In the Matter of the Marriage of: Bethany Alhaidari & Ghassan Abdulrahman Alhaidari

Court of Appeals of Washington·Decided November 14, 2023·No. 38084-0·Unpublished

Opinion

FILED NOVEMBER 14, 2023 In the Office of the Clerk of Court WA State Court of Appeals Division III

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF THE STATE OF WASHINGTON DIVISION THREE

In the Matter of the Marriage of ) ) No. 38084-0-III BETHANY ALHAIDARI, ) ) Petitioner, ) ) and ) UNPUBLISHED OPINION ) GHASSAN ABDULRAHMAN ) ALHAIDARI, ) ) Respondent. )

FEARING, C.J. — This appeal presents unique questions of whether Washington

courts should decline subject matter jurisdiction over a child custody dispute or enforce

an earlier child custody decree and agreement entered in Saudi Arabia. Father Ghassan

AlHaidari challenges the Chelan County Superior Court’s exercise of jurisdiction and

award of temporary custody of the child, ZA, to mother Bethany AlHaidari. RCW No. 38084-0-III In re Marriage of AlHaidari

26.27.051, a section of Washington’s Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and

Enforcement Act, controls. We affirm the superior court’s exercise of jurisdiction on the

basis of RCW 26.27.051(4), which allows Washington courts to exercise jurisdiction,

despite a foreign custody decree, if a parent is subject to the death penalty if she returns

to the foreign nation.

FACTS

We take the facts from declarations signed by the parties and their witnesses and

particularly from the superior court’s letter ruling, which includes implied findings of

fact. We often refer to the father and mother respectively by their first names. We refer

to their daughter simply as ZA, in order to protect her identity and privacy.

Ghassan and Bethany AlHaidari married in Saudi Arabia in November 2013.

Bethany is a United States citizen, and Ghassan is a citizen of Saudi Arabia. The couple

begot ZA, in Saudi Arabia, in December 2014. ZA is a citizen of both the United States

and Saudi Arabia.

Ghassan and Bethany AlHaidari encountered difficulties in their relationship,

which strife worsened over the years. The parties went to counseling in an effort to

resolve their relationship problems. The problems continued. Bethany claims that

Ghassan verbally and physically abused her, sometimes in the presence of their daughter.

Ghassan denies these allegations.

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In September 2017, Bethany AlHaidari asked Ghassan for a divorce. In Saudi

Arabia, if Bethany filed for divorce, the law demanded that she provide a reason and

return her dowry. Ghassan could file for divorce without making payment and without

giving any reason. Ghassan refused the request for a divorce. Later, however, Ghassan

contended that he had divorced Bethany in 2018.

Bethany AlHaidari’s legal residence in Saudi Arabia depended on the cooperation

of Ghassan because, as husband, he was her legal guardian. In 2018, Bethany requested

that Ghassan update her residency status in Saudi Arabia, and he refused. He also

refused to allow ZA and Bethany to visit Bethany’s family in Washington State.

On February 7, 2019, Bethany AlHaidari’s permission from the Saudi Arabia

government to reside in the county expired. Bethany no longer held legal status in Saudi

Arabia and, therefore, could not file proceedings in the Saudi court system. She also

could not pay salaries for her company’s employees, nor access her bank account for risk

of being deported or jailed. The Saudi government provided her with legal residency

status again after Bethany spoke to the media and the New York Times published her

story.

In November 2018, Bethany filed for divorce. Bethany alleged Ghassan’s

substance abuse and domestic violence to be reasons for divorce. In January 2019, a

Saudi Arabia judge granted the divorce and custody of ZA to Bethany AlHaidari.

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The Chelan County Superior Court described the January 2019 Saudi divorce

proceedings:

1.) Bethany struggled to communicate her position and defend herself because she had no legal counsel and the court appointed interpreter did not speak or understand basic English. 2.) Bethany was denied $26,000 in alimony because Ghassan claimed he “Islamicly divorced” Bethany in May of 2018 and swore under oath he was telling the truth, despite Bethany’s testimony and text messages expressing his refusal to divorce her at that time. Bethany’s testimony was not considered because she could not provide two male witnesses to support her testimony. 3.) Although Bethany wore a full body black covering that also covered her hair, she was ordered by the judge to leave the courtroom and only return if her entire face, including her eyes, was covered as well. This is particularly relevant because it demonstrates the impact of the accusations and photos Ghassan presented to the Saudi court later in the case in order to discredit Bethany.

Clerk’s Papers (CP) at 994.

The parties dispute whether Ghassan AlHaidari refused to see ZA or Bethany

denied him visitation after the January 2019 divorce decree. Regardless, in April of

2019, Ghassan sued Bethany for child visitation. He also asked the court to award

custody of ZA to his mother, AlBandari AlMigren, with whom he lived at the time.

The parties thereafter engaged in a bitter custody battle in the Riyadh, Saudi

Arabia court. Both sides tendered inflammatory accusations about the other in an attempt

to discredit the other’s ability to parent. Ghassan denunciated Bethany as being an unfit

mother because she had a learning disability, worked full time, and placed ZA in school.

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In April 2019, Ghassan AlHaidari posted a video on social media that showed an

uncloaked Bethany practicing yoga in Riyadh’s American diplomatic quarters. Ghassan

also delivered a copy of the video to Saudi police. Police investigated Bethany for

criminal charges of public indecency and disrupting public order, a criminal charge that

could result in lashings and imprisonment.

In the ensuing custody hearing, Ghassan AlHaidari presented to the Saudi judge a

photograph, taken in the United States, of Bethany in a bikini and the video of her

practicing yoga. Ghassan also submitted a video of Bethany commenting, during a visit

between ZA and her father, that it was “me time.” CP at 995.

During the custody battle, Ghassan AlHaidari accused Bethany of gender mixing,

adultery, and insulting Islam and Saudi Arabia. Gender mixing, a punishable crime,

entails having a male friend. To prove the charge of adultery, Ghassan submitted a

photograph of Bethany with a male, who Ghassan claimed to be her boyfriend. The

crimes of adultery, insulting Islam, and insulting Saudi Arabia carry a death penalty in

Saudi Arabia.

During the custody proceedings, Bethany AlHaidari asserted that Ghassan had

agreed that ZA live with Bethany, but now acted from revenge rather than in furtherance

of ZA’ s well-being. Bethany brought to court videos of verbal abuse and death threats

from Ghassan and his drug use. The judge declined to view these videos.

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Ghassan’s sister, Leena AlHaidari, testified in court against her own mother,

AlBandari AlMigren. Leena averred that her mother was abusive, unfit to parent, and

addicted to pills.

In June 2019, Saudi Arabia Judge Abdul-Ellah ibn Mohammed Al-Tuwaijiri ruled

that “‘though all three candidates were unsuitable to parent, the grandmother was better

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