In Re the Marriage of Amber Kay Killian and Trevor Joel Killian Upon the Petition of Amber Kay Killian, and Concerning Trevor Joel Killian

Court of Appeals of Iowa·Decided July 30, 2014·No. 13-1504·Published

Opinion

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF IOWA

No. 13-1504

Filed July 30, 2014

IN RE THE MARRIAGE OF AMBER KAY KILLIAN AND TREVOR JOEL KILLIAN

Upon the Petition of AMBER KAY KILLIAN, Petitioner-Appellant,

And Concerning TREVOR JOEL KILLIAN, Respondent-Appellee.

Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Tama County, Ian K. Thornhill, Judge.

Amber Killian appeals the custody determination and economic provisions in the district court’s dissolution decree. AFFIRMED AS MODIFIED AND REMANDED.

Reyne L. See of Peglow, O’Hare & See, P.L.C., Marshalltown, for appellant.

Teresa A. Rastede of Klatt, Odekirk, Augustine, Sayer, Teinen & Rastede, P.C., Waterloo, for appellee.

Heard by Vaitheswaran, P.J., and Tabor and Bower, JJ.

VAITHESWARAN, P.J.

Amber and Trevor Killian married in 2003 and divorced in 2013. The district court entered a temporary order granting the parents joint physical care of their three children and made that arrangement permanent in the final decree. The court also allocated unreimbursed medical expenses, valued the parties’ home and vehicles, awarded the parties’ home to Amber subject to an equalization payment to Trevor, allocated the tax dependency exemptions, required each party to be responsible for his or her own credit card debt, and held each party responsible for his or her own attorney fees. The court denied Amber’s posttrial request to divide the children’s extracurricular expenses.

On appeal, Amber contends the court should have granted her physical care. She also challenges the economic provisions noted above. I. Physical Care Amber contends the district court acted inequitably in ordering joint physical care of the children. She argues (1) she was the primary caretaker before and after the separation, (2) Trevor’s work schedules “provide[] no consistency and little flexibility,” (3) the parties had a strained relationship that included verbal abuse and ineffective communication about the children, (4) the parents did not agree on day-to-day matters involving the children, (5) Trevor temporarily denied her contact with the children after the separation, and (6) she was about to give birth to a half-sibling from whom the children should not be separated. We will address each of these considerations.

The parents’ historic pattern of caregiving is indeed an important consideration in a joint physical care analysis. In re Marriage of Hansen, 733

N.W.2d 683, 697 (Iowa 2007). The district court found that Amber provided “the majority of the hands-on parenting of the children throughout the parties’ marriage” but stated this was “primarily due to the relative job responsibilities of each party.” On our de novo review, we agree with these findings, which implicate the first two arguments Amber raises.

Trevor conceded Amber provided most of the care for their first child when he was an infant. He explained that he was deployed to Iraq before the child was born and, when he returned, he “was scared” to handle the child. Later, he said the parents shared many parenting responsibilities and continued sharing duties following the birth of the other children. At the same time, he essentially acknowledged that Amber was the primary caretaker before they separated.

Amber’s primary caretaking role was tied to Trevor’s erratic work schedule as a deputy sheriff, which precluded consistent, hands-on care by him. Until 2010, Trevor worked night shifts. Then he switched to days for a little over two years and was on a “seven-two-three-two schedule,” which required him to work seven days a week from 8:00 A.M. to 4:00 P.M., with two days off, three days on, and the following weekend off. Because this shift prevented him from taking the children to summer daytime events, Trevor returned to a night shift shortly before the dissolution petition was filed. Again, this was “a seven on schedule, two off, three on schedule, two off.”

Before a temporary custody hearing, Trevor made arrangements to switch to days on his “short week,” which would allow him to have the children for five days and a weekend. The district court entered a temporary order providing for weekly exchanges between the parents.

Trevor found the temporary order unworkable because it required him to have the children on his “long” rather than “short” week. He unsuccessfully attempted to have the order changed. The effect of the order, in his view, was to afford Amber de facto primary physical care during the proceedings.

By the time of trial, Trevor had made arrangements to completely move to a day shift, with his “weekend off” being Wednesdays and Thursdays. He testified, “I have done everything to ensure being on a day schedule to where they’re in school at the same time I’m working.”

There is no question that Trevor’s work schedule made it difficult to schedule equal time with the children. But the Iowa Supreme Court has stated joint physical care does not require equal time with each parent. In re Seay, 746 N.W.2d 833, 835-36 (Iowa 2008). The key consideration is equal care rights. Id. (citing Iowa Code § 598.1(4)). Trevor’s obligation to work every weekend meant that he would be unable to have equal time with the children, but the joint physical care arrangement at least allowed him equal rights to shared care. Under the unique facts of this case, Trevor’s work hours favored a joint physical care arrangement.

This brings us to the third consideration raised by Amber, the parents’

strained relationship and difficulty communicating. See Hansen, 733 N.W.2d at 698 (citing nature and extent of conflict between parents and ability of the former spouses to communicate and show mutual respect). Amber testified, “I am told things by him and I am made to believe that that’s the . . . way it is and it will never be changed, that I just have to follow what he says and go with what he says.” At the same time, she said she and Trevor were “civil to each other in

front of” the kids and she communicated sufficiently with Trevor to manage the changes in his work schedule. Trevor agreed the parents had communication difficulties. Some of the difficulties stemmed from Amber’s relationship with a person Trevor did not approve of and his unwillingness to accept her decision to seek a dissolution of the marriage. We believe these difficulties were temporary. See In re Marriage of Gensley, 777 N.W.2d 705, 715 (Iowa Ct. App. 2009) (stating that in the context of determining whether joint legal custody is appropriate, “[t]he parties’ inability to communicate and cooperate must rise above the ‘usual acrimony that accompanies a divorce.’”). While it is true the parents argued and fought throughout the marriage, their disagreements were not so entrenched as to preclude the level of communication that would be needed to facilitate joint physical care. See Hansen, 733 N.W.2d at 698 (noting “the prospect for successful joint physical care is reduced when there is a bitter parental relationship and one party objects to the shared arrangement”). Notably, both parties were able to speak positively about one another at trial. And, for ten months preceding trial, the parties were able to maintain an arrangement that, at least on paper, amounted to joint physical care. Trevor appeared to have reconciled himself to the fact of divorce, adjusted his schedule to facilitate joint physical care, and suggested ways to ease the children’s transition from home to home such as having the exchanges at the school where Amber worked. In sum, both parents made adjustments to accommodate a joint physical care arrangement, despite their sometimes acrimonious relationship.

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