In the Matter of the Marriage of: Bethany Alhaidari & Ghassan Abdulrahman Alhaidari

Court of Appeals of Washington·Decided November 14, 2023·No. 38084-0·Unpublished

Opinion

FILED

NOVEMBER 14, 2023

In the Office of the Clerk of Court WA State Court of Appeals Division III

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF THE STATE OF WASHINGTON DIVISION THREE

In the Matter of the Marriage of )

) No. 38084-0-III BETHANY ALHAIDARI, )

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Petitioner, )

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and ) UNPUBLISHED OPINION )

GHASSAN ABDULRAHMAN ) ALHAIDARI, )

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Respondent. )

FEARING, C.J. — This appeal presents unique questions of whether Washington courts should decline subject matter jurisdiction over a child custody dispute or enforce an earlier child custody decree and agreement entered in Saudi Arabia. Father Ghassan AlHaidari challenges the Chelan County Superior Court’s exercise of jurisdiction and award of temporary custody of the child, ZA, to mother Bethany AlHaidari. RCW

In re Marriage of AlHaidari

26.27.051, a section of Washington’s Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act, controls. We affirm the superior court’s exercise of jurisdiction on the basis of RCW 26.27.051(4), which allows Washington courts to exercise jurisdiction, despite a foreign custody decree, if a parent is subject to the death penalty if she returns to the foreign nation.

FACTS

We take the facts from declarations signed by the parties and their witnesses and particularly from the superior court’s letter ruling, which includes implied findings of fact. We often refer to the father and mother respectively by their first names. We refer to their daughter simply as ZA, in order to protect her identity and privacy.

Ghassan and Bethany AlHaidari married in Saudi Arabia in November 2013.

Bethany is a United States citizen, and Ghassan is a citizen of Saudi Arabia. The couple begot ZA, in Saudi Arabia, in December 2014. ZA is a citizen of both the United States and Saudi Arabia.

Ghassan and Bethany AlHaidari encountered difficulties in their relationship, which strife worsened over the years. The parties went to counseling in an effort to resolve their relationship problems. The problems continued. Bethany claims that Ghassan verbally and physically abused her, sometimes in the presence of their daughter. Ghassan denies these allegations.

In re Marriage of AlHaidari

In September 2017, Bethany AlHaidari asked Ghassan for a divorce. In Saudi Arabia, if Bethany filed for divorce, the law demanded that she provide a reason and return her dowry. Ghassan could file for divorce without making payment and without giving any reason. Ghassan refused the request for a divorce. Later, however, Ghassan contended that he had divorced Bethany in 2018.

Bethany AlHaidari’s legal residence in Saudi Arabia depended on the cooperation of Ghassan because, as husband, he was her legal guardian. In 2018, Bethany requested that Ghassan update her residency status in Saudi Arabia, and he refused. He also refused to allow ZA and Bethany to visit Bethany’s family in Washington State.

On February 7, 2019, Bethany AlHaidari’s permission from the Saudi Arabia government to reside in the county expired. Bethany no longer held legal status in Saudi Arabia and, therefore, could not file proceedings in the Saudi court system. She also could not pay salaries for her company’s employees, nor access her bank account for risk of being deported or jailed. The Saudi government provided her with legal residency status again after Bethany spoke to the media and the New York Times published her story.

In November 2018, Bethany filed for divorce. Bethany alleged Ghassan’s substance abuse and domestic violence to be reasons for divorce. In January 2019, a Saudi Arabia judge granted the divorce and custody of ZA to Bethany AlHaidari.

In re Marriage of AlHaidari

The Chelan County Superior Court described the January 2019 Saudi divorce proceedings:

1.) Bethany struggled to communicate her position and defend herself because she had no legal counsel and the court appointed interpreter did not speak or understand basic English. 2.) Bethany was denied $26,000 in alimony because Ghassan claimed he “Islamicly divorced”

Bethany in May of 2018 and swore under oath he was telling the truth, despite Bethany’s testimony and text messages expressing his refusal to divorce her at that time. Bethany’s testimony was not considered because she could not provide two male witnesses to support her testimony. 3.)

Although Bethany wore a full body black covering that also covered her hair, she was ordered by the judge to leave the courtroom and only return if her entire face, including her eyes, was covered as well. This is particularly relevant because it demonstrates the impact of the accusations and photos Ghassan presented to the Saudi court later in the case in order to discredit Bethany.

Clerk’s Papers (CP) at 994.

The parties dispute whether Ghassan AlHaidari refused to see ZA or Bethany denied him visitation after the January 2019 divorce decree. Regardless, in April of 2019, Ghassan sued Bethany for child visitation. He also asked the court to award custody of ZA to his mother, AlBandari AlMigren, with whom he lived at the time.

The parties thereafter engaged in a bitter custody battle in the Riyadh, Saudi Arabia court. Both sides tendered inflammatory accusations about the other in an attempt to discredit the other’s ability to parent. Ghassan denunciated Bethany as being an unfit mother because she had a learning disability, worked full time, and placed ZA in school.

In re Marriage of AlHaidari

In April 2019, Ghassan AlHaidari posted a video on social media that showed an uncloaked Bethany practicing yoga in Riyadh’s American diplomatic quarters. Ghassan also delivered a copy of the video to Saudi police. Police investigated Bethany for criminal charges of public indecency and disrupting public order, a criminal charge that could result in lashings and imprisonment.

In the ensuing custody hearing, Ghassan AlHaidari presented to the Saudi judge a photograph, taken in the United States, of Bethany in a bikini and the video of her practicing yoga. Ghassan also submitted a video of Bethany commenting, during a visit between ZA and her father, that it was “me time.” CP at 995.

During the custody battle, Ghassan AlHaidari accused Bethany of gender mixing, adultery, and insulting Islam and Saudi Arabia. Gender mixing, a punishable crime, entails having a male friend. To prove the charge of adultery, Ghassan submitted a photograph of Bethany with a male, who Ghassan claimed to be her boyfriend. The crimes of adultery, insulting Islam, and insulting Saudi Arabia carry a death penalty in Saudi Arabia.

During the custody proceedings, Bethany AlHaidari asserted that Ghassan had agreed that ZA live with Bethany, but now acted from revenge rather than in furtherance of ZA’ s well-being. Bethany brought to court videos of verbal abuse and death threats from Ghassan and his drug use. The judge declined to view these videos.

In re Marriage of AlHaidari

Ghassan’s sister, Leena AlHaidari, testified in court against her own mother, AlBandari AlMigren. Leena averred that her mother was abusive, unfit to parent, and addicted to pills.

In June 2019, Saudi Arabia Judge Abdul-Ellah ibn Mohammed Al-Tuwaijiri ruled that “‘though all three candidates were unsuitable to parent, the grandmother was better than the parents.’” CP at 995. The court derided Bethany as a foreigner, who embraced western cultural traditions. The judge lamented that ZA spoke fluent English. According to Judge Tuwaijiri, ZA needed protection from Bethany’s western culture and traditions. The Saudi court awarded custody to Ghassan’s mother.

Bethany AlHaidari sought assistance from the media, the United States government, and human rights organizations. Meanwhile, Ghassan filed a complaint with the Saudi government alleging Bethany refused visitation. The Saudi government issued an arrest warrant for Bethany and a ten-year travel ban prohibiting her from leaving Saudi Arabia.

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