In re Marriage of Waldschmidt

2020 IL App (3d) 190143-U
Appellate Court of Illinois·Decided February 20, 2020·No. 3-19-0143·Unpublished

Opinion

NOTICE: This order was filed under Supreme Court Rule 23 and may not be cited as precedent by any party except in the limited circumstances allowed under Rule 23(e)(1).

2020 IL App (3d) 190143-U

Order filed February 20, 2020

IN THE

APPELLATE COURT OF ILLINOIS THIRD DISTRICT

2020

In re MARRIAGE OF ) Appeal from the Circuit Court ) of the 12th Judicial Circuit, GEOFF J. WALDSCHMIDT, ) Will County, Illinois.

)

Petitioner-Appellee/Cross-Appellant, ) Appeal Nos. 3-19-0143 ) 3-19-0462 and ) Circuit No. 16-D-2225 )

TAMARA M. WALDSCHMIDT, )

) Honorable Kenneth L. Zelazo, Respondent-Appellant/Cross-Appellee. ) Judge, Presiding.

JUSTICE SCHMIDT delivered the judgment of the court.

Presiding Justice Lytton and Justice O’Brien concurred in the judgment.

ORDER

¶1 Held: The trial court did not err in its allocation of parental responsibilities and parenting time. The court also did not err when it struck Tamara’s petition for contribution of attorney fees and costs.

¶2 Respondent, Tamara M. Waldschmidt, appeals a judgment allocating parental responsibilities and parenting time between her and petitioner, Geoff J. Waldschmidt. Tamara

contends that the trial court erred in its allocation determination. She also asserts that the trial court erred when it struck her petition for contribution of attorney fees and costs. We affirm.

¶3 I. FACTS

¶4 The parties married in 1998. They have four children: A.W. (born in 1999), G.W. (born in 2001), K.S. (born in 2004), and N.W. (born in 2006).

¶5 On December 29, 2016, Geoff filed a petition for dissolution of marriage. Three of the four children were minors at the time of the filing (G.W., K.S., and N.W.).

¶6 Four days later, Tamara filed a petition for order of protection. The court granted the order of protection. Subsequently, the parties agreed to end the order of protection. The trial court appointed Juli Gumina as the guardian ad litem (GAL). The parties agreed to a “nesting” schedule in which the parties would split parenting time with the children at the marital home.

¶7 Next, Tamara filed a petition for the allocation of parental responsibilities regarding decision making and parenting time, a petition to appoint a custody evaluator, and a petition for allocation of the right of first refusal as to the minor children.

¶8 On November 6, 2017, the court entered a written order indicating that the parties had come to terms on an allocation judgment and Tamara would withdraw her request for a custody evaluator. The parties never reached an agreement.

¶9 On July 31, 2018, the GAL filed her report with the court. The GAL met with the children (together and individually) several times, met with Geoff and Tamara individually and together approximately 14 times, and visited the home 3 times. She also conducted telephone interviews with Tamara’s counselors Kris Munson and Sister Linda Sevik, Tamara’s sister Pam, the parties’ marital counselor, the parties’ neighbor, and the director of student services at the children’s

school. The GAL also reviewed several video recordings, the parties’ online family wizard (OFW) communications, all pleadings, and the children’s educational documents and updates.

¶ 10 The GAL’s report recited her findings as to the statutory factors and the best interests of the children. She found that the four children consistently expressed more trust and closeness with Geoff. The children also expressed more openness to communicate with Geoff. At the beginning of the GAL’s appointment, the children were “amendable to an equal division of parenting time but by the GAL’s last interview with the children, two of the remaining three minor children stated they wanted very limited time, if any, with [Tamara].” The GAL viewed several video recordings submitted by Geoff. In the videos, Tamara is yelling at A.W., G.W., or both if they refused to immediately complete a chore at her demand. The videos showed Tamara acting totally out of control and screaming profanity at the children. In one video, Tamara physically threatened one of the children. During the interviews, one of the minor children reported having increased stress and inability to complete homework because Tamara yelled all the time.

¶ 11 The GAL reported that G.W. started referring to Tamara by her first name as a sign of disrespect. Tamara believed that Geoff encouraged this behavior. The GAL did not believe Geoff encouraged the minor. G.W. reported that he felt disrespected by Tamara based on Tamara’s threats to call the police on him, send him to military school, and her ineffective parenting methods. Like G.W., K.W. also lost trust in Tamara based on her belief that Tamara did not nurture her and attempted to divide the other children.

¶ 12 Tamara and A.W.’s relationship was the most dysfunctional. A.W. recently graduated high school and moved away to college. When A.W. left for college, Tamara immediately “dismantled” and “cleaned out” the entirety of A.W.’s room. The GAL acknowledged that A.W.’s room was a mess at the time but believed that Tamara’s actions showed how “tone-deaf” she is to the children’s

emotions. The GAL perceived Tamara’s act as a message to the other children that “good [A.W.] is gone.”

¶ 13 As to N.W., the GAL believed he was very close with his siblings. Unlike the other children, N.W. maintained an equilibrium between his parents. According to the GAL, “[t]he only time [she] saw [N.W.’s] exterior crumble was when [Tamara] brought him to [the GAL’s] office for an individual meeting and the child was angry and tearful because he thought [the GAL] had lied to him about counseling and [K.M.’s] ability to watch him after school.” The GAL believed that this situation was created by Tamara, not Geoff. The GAL noted that Tamara “worked very hard to create an appearance that she is doing everything for the children but her efforts are counter to the children’s best interests.”

¶ 14 The GAL believed the children were doing well in their school and community. However, she received information from the children that Tamara actively spoke negatively about the children to third parties such as relatives and neighbors. Specifically, the GAL was told that Tamara spoke negatively about Geoff and some of the children to her sister Pam.

¶ 15 As to the mental and physical health of the individuals involved, the GAL made the following notes. G.W. is diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome; a child with such a diagnosis has different social and emotional reactions. The GAL believed that Tamara lost her ability to be an effective and understanding parent to G.W. The GAL believed Tamara is “so focused on maintaining control that she loses sight as to how [G.W.] is wired.” K.W was previously diagnosed with selective mutism.

¶ 16 Based on the GAL’s conversation with the marital counselor, Tamara struggles with post- traumatic stress disorder due to past physical and sexual abuse she suffered as a child and young adult. The marriage counselor recommended that Tamara seek trauma treatment. However, instead

of listening and possibly investigating this further, Tamara accused the marriage counselor of malpractice, lack of skill, and lack of professionalism.

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