Lillie Neace v. Bertha Neace

• Court: Court of Appeals of Kentucky
• Decided: December 8, 2022
• Docket: 2022 CA 000374
• Status: Unknown

Opinion

RENDERED: DECEMBER 9, 2022; 10:00 A.M. NOT TO BE PUBLISHED

Commonwealth of Kentucky Court of Appeals

NO. 2022-CA-0374-MR

LILLIE NEACE APPELLANT

APPEAL FROM BREATHITT FAMILY COURT v. HONORABLE LARRY MILLER, JUDGE ACTION NO. 20-CI-00116

BERTHA NEACE AND BYRON NEACE APPELLEES

OPINION AFFIRMING

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BEFORE: CLAYTON, CHIEF JUDGE; CALDWELL AND MAZE, JUDGES.

CLAYTON, CHIEF JUDGE: Lillie Neace appeals from the Breathitt Family

Court’s findings of fact, conclusions of law, and judgment denying her petition for

grandparent visitation. Having reviewed the record and applicable law, we affirm. FACTUAL AND PROCEDURAL BACKGROUND

Lillie Neace (Grandmother) is the paternal grandmother of Byron D.

Neace (Child), who was born on February 13, 2008. His parents are Bertha Renae

Neace, now Hollon, (Mother) and Grandmother’s late son, Ishmael Duane Neace

(Father).

In 2016, Grandmother, a widow, sold her house and contributed the

proceeds to help purchase a new home where she resided with Mother, Father, and

Child. The arrangement was amicable. Grandmother assisted the family

financially, served as Child’s babysitter, and occasionally took him to school and

medical appointments. Grandmother vacationed with the family and she and Child

developed a strong bond.

In 2018, the family decided to move to a different house. Shortly

before the move was to take place, Father died unexpectedly of a congenital

illness. Mother and Grandmother continued with the original plan and moved into

the new home, with Child, in December 2018.

Grandmother, Mother, and Child lived together for approximately

eighteen months following Father’s death. The relationship between Grandmother

and Mother began to deteriorate, in part because Mother began dating Alan Hollon,

whom she eventually married in April 2021. In July 2019, during a yard sale,

Grandmother and Mother got into an argument which escalated into a physical

-2- altercation. Grandmother tore the sleeve of Mother’s shirt and Mother grabbed her

arms and pushed her away. Child witnessed the fight. In his interview with the

family court, he stated that he was scared because Grandmother hit Mother on the

shoulder.

In April 2020, Mother and Child returned home late after spending the

day ATV driving with Hollon. They found Grandmother sitting with a handgun

lying on the dining table. According to Grandmother, the gun was for her

protection because she was home alone, and Mother and Child came in before she

could put it away. Grandmother was angry that they were spending time with

Hollon. She reminded Child she had bought him his four wheeler and told him he

was never to have it on Hollon’s trailer again. She threatened to fill Hollon full of

lead if he stepped on her property. Child was extremely upset and wanted to leave,

so he and Mother left that night to stay with Mother’s parents. Mother arranged to

have the title of the house changed to Grandmother’s name and transferred the

home loan to Grandmother.

Mother returned to the house on three occasions to retrieve her

belongings. She was accompanied by Deputy Sheriff Mike Wolfe, who described

cursing and name calling, mainly between Grandmother and Hollon. He described

Mother as remaining fairly calm and just wanting to get her things out of the

house. Child was not present on these occasions.

-3- Grandmother repeatedly tried to keep in touch with Child after he and

Mother moved out. Child vehemently refused to see Grandmother and Mother

refused to force him to see her. Mother reported that when they drove by

Grandmother’s house, Child would lie on the floorboards of the car to avoid

Grandmother catching sight of him. Grandmother attended Child’s ball games and

tried to speak with him there, but he hid in the locker room to avoid her. Mother

tried unsuccessfully to get an emergency protective order to prevent Grandmother

from coming to the games because her presence was causing Child so much

anxiety. Grandmother tried repeatedly to phone Child, at times very late at night,

and sent him numerous texts. He refused to respond.

