In re Marriage of Mau

CourtCourt of Appeals of Iowa
DecidedDecember 4, 2024
Docket24-0100
StatusPublished

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Opinion

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF IOWA

No. 24-0100 Filed December 4, 2024

IN RE THE MARRIAGE OF JEFFERY ALAN MAU AND ANN MARIE MAU

Upon the Petition of JEFFERY ALAN MAU, Petitioner-Appellant,

And Concerning ANN MARIE MAU, Respondent-Appellee. ________________________________________________________________

Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Scott County, Patrick A. McElyea,

Judge.

A former spouse appeals the denial of his petition to modify legal custody

and physical care concerning a minor child and other claims following a stipulated

dissolution of marriage. AFFIRMED.

Paul L. Macek of Hopkins & Huebner, P.C., Davenport, for appellant.

Ryan M. Beckenbaugh of Beckenbaugh Law, P.C., Davenport, for appellee.

Considered by Ahlers, P.J., and Chicchelly and Buller, JJ. 2

BULLER, Judge.

Jeffery (Jeff) Mau appeals a district court ruling addressing his and ex-wife

Ann Marie Mau’s dueling petitions for modification. On appeal, Jeff raises four

issues—concerning legal custody and physical care of a minor child, the

admissibility of certain evidence (including pre-decree conduct), division of assets

after sale of the home, and division of Jeff’s retirement accounts. Ann Marie resists

each of Jeff’s arguments and requests appellate attorney fees. On our review, we

affirm and order Jeff to pay Ann Marie $15,647.50 in fees.

I. Background Facts and Proceedings

Jeff and Ann Marie divorced by stipulation in February 2020. They agreed

to joint legal custody and Anne Marie having physical care of their then-six-year-old

child. The stipulation also provided Jeff parenting time every other weekend and

every other Wednesday during the school year.

Things rapidly deteriorated between the parties after the divorce. They

fought over essentially everything—prescriptions and appointments for the child’s

somewhat complicated medical needs, drop-offs and pick-ups, parent-teacher

conferences, summer visitation, and everything in-between. In court, Jeff applied

for a rule to show cause relating to sale of the marital home and a dispute over

costs, the lawyering grew contentious, and the court found Ann Marie in contempt.

Ann Marie then filed a motion for court involvement relating to the qualified

domestic relations order (QDRO) that was the subject of a previous appeal and

petitioned to modify the decree such that she had sole legal custody of the minor

child. Jeff counterclaimed seeking sole legal custody and physical care for himself.

As the district court put it, “[b]oth parents [took] an all-or-nothing approach.” 3

Discovery disputes followed, and the court denied a motion to compel filed

by Jeff, finding Ann Marie had complied with her obligations and ordering Jeff to

pay $500 of Ann Marie’s attorney fees. The court next quashed a subpoena filed

by Jeff, granted a protective order limiting depositions, and ordered Jeff to pay

another $600 in Ann Marie’s attorney fees. Then the court granted another

protective order limiting depositions to stop Jeff from deposing witnesses about

irrelevant and pre-decree conduct.

Ann Marie sought to exclude evidence of pre-decree conduct from trial,

including but not limited to the conduct that was the subject of the earlier protective

order. She also sought a third protective order regarding certain surreptitious video

recordings she alleged were obtained in violation of Illinois law. In oral rulings, the

court informed the parties it would generally not admit any pre-decree evidence

because the court had no interest in re-litigating the stipulated decree.

It would serve little purpose for us to recount the full blow-by-blow of the

parties’ trial testimony, in which each essentially sought to paint the other as a

villain in nearly every interaction between them since the divorce. One particularly

troublesome incident warrants some focus. In 2021, the child was referred to

pediatrician Dr. Barbara Harre for an evaluation due to mental-health and

behavioral issues. The child continued to see Dr. Harre without incident until a

May 2022 follow-up appointment. During this appointment, in Dr. Harre’s words

Jeff “launched into an angry—I would say hostile—tirade about how no one was

keeping him informed,” even though he was welcome at every appointment.

During this “tirade,” the child “curled up and snuggled into” Ann Marie. Jeff grew

so loud that Dr. Harre’s staff came back to check on her and the child. Jeff 4

threatened to sue Dr. Harre, claiming she was violating the divorce decree by not

sharing the child’s medical information with his mother (the child’s grandmother).

Dr. Harre testified that the whole exchange—some forty minutes driven by Jeff’s

“hostile” outbursts—was unhealthy “bullying” that was likely contributing to the

child’s mental-health problems. And she expressed skepticism that Jeff could look

out for the child’s best interests, particularly when it came to the child’s medical

needs. In his testimony, Jeff did not dispute that Dr. Harre warned him that she

was considering discontinuing care for the child because of Jeff’s behavior, but he

otherwise disagreed with Dr. Harre and Ann Marie’s descriptions of the event or

claimed he couldn’t recall the specifics.

Beyond the particulars of the parties’ disagreements, we think the district

court summarized the relationship between them well: “contentious would be a

gross understatement. There is virtually no trust between Jeff[ ] and Ann Marie,

which, essentially, negates their ability to effectively coparent.” As just one

example of this, the court highlighted that, even when the parties were seeking

emergency medical care for the child, they were unable to effectively

communicate, choosing to email each other rather than pick up the phone. And

the court was particularly struck by how, when Jeff learned the child was headed

to the emergency room, Jeff immediately called his divorce attorney to protect his

interest in litigation—rather than focusing on the child’s welfare. After the child

was released from the hospital, both parties argued for more than an hour over

where to drop the child off, and Ann Marie later called the police to conduct a

welfare-check. From this, the court concluded that “both parties have placed their

animosity towards one another and their desire ‘to win’ above the needs of their 5

child.” And the court concluded both parents have put the child “in the middle” and

remained unable to effectively communicate.

In its modification ruling, the district court observed that “[a]ll of these facts

make this a very difficult decision for the court,” and it ultimately declined to grant

Jeff’s petition to modify. The court emphasized that Jeff was capable of being a

good father but had not met his heavy burden to show he was a superior caregiver

compared to Ann Marie. The court expressly found that Jeff “does not demonstrate

the same commitment to his son that Ann Marie does” and noted that his “request

for primary physical care and sole legal custody appears to be motivated by a

desire to win rather than a genuine desire to be the primary caretaker.”

As for Ann Marie’s request for sole legal custody, the court found evidence

on both sides of the question but ultimately determined sole legal custody was

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