In re Parentage of M.M.

2022 IL App (1st) 211144-U
Appellate Court of Illinois·Decided May 11, 2022·No. 1-21-1144·Unpublished

Opinion

2022 IL App (1st) 211144-U

THIRD DIVISION

May 11, 2022

No. 1-21-1144

NOTICE: This order was filed under Supreme Court Rule 23 and is not precedent except in the limited circumstances allowed under Rule 23(e)(1).

IN THE

APPELLATE COURT OF ILLINOIS FIRST JUDICIAL DISTRICT

In re PARENTAGE OF M.M.: )

) Appeal from the

(M.M., Father, ) Circuit Court of ) Cook County

Petitioner-Appellee, )

) 15 D 79517

and )

) Honorable

M.U., Mother, ) Maritza Martinez, ) Judge Presiding

Respondent-Appellant.) )

JUSTICE ELLIS delivered the judgment of the court.

Presiding Justice Gordon and Justice McBride concurred in the judgment.

ORDER

¶1 Held: Affirmed in part, vacated in part, remanded. Court’s modifications to allocation-ofparental -responsibility and parental-time judgment were not against manifest weight of evidence or abuse of discretion. Portion of order granting right of first refusal is vacated and remanded for sole purpose of clarifying relevant window of time that would trigger that right. Portion of order denying injunctive relief is vacated and remanded for clarification.

¶2 M.M. is a minor child, born out of wedlock, to M.M. and M.U. To preserve anonymity but avoid the confusion of identical initials, we refer to the parties as “Child,” “Father,” and “Mother,” without meaning offense for the impersonal references.

¶3 In 2016, when Child was age two, the unmarried parents agreed to an allocation judgment establishing their respective parental rights. But their animosity towards each other quickly led to conflict.

¶4 To remedy what each perceived as abuses by the other, they filed pleadings related to the allocation judgment. Mother sought to modify the judgment, while Father filed a rule to show cause for parenting abuses. After a hearing on all matters, the court entered an intricately detailed, “rule heavy” allocation judgment that sought to address specific sources of conflict.

¶5 Before this court, Mother challenges the modified allocation judgment. We consider the appeal on her brief only, as Father did not file a response. For the following reasons, we affirm in part, vacate in part, and remand for further proceedings as discussed below.

¶6 BACKGROUND

¶7 The parents are veteran officers of the Chicago Police Department (CPD) who never married. In 2013, Child was born, and Father signed a voluntary acknowledgment of paternity. In 2015, he filed a petition to establish a parenting schedule. Shortly after that petition was filed, the court appointed Zachary Williams as guardian ad litem (GAL). In 2016, the court entered an initial allocation judgment and agreed parenting plan. The initial allocation judgment was quite lengthy and contained several provisions regarding situations that might arise due to the parents’ duties as officers. For example, CPD has “day off groups.” Instead of assigning individual officers a schedule, they set the schedule for an entire group and assign officers to them. CPD officers also have mandatory furlough days and receive “comp time” for working overtime.

¶8 The initial judgment attempted to incorporate these profession-specific days off to allow the party taking time to “trump” the other’s normal parenting time. Overall, the initial judgment

was intended to be flexible, while providing some guidance on how the parenting schedule should be handled. The judgment emphasized the need for the parents’ “cooperation.”

¶9 When the parties first agreed to parenting time, their schedules did not overlap much, and they had “separate” days. But shortly after the allocation judgment, Mother was promoted to detective. With the promotion came a change in schedule. And with that change came considerable overlap in the parties’ time off, leading to a great deal of conflict over who would receive time with Child and when.

¶ 10 In 2017, Mother filed a petition to modify the parenting schedule, largely based on Father’s refusal to recognize her new day-off group. For example, Father repeatedly attempted to drop off Child at Mother’s house knowing full well that she was still at work. He did so under the auspices that they had to “follow the court order,” which had incorporated her prior schedule. In the most extreme of many examples, Father took the extraordinary step of filing a non- criminal report against Mother because she was not home at the drop-off time. On the other side, Father claimed that Mother regularly interfered with his right to a phone call with Child and would constantly schedule things over his parenting time. Ultimately, Mother sought sole custody and decision making, while Father sought his fair right to co-parent.

¶ 11 Over the course of approximately three years, the court entered various interim orders regarding the parties’ rights and obligations. Finally, in September 2020, the court began trial on the parties’ respective filings. During trial, the parents, GAL, and various family members testified. Much of the testimony consisted of the parties simply reading text messages sent through the court ordered communications programs, “Talking Parents and Our Family Wizard.”

¶ 12 As described above, Mother and Father also testified about the conflict between them. Throughout their testimony, several distinct areas of conflict became apparent, including the

vagueness of allocation judgment; Father’s inflexibility towards the judgment; “time trumping;” vacations, holidays, and time off; phone calls with Child; and extra-curricular activities. Connected with these issues was the question of whose obligation it was to find (and pay for) childcare services when neither parent was available.

¶ 13 According to Mother, one of the largest recurring issues was “the mid-day drop off at 2:45,” due to Father’s refusal to recognize Mother’s new work schedule. Knowing that her and Father’s work hours now overlapped, she believed the problem would be solved if “each of us [had] our own parenting time and not this constant conflict or the constant exchanges between the two of us.” Mother’s other principal concern was Father signing Child up for extracurricular activities that conflicted with Mother’s parenting time. Specifically, the evidence showed that these obligations—baseball games—often conflicted with Mother’s plans to travel with Child to her parent’s lake house. Historically, her solution was to simply skip the extracurricular obligation altogether.

¶ 14 And this refusal to take Child to extracurriculars formed one of Father’s biggest complaints. During his testimony, he reiterated that, in his opinion, extracurriculars were good for children, and that Child was a gifted athlete. Without question, his biggest complaint was that Mother, twice, decided to skip the last baseball game of the season, when Child would receive his trophy and be part of end-of-season celebrations. Father’s other main issue was Mother’s refusal to allow nightly phone calls. He testified that she often put the call on speaker phone. Besides the obvious lack of privacy, this also allowed ambient noise to interfere with the conversation.

¶ 15 Aside from the parents, the other major witness was Williams, the GAL. Through his testimony, he did not mince words and made it very clear that Mother and Father were good

parents and had a lot to offer Child. And while they had done a fine job of insulating Child from their conflict, that conflict was significant and intense. He opined that both were very rule- oriented and controlling of their parenting time. He testified that without “clear” rules, their joint decision making would remain “dysfunctional.” He was adamant that the court needed to craft a clear delineation of responsibilities.

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