On July 9, 2020, Grandmother filed a petition for grandparent

visitation. On Mother’s motion, the family court appointed a guardian ad litem

(GAL) for Child. Upon the recommendation of the GAL, Grandmother sent Child

a letter, but he refused to read it. The parties participated in mediation in

November 2020 at which they agreed that Child would receive counseling from his

school guidance counselor. Due to the constraints imposed by the COVID-19

pandemic and virtual schooling, Child’s first session with the counselor did not

take place until January 2021. Grandmother filed two motions requesting the

family court to order grief counseling for Child by a qualified mental health

professional. Mother responded that this was Child’s decision and the only

-4- counseling to which he would agree was from his school guidance counselor. The

trial court ruled that if the school counselor believed additional counseling by a

qualified mental health professional would be beneficial to Child, the parties

should agree to another counselor, and make arrangements for such counseling.

The school counselor did not make such a recommendation, however, opining that

Child did not require grief counseling for the death of his father. Following a

hearing, the family court denied Grandmother’s motion to make Child undergo

grief counseling.

A final hearing on the petition for grandparent visitation was held on

December 10, 2021. Grandmother testified that Father was her only child and

Child was her only grandchild. She initially got along well with Mother and her

earlier relationship with Child was very close. This was corroborated by the

testimony of a cousin of the family, Linda Neace, a social worker, who described

the relationship between Grandmother and Child as wonderful. Grandmother

claimed she did not know why Mother and Child moved out in 2020 and denied

that there had been a disagreement. She suggested that Mother did not appreciate

Grandmother telling her to give Child more time after she started dating Alan

Hollon and testified that Mother told her that grandparents do not have rights. She

testified that she was willing to meet Child in any setting, but he refused.

-5- Grandmother stated that she wanted to find out if there was manipulation behind

why he would not see her.

Mother testified that she repeatedly encouraged Child to meet

Grandmother, but he refused because he is fearful of her. She described how he

falls to the floorboards of the car when he sees her and will not come out of the

locker room if she attends his ball games. She assured the court that “the day he

says he wants to see her, I’ll take him.” Mother testified that since the break with

Grandmother, Child was doing very well at school, is peaceful, does not argue, has

gained weight, is more outgoing, and has lots of friends. She reported that Child

feared the court would not listen to him and he would be forced to see

Grandmother and relive past conflicts. He did not want to go to a grief counselor.

Mother acknowledged that when they lived together, she used Grandmother as a

babysitter and that they had a happy relationship while Father was alive. She was

adamant that she was not going to force him to see Grandmother.

Child was thirteen years of age and attending the seventh grade at the

time of his interview with the trial court. He was very upset and crying throughout

the interview. He reported that he witnessed Grandmother hitting his mother and

that he was scared. He also described the incident when they returned home and

saw Grandmother with the gun on the dining table, and he told the court he thought

the gun was there to hurt his mother. Child admitted that Grandmother had never

-6- hit or pushed him. He told the court Grandmother tried calling him at one or two

o’clock in the morning which also scared him. He steadfastly stated he did not

want to see Grandmother, in person or via phone call or videoconference. The

family court explained that his Grandmother loved him very much and that she

came to court to tell her side of the story, as it was her only way to see him. Child

explained that he needed more time, possibly a year or two, before he could see her

again. He told the court he wished Grandmother would quit the things she is

doing, such as instigating the court proceedings.

The family court concluded that it would be emotionally damaging

and not in his best interest to force Child to have contact with Grandmother and,

based on his answers and his distraught demeanor, the court agreed with Child that

he needed more time.

The court entered extensive findings of fact, conclusions of law, and

judgment denying the petition for grandparent visitation. It did not find by clear

and convincing evidence that visitation would be in Child’s best interest at that

time but also stated that there was nothing in the judgment to prevent Child from

contacting Grandmother if he wished to do so. This appeal by Grandmother

followed.

