In Re the Marriage of Phipps

379 N.W.2d 26, 1985 Iowa App. LEXIS 1532
CourtCourt of Appeals of Iowa
DecidedOctober 29, 1985
Docket84-1884
StatusPublished
Cited by9 cases

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In Re the Marriage of Phipps, 379 N.W.2d 26, 1985 Iowa App. LEXIS 1532 (iowactapp 1985).

Opinion

SACKETT, Judge.

Larry Phipps appeals from the trial court’s refusal to modify his dissolution decree and award him custody of his daughter. Carolyn Phipps cross-appeals contending the trial court should have increased the child support awarded on modification and modified the decree to provide for cost of living increases and awarded her attorney fees.

The parties’ marriage was dissolved in 1976 and custody of the parties’ two minor children, Chris a son born in 1967 and Carrie a daughter born in 1972, was placed with Carolyn. In about 1980, Chris’s custody was transferred to Larry by agreement of the parties.

Both parties remarried following the dissolution. Carolyn’s second marriage was dissolved in 1983. Larry and his second wife live in Marshalltown with her three children and Chris. Carrie has at all times resided with her mother in Grinnell.

Larry seeks the change because he feels Carrie’s emotional and intellectual development have been hindered in Carolyn’s care and because he contends he and his current wife will more adequately meet Carrie’s needs. The trial court after a lengthy hearing and after carefully considering the evidence determined Carrie should remain with her mother.

I.

WAS THE TRIAL COURT CORRECT IN FAILING TO MODIFY THE DECREE AND AWARD CARRIE’S CUSTODY TO LARRY?

Our review is de novo. We give weight to the fact finding of the trial court but will not abdicate our duty to review de novo. We determine the issues presented upon the facts disclosed of record. Hobson v. Hobson, 248 N.W.2d 137, 139 (Iowa 1976).

The first and governing consideration is the best interest of the child. In re Marriage of Melton, 256 N.W.2d 200, 205 (Iowa 1977). A person seeking a change of custody must show a superior claim, based upon an ability to minister to the child’s needs more effectively than the custodial parents. The custody of children who are receiving proper care should not be disturbed in absence of cogent or compelling reasons. In re Marriage of Deck, 342 N.W.2d 892, 895 (Iowa App.1983).

With these principles in mind we examine the record before us. This cause comes to us with a lengthy record. Both parties introduced evidence from persons having some degree of expertise in the area of child development and inter-family relations. At the onset it is very clear to this court, as it was to the trial court and the experts testifying at trial, that Larry and Carolyn have failed to maintain any meaningful communication with each other with reference to the physical and emotional development of their two children. The record clearly reflects both parties share the blame for the lack of communication. The unfortunate fact is the parents’ failure to communicate has put Carrie under considerable stress, and this has had a serious effect on Carrie’s development. Carrie has experienced medical problems because of the stress, her attendance at school has *28 been below average, and her academic performance has been below her ability level.

Larry seeks to blame all of Carrie’s problems on Carolyn’s home environment. We, however, determine both parents are at fault. In In re the Marriage of Melton, 256 N.W.2d 200, 207 (Iowa 1977), the Iowa Supreme Court said, “If these parents are sincerely interested in the welfare of Bryan they will put their hostilities aside and strive to provide a loving environment.” Those words apply to the parents here.

Larry basically contends Carrie’s problems will be resolved if she lives with Larry and his current wife. Larry claims Chris had similar problems in his mother’s home and that Chris has had a better attitude and academic performance since living with Larry. This fact is supported by the record. Chris testified and related that he is doing well in his father’s home. He does not, however, feel Carrie should live with her father in part because he and Carrie have different personalities and Carrie would not relate to his father’s home as he has.

The record reflects Larry’s home is more elaborate. He and his current wife have a more structured and disciplined environment than Carolyn does. They are conscious and concerned parents.

We determine Larry has an excellent home and Carrie’s needs would be met there. However, this alone is not sufficient to show he has a superior ability to minister to his daughter’s needs. See In re Marriage of Melton, 256 N.W.2d at 207. We also consider the following:

1. Carrie has lived with her mother since infancy. There is a strong bonding. Carrie professes to have an excellent relationship with her mother.
2. Carrie is a happy child. She has many friends. She likes living in Grinnell and is adjusted in school there.
3. Carrie has testified she does not like her father’s current wife, nor does she wish to live in her father’s home. While deciding custody is more complicated than asking children what, parent they want to live with, Carrie’s preference is relevant and cannot be ignored. In re Marriage of Gravatt, 371 N.W.2d 836, 840 (Iowa App.1985).
4. Carrie has lived alone with her mother for some time. If sent to her father’s home, she would share parental attention with several children including a stepsister two years her senior.
5. Carrie has been adequately fed, clothed, and supervised in her mother’s home.

Carolyn has had some problems precipitated in part by tragic circumstances including the suicide of her sister. Carolyn’s own expert testified Carolyn exhibited some lack of consistency in parenting. Parenting and child-rearing is not an exact science. It is a twenty-four hour a day job. A parent is not expected to perform perfectly at all times. The stress and problems of everyday living create situations to which parents and children must adjust. A child’s reactions to certain situations are not always predictable. A parent who has been granted sole custody or physical care must not be under constant scrutiny and must feel free to function as a parent within normal bounds.

Larry must show that any changed circumstances were permanent and continuous in nature and not contemplated by the court when the dissolution decree was entered. See In re Marriage of Mikelson, 299 N.W.2d 670, 671 (Iowa 1980).

We commend Larry and his wife for their interest in this child and their concern for her care. We fail to find, however, that Larry has met the burden necessary to support a modification and affirm the decision of the trial court leaving custody with Carolyn.

II.

WAS THE MODIFICATION OF SUPPORT ORDER BY THE TRIAL COURT SUFFICIENT?

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