In re Marriage of Abdelkarim

2020 IL App (4th) 190807-U
Appellate Court of Illinois·Decided April 10, 2020·No. 4-19-0807·Unpublished

Opinion

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the limited circumstances allowed IN THE APPELLATE COURT 4 District Appellate under Rule 23(e)(1). Court, IL OF ILLINOIS

FOURTH DISTRICT

In re MARRIAGE OF ) Appeal from the AZZA ABDELKARIM, ) Circuit Court of Petitioner -Appellee, ) Champaign County and ) No. 11D248 MAHER BAJIS, )

Respondent -Appellant. ) Honorable ) Wm. Hugh Finson,

) Judge Presiding.

JUSTICE DeARMOND delivered the judgment of the court.

Justices Knecht and Holder White concurred in the judgment.

ORDER

¶1 Held: The appellate court affirmed, holding the trial court’s allocation of parenting time was not against the manifest weight of the evidence.

¶2 In October 2019, the trial court entered an amended order for parenting time, granting petitioner-wife (Azza) all decision-making responsibilities and allocating to her the majority of parenting time.

¶3 On appeal, respondent-husband (Maher) contends the trial court’s order amending the allocation of parenting time was against the manifest weight of the evidence. Maher also claims the trial court erred by failing to mention his expert in its written order. We disagree and affirm the trial court.

¶4 I. BACKGROUND

¶5 Maher and Azza married on September 19, 2007. The marriage produced one child, Y.B., born in 2008. In April 2015, the trial court entered an agreed order granting joint custody to the parties and awarding Azza legal custody and decision-making abilities, and in December of that year, the court entered a dissolution of marriage between Maher and Azza. A year later, in December 2016, Azza moved to modify the allocation of parenting time between the parties, alleging a substantial change of circumstances; specifically, the minor child’s visitation with Maher “may seriously endanger her physical, mental, moral, and emotional health.” Azza claimed, in part, Maher made false accusations to the Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS), alleging several issues including physical abuse to Y.B. by Azza and Azza’s husband, Maher had an unhealthy emotional enmeshment with Y.B., and had inappropriately interfered in the relationship between Y.B. and her therapist and between Y.B. and Azza.

¶6 In an affidavit, Y.B.’s therapist, Trevor Kendrick, stated she (Kendrick) previously had 67 sessions with Y.B., and she expressed concern about Maher and Y.B.’s relationship. She stated Maher has “boundary issues” with Y.B. and “treats her more like a life partner than a daughter.” Kendrick opined Maher has an improper and unhealthy emotional enmeshment with Y.B. and has significantly interfered with the relationship between Y.B. and Azza. Kendrick believed Maher caused serious emotional, mental, and moral danger to Y.B. and it would be in Y.B.’s best interests to award Azza the majority of parenting time.

¶7 In February 2017, the trial court entered a temporary order awarding Azza the majority of the parenting time. This order was entered upon agreement by both parties. Maher’s explanation in agreeing to grant Azza the majority of parenting time was that he thought it would only be for 120 days and “thought 120 days is a short time.” Starting in September 2018 and

over the course of four nonconsecutive months and approximately nine separate hearings, the court heard testimony from Y.B.’s counselor, psychiatrists, expert witnesses, and police officers. The police officers testified about how they needed to be present during some of the custody exchanges and Maher’s difficult behavior during the exchanges. Azza’s husband testified about Maher’s chronic tardiness when conducting the custody exchange and his acrimonious relationship with Maher.

¶8 A. The Hearings on Azza’s Motion to Modify the Allocation of Parenting Time

¶9 1. Trevor Kendrick

¶ 10 As the family therapist who held sessions with Y.B., Maher, and Azza, both individually and together, Kendrick testified about Maher’s boundary issues. She stated she became alarmed after learning Maher would instruct Y.B. to speak negatively about Azza during the sessions and repeatedly attempted to negatively interfere with Azza and Y.B.’s relationship. Kendrick testified that Maher instructed Y.B. via text message not to show Azza any of his messages, thereby encouraging the negative relationship between her and Y.B. Kendrick described Maher and Y.B.’s relationship as “emotional incest” due to the “complete blurring of boundaries between parent and child.” She elaborated how this goes beyond a parent loving his child because emotional incest is all about the parent’s needs being met, not the child’s. She testified this behavior is very damaging and can lead to long-lasting unhealthy relationships for the child. Y.B. told Kendrick she would get to choose who Maher dated, she was highly involved in communicating with his “multiple girlfriends,” and she was allowed to go to his “massage sessions.” He also promised he would not marry anyone else if Y.B. helped him get custody back. After summarizing the negative consequences of emotional incest for Y.B., Kendrick described it as “one of the most damaging things a parent can do to their child.”

¶ 11 2. Lawrence Jeckel

¶ 12 Dr. Jeckel testified he relied on Maher’s previous therapist and doctor’s reports, including Kendrick’s, to help formulate a mental assessment of Maher. At times, Maher was not taking his prescribed medications, which contributed to his mental health issues. His medical records also indicated a cannabis use disorder, as Maher was at times using cannabis on a daily basis. Maher admitted to cannabis use but claimed he used it only medicinally and never used it when he was with Y.B. However, Dr. Jeckel noted how cannabis use could negatively interfere with Maher’s prescribed medication and treatment. Maher also previously pleaded guilty to domestic battery in 1997, which Dr. Jeckel found significant as another indicator of Maher’s lack of impulse control. He also found it “strange” Maher claimed his post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) was not present when he was with Y.B. because, in his sessions, Maher seemed to be “edgy” and he has “never heard that a relationship would make PTSD symptoms go away.” Dr. Jeckel noted Maher exhibited some signs of paranoia. For example, Maher expressed concern Azza and her husband were attempting to provoke him into doing something to jeopardize his parenting time, and Maher thought Dr. Jeckel was “going to deny him access to his daughter.” Towards the end of Dr. Jeckel’s report, he summed up his session with Maher, stating: “I was exhausted by the end of the two-hour session because I was forced to do the work of keeping the interview neutral in response to his paranoid, demanding, defensive posture.” He diagnosed Maher with PTSD and borderline personality disorder with a disrupted personality and disrupted self-esteem system. Dr. Jeckel testified Maher had a “self-psychological bond that he uses to keep himself intact.” He explained Maher views Y.B. as a distorted extension of himself, which accounts for his lack of boundaries with Y.B. According to Dr. Jeckel, Maher blurs boundaries so often with Y.B. that he “loses track of who’s who,” even though it is important for children to

keep their boundaries straight. Dr. Jeckel recommended Maher’s parenting time be consistent with the previous temporary order, which granted the majority of parenting time to Azza.

¶ 13 3. Karen Osgood

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