-7- STANDARD OF REVIEW

KRS 405.021(1)(a) provides that the “Circuit Court may grant

reasonable visitation rights to either the paternal or maternal grandparents of a

child . . . if it determines that it is in the best interest of the child to do so.” In

Troxel v. Granville, 530 U.S. 57, 120 S. Ct. 2054, 147 L. Ed. 2d 49 (2000), the

United States Supreme Court recognized that parents’ fundamental right to raise

their children means “there is a presumption that fit parents act in the best interests

of their children[,]” and that “if a fit parent’s decision . . . becomes subject to

judicial review, the court must accord at least some special weight to the parent’s

own determination.” Id. at 70, 120 S. Ct. at 2062. Because of this constitutional

presumption, the Kentucky Supreme Court has held that a grandparent must show

that visitation is in the child’s best interest by the heightened clear and convincing

standard. “In other words, the grandparent must show that the fit parent is clearly

mistaken in the belief that grandparent visitation is not in the child’s best interest.

If the grandparent fails to present such evidence to the court, then parental

opposition alone is sufficient to deny the grandparent visitation.” Walker v. Blair,

382 S.W.3d 862, 871 (Ky. 2012).

In determining whether visitation is in the child’s best interest, the

trial court can consider several factors:

1) the nature and stability of the relationship between the child and the grandparent seeking visitation;

-8- 2) the amount of time the grandparent and child spent together;

3) the potential detriments and benefits to the child from granting visitation;

4) the effect granting visitation would have on the child’s relationship with the parents;

5) the physical and emotional health of all the adults involved, parents and grandparents alike;

6) the stability of the child’s living and schooling arrangements; . . .

7) the wishes and preferences of the child[;]

. . . [and]

8) the motivation of the adults participating in the grandparent visitation proceedings.

Id.

“We review the trial court’s findings of fact applying the clearly

erroneous standard, under which we give due regard to the opportunity of the trial

court to judge the credibility of the witnesses.” Id. at 867 (internal quotation marks

and citations omitted). “But the interpretation of KRS 405.021(1) in accordance

with federal constitutional law and the application of the appropriate standard to

the facts are issues of law that we review de novo.” Id.

-9- ANALYSIS

I. The Standard of Proof

Grandmother argues that the clear and convincing standard of proof

mandated in Walker v. Blair, supra, does not apply in this case because Mother did

not oppose visitation. Mother testified that she would not oppose Child visiting

Grandmother if he consented to do so, but that she would not compel him. On that

basis, Grandmother argues she should not have been required to show by clear and

convincing evidence that grandparent visitation was in Child’s best interest. But

Mother was opposing visitation, not from her own personal motivation, but

because she believes it is in Child’s best interest. Consequently, under Walker, the

assumption that as a fit parent she was acting in his best interest does apply and so

does the clear and convincing standard of proof.

II. Grief Counseling

Next, Grandmother argues that the family court erred by prioritizing

Child’s wishes over the emotional health of the parties by not ordering Child to

receive grief counseling from a qualified mental health professional. She contends

that Child’s highly emotional and tearful responses during his interview should not

have been used by the family court as the basis for denying visitation but should

instead have warranted evaluation by a mental health provider. She criticizes the

trial court’s delegation of this responsibility to a guidance counselor whose

-10- effectiveness she questions on the grounds that the counselor serves several

hundred children and met with Child on only two occasions.

But there was substantial evidence before the court that Child did not

require grief counseling. Mother testified that his mental and physical health

improved dramatically after stopping contact with Grandmother. He was excelling

at school, he had many friends, was less anxious, and was gaining needed weight.

There was little evidence that his resistance to visiting with Grandmother was

related to grief stemming from the death of his father, which occurred over a year

before he and Mother moved out. Child’s own candid statements to the court

revealed that he fears Grandmother as a threat to his Mother and sees her as a

disruptive influence in his life. His fear is based on Grandmother’s physical

altercation with Mother and Grandmother’s threat of violence against Alan Hollon,

who is now Child’s stepfather and with whom he has a good relationship.

Grandmother relies on an unpublished opinion of this Court, J.M. v.

