In re the Marriage of Demmer

CourtCourt of Appeals of Iowa
DecidedSeptember 12, 2018
Docket17-0831
StatusPublished

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IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF IOWA

No. 17-0831 Filed September 12, 2018

IN RE THE MARRIAGE OF JOSHUA ROBERT DEMMER AND JACQUELYN A. DEMMER

Upon the Petition of JOSHUA ROBERT DEMMER, Petitioner-Appellee,

And Concerning JACQUELYN A. DEMMER, Respondent-Appellant. ________________________________________________________________

Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Delaware County, Monica Wittig,

Judge.

Jacquelyn Demmer appeals from the custody, support, and property

distribution provisions of the decree dissolving her marriage to Joshua Demmer.

AFFIRMED AS MODIFIED.

Dawn D. Long and Kevin C. Rigdon of Howes Law Firm, PC, Cedar Rapids,

for appellant.

Crystal L. Usher of Nazette, Marner, Nathanson & Shea, LLP, Cedar

Rapids, for appellee.

Considered by Danilson, C.J., Mullins, J. and Mahan, S.J.*

*Senior judge assigned by order pursuant to Iowa Code section 602.9206 (2018). 2

DANILSON, Chief Judge.

Jacquelyn (Jacque) Demmer appeals from the custody, support, and

property distribution provisions of the decree dissolving her marriage to Joshua

(Josh) Demmer. Jacque contends the trial court erred in granting sole legal

custody and physical care of the parties’ three children to Josh. She also asserts

the court improperly placed restrictions on visitation with her parents, erred in not

awarding her spousal support, failed to divide the marital property equitably, erred

in awarding Josh with the tax dependency exemptions, and improperly calculated

child support. Jacque also argues she was entitled to trial attorney fees and asks

that we award her appellate attorney fees.

On our de novo review, we modify the decree to provide for joint legal

custody and strike the reference to Jacque’s parents’ care-providing abilities. We

award no appellate attorney fees.

I. Background Facts and Proceedings.

Jacque and Josh met on line in 2006. Jacque was working full time and

living in Cedar Rapids with friends. Josh was working full time as an architect and

living with friends in Waterloo. The two were engaged in May 2007.

In June 2007, Jacque was involved in a car accident and, in the aftermath

of the accident, she became estranged from her parents. Jacque moved in with

Josh following the car accident and began graduate school at the University of

Northern Iowa (UNI) in August.

On December 4, and 11, 2007, Jacque and Josh attended two counseling

sessions together and, on December 12, Jacque was involved in a serious car

accident on her way to work in Cedar Rapids. She sustained several injuries and 3

required speech therapy after the accident. Though Jacque had previously

suffered from migraines, her migraines worsened after the accident and were often

debilitating.

In February 2008, Jacque began seeing a counselor, where she focused on

the emotional aspects “affect[ing] Jacque’s self-esteem and how she interpreted

her interactions with other people.” In April 2008, Jacque was referred to a doctor

for possible medication in relation to anxiety.

Josh and Jacque bought a house in Waterloo in early 2008. To purchase

the home, Josh received a gift of $20,000 from his parents for the down payment.

In addition, Josh’s parents loaned him an additional $20,000 to go toward the down

payment.

The parties married on July 26, 2008. She continued treatment and was

prescribed medication for anxiety. Jacque gave birth to the parties’ first child in

May 2010 and experienced post-partum depression and anxiety. She was

hospitalized in a psychiatric ward.

In October, Jacque returned to UNI counseling services “to address anxiety

issues.” She reported being prescribed medication for anxiety and that she was

prescribed Darvaset for her migraines but would rather get Hydrocodone again.

Jacque graduated with a Masters in School Counseling degree in December 2010.

After graduation, Jacque first worked as a substitute counselor at an

elementary school beginning April 3, 2011. The position was supposed to run

through the end of the semester but did not. On May 1, Jacque took an overdose

of Alprazolam, a benzodiazepine prescribed to treat anxiety. Jacque was about

four months’ pregnant at the time. 4

Jacque gave birth to the couple’s second child in October 2011. In

November, Jacque began working at GMAC Mortgage. Jacque worked there for

approximately six months.

In 2012, the parties sold their Waterloo residence and began to rent a house

in Manchester where Josh’s parents lived. Prior to the sale of their home, Josh

and Jacque had borrowed an additional $21,000 from his parents to pay off some

of Jacque’s high interest student loans. Upon the sale of the Waterloo house, they

repaid Josh’s parents the $21,000 for payment of the student loan but did not repay

the $20,000 loaned to them in 2008 for the down payment.

In early 2012, Jacque was experiencing migraines about three times per

week, which left her incapable of caring for the children so Josh would take the

children to his mother while he worked.

On June 3, 2012, Jacque was again hospitalized for suicidal thoughts.

While she was in the hospital, Josh and his parents cared for the two children.

Jacque resigned from GMAC before her employment was terminated for

excessive absences. She then found another position, but did not complete

required training, and thus could not continue her employment

About this time period in 2012, a clinical note indicates Jacque “lacks

insight, in spite of a lot of explanation about the nature of her illness and importance

of taking her medication regularly. Compliance with medication is major problem.”

Jacque totaled one of the family vehicles on February 4, 2013.

On October 2, 2013, Jacque again attempted suicide. She took many pills

and then sent a message to a friend, who contacted emergency personnel. Both

children were present and awake when the police arrived and Jacque was taken 5

to the hospital by ambulance. After her condition stabilized, Jacque was taken to

the inpatient psychiatric ward for a week.

By way of several checks written in 2014, Josh’s parents loaned the couple

$280,000 to purchase a lot and build a house in Manchester. All of the checks

were made payable to Josh Demmer. On December 29, 2014, after the house

was constructed, Josh and Jacque signed a note and mortgage for the $280,000

owed to Josh’s parents.

On February 6, 2014, Jacque went to take a shower and slit her wrists while

Josh and the children were in the living room. Josh found Jacque bleeding, though

the cuts were not deep, bandaged her arms, and got her to bed.

In March 2014, the couple found out Jacque was pregnant again. In April

2014, Jacque began to work at Abbe Center in a Delhi facility. She worked there

for four months until she found her “dream job” as a school counselor in August

2014. Jacque gave birth to the parties’ third child in October 2014. Jacque’s

employment was terminated on January 5, 2015.1

On January 6, 2015, Jacque was again admitted to a psychiatric unit. In

February, Jacque was participating in follow-up psychiatric and psychological

treatment. After release from the hospital and through March 2015, the children

were in full-time day care even though Jacque was home. Jacque then began

taking care of the children.

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