faulting her for the situation. In May, the couple’s neighbor across the street called Wife “Amber,” a pejorative comparison to an actress who had been successfully sued by her former husband for defamation. The neighbor further testified she offered to take pictures of Boyfriend’s truck to help Husband prove Boyfriend was living at the 2 residence. Husband’s father also e-mailed Wife a photograph he had of her and wrote the word “slut.” On July 1, 2022, Wife filed a new request for DVRO. Her declaration in support of the request cited not only the gun incident, but all of the ensuing conduct summarized above, as well as the GVRO. Wife believed the previous denial of her permanent DVRO request had only “emboldened” Husband. The request was heard by a new judge in August 2022.

2 Wife had been friendly with this neighbor prior to the gun incident.

4 In addition to testimony from Wife, Husband, and their neighbors, Boyfriend testified he was staying in Wife’s house for her protection after the gun incident. He testified Wife has a lot of nightmares and seemed scared of Husband. Boyfriend also testified to the negative impact the discord had on the children. He claimed the six-year-old son had walked up to him after completing a visit with his dad, punched him in the groin, and said, “My dad told me to do that to you.” The child then turned to Wife, gestured as if to slit his own throat and said, “My daddy told me to do that to you.” On another occassion, Boyfriend recalled waking up around midnight or 1:00 a.m. and finding the child standing over Wife with a knife in his hand. She was trying to talk to him, and he simply held the knife over her and said, “My daddy told me to slit your throat in your sleep.” Further, he said the oldest child, a daughter, had become reluctant to visit with her dad. The youngest child, only four years old at the time, reported she had dreamed that her father was drowning her. Boyfriend was cross- examined by Husband’s attorney, and Boyfriend’s testimony did not vary.

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