L.H., No. 2014-CA-001608-ME, 2015 WL 2330454 (Ky. App. May 15, 2015),

which affirmed an award of grandparent visitation and ordered all the parties to

attend a parental education clinic. The Court in that case found considerable

animosity between the parents and grandmother and manipulation and potential

mental health issues on both sides. The Court concluded, however, that the

grandmother’s desire for a loving relationship with the child and the child’s clear

-11- love for the grandmother and desire to visit with her outweighed the other negative

factors. Id. at *2.

The case before us is clearly distinguishable, however, because Child

is vehemently opposed to visitation with Grandmother and evidence was elicited

that he suffers from anxiety and stress when he encounters her. “Counseling is one

of many tools a family court has in effecting its purpose of ‘strengthen[ing] and

preserv[ing] the integrity of the family and safeguard[ing] marital and familial

relationships.’ KRS 23A.110(1). Whether to order counseling in a given case is a

matter within the family court’s sound discretion.” N.B. v. C.H., 351 S.W.3d 214,

220 (Ky. App. 2011). In N.B., this Court affirmed the family court’s refusal to

compel a child to continue participating in reconciliation counseling with her

mother. The child “stringently expressed resistance to additional counseling and

other reconciliation efforts[,]” and the family therapist expressed concern that

pushing her “into a reconciliation attempt might be counterproductive.” Id. at 220.

A similar analysis is applicable in this case. Child was opposed to further

counseling and the school guidance counselor opined that he was not anxious,

depressed, or in trouble and that compelling him to attend grief or mental health

counseling was not necessary. The trial court’s decision not to order grief

counseling was well within its sound discretion.

-12- III. Child’s Wishes

Finally, Grandmother argues that all the factors outlined in Walker

support visitation, except for the wishes of Child, and that the trial court abused its

discretion in basing its ruling solely on this factor. She contends that the fact she

had a longstanding bond with Child, had provided financial support for him, and

cared for him for many years, should outweigh the wishes of a minor child. She

reiterates that Child’s wishes were based on emotion and his difficulty dealing with

the death of Father, which she claims is evidenced by the emotional interview with

the family court.

There is no authority stating that the court must base its decision on

all the best interest factors or that they need all be given equal weight. Nor is a

court barred from giving greater weight to one of the factors above all the others.

Grandmother argues that Nein v. Columbia, 517 S.W.3d 492 (Ky.

App. 2017) in which an award of grandparent visitation was upheld, compels a

similar result in her case. In Nein, the grandparents had served as the primary

babysitters/caregivers for the child since he was an infant. His mother began

limiting their contact when he was about nine years of age, alleging that he

misbehaved when he returned home from his grandparents’ house. The Court

noted, however, that the decision to restrict visitation occurred shortly after the

great-grandmother refused to lend the mother money. The opinion emphasized,

-13- reiterating the Walker standard, that “while the petitioning grandparent need not

show that denying visitation will harm the child, they must ‘show that the fit parent

is clearly mistaken in the belief that grandparent visitation is not in the child’s best

interest.’ If the grandparent is unable to make this showing, ‘then parental

opposition alone is sufficient to deny the grandparent visitation.’” Id. at 496

(citation omitted). In Nein, unlike the case before us, the child informed the court

that he wanted to spend more time with his grandparents and for things to go back

to the way they were. Id. at 498. Based on the record before us, Grandmother

simply failed to provide clear and convincing evidence that Mother was mistaken

in believing that visitation was not in Child’s best interest. Child is an articulate

and intelligent teenager who clearly expressed his wishes, and the basis of his

opposition to visitation, to the family court. Mother testified that Child was

physically and emotionally healthier and happier not having contact with

Grandmother for the time being. The family court applied the appropriate standard

in giving decisive weight to Mother’s decision to respect Child’s wishes, based on

her own observation and insight.

CONCLUSION

For the foregoing reasons, we affirm the findings of fact, conclusions

of law, and judgment of the Breathitt Family Court.

ALL CONCUR.

-14- BRIEF FOR APPELLANT: BRIEF FOR APPELLEE:

Melissa C. Howard Christina Edmonds-Noble Tammy E. Howard Jackson, Kentucky Jackson, Kentucky

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