In re Estate of E.A.

• Court: Appellate Court of Illinois
• Decided: June 23, 2026
• Docket: 1-25-1674
• Status: Published

Opinion

2026 IL App (1st) 251674

SECOND DIVISION June 23, 2026

No. 1-25-1674

NOTICE: This order was filed under Supreme Court Rule 23 and is not precedent except in the limited circumstances allowed under Rule 23(e)(1).

IN THE APPELLATE COURT OF ILLINOIS FIRST JUDICIAL DISTRICT

IN RE ESTATE OF E.A., a Minor ) ) Appeal from (P.A. and M.A., ) the Circuit Court ) of Cook County Petitioners and Cross-respondents-Appellants, ) ) 24P5971 v. ) ) Honorable L.A. and C.L., ) Daniel R. Degnan, ) Judge Presiding Respondents and Cross-petitioners-Appellees). )

JUSTICE McBRIDE delivered the judgment of the court. Justices Ellis and D.B. Walker concurred in the judgment.

ORDER

¶ 1 Held: The circuit court’s decision to deny grandparents’ petition for guardianship of a minor and grant uncle’s cross-petition was not against the manifest weight of the evidence.

¶2 M.A. (Grandmother) 1 and P.A. (Grandfather) appeal from an order denying their petition

requesting plenary guardianship of their orphaned grandson, E.A., who had been in their care for

19 months, and granting the cross-petition of their son-in-law, C.L. (Uncle). The uncle petitioned

for guardianship with his spouse, L.A. (Aunt), but after a lengthy hearing, the court granted sole

1 In order to preserve the minor child’s privacy, we are referring to most of the witnesses by their initials or relationship to the child. 1-25-1674 guardianship to the uncle. In its ruling, the court found that the family has become divided, perhaps

irreparably, and that Uncle was the only one of the four petitioners capable of fulfilling his duty to

cultivate relationships between the child and his many family members. In addition, the

grandparents did not place boundaries on the 11 year old’s behavior and had blurred the distinction

between grandparenting and childrearing to such an extent that the child’s life was stressful. On

appeal the grandparents contend that the manifest weight of the evidence supported their petition,

the court was concerned about the relationship between the adults instead of the child’s best

interest, and that their boundaries were reasonable. The aunt and uncle respond that the court made

a sound and fact-based decision and that the grandparents are mischaracterizing the record. They

also respond that the grandparents have mistaken the court’s restraint and diplomatic

characterization of the frayed family dynamics as a misapplication of the best interest standard.

¶3 E.A.’s mother, K.K. (Mother), died from cancer in September 2017, just before he turned

six and, four years later, his father, T.A. (Father), took his own life. Before Mother’s death, the

family of three was residing in Albuquerque, New Mexico. Mother’s daughter from a prior

relationship, C.R. (Sister), was away at college. Mother’s grandparents, parents, and two brothers

were living in Florida. Father’s family lived in and around Evanston, Illinois, and included many

extended family members; his parents (the petitioners); his only sibling and her husband (the cross-

petitioners), and their two children, C.M.L. and E.L., who are slightly younger than E.A.

¶4 Father and E.A. were visiting the grandparents in 2020 when their trip was extended by the

COVID-19 pandemic. For months, Father and E.A. shared a spare bedroom and the whole family,

including Aunt’s family, would have dinner together every night. Father decided to permanently

relocate to Evanston, and although his home search was slowed by the pandemic, he bought a

-2- 1-25-1674 house on Avers Avenue. His girlfriend, B.C. (Friend), also moved in. His death was about two

years later, on January 19, 2024. E.A. asked to return to his grandparents for the night and the next

day, when his aunt and uncle suggested that they become his guardians, his grandparents would

not agree. They mediated a schedule in which E.A. split each week between his grandparents; his

aunt and uncle; and his father’s former girlfriend, who continued to live in the house on Avers

Avenue. The two petitions seeking guardianship were filed in August and September of 2024. The

former girlfriend supported the grandparents’ petition. The family relationship deteriorated to the

extent that agreed orders were necessary for the aunt and uncle to have visitation. The evidentiary

hearing on the cross-petitions occurred over six days in July of 2025. The court heard from the

four parties, E.A.’s sister, three extended family members, the former girlfriend and E.A.’s

guardian ad litem (GAL), for a total of ten witnesses.

¶5 Grandfather testified that at 79, he has been living with his wife in Evanston for 53 years

and retired since 2015. They spent a lot of time in Albuquerque after their daughter-in-law’s death

because their son was “in bad shape” and wanted help caring for E.A. E.A. started first grade with

them in Evanston in the fall of 2021 and was a fourth grader when his father died. E.A. struggled

with “a lot of depression there for a while” and sought out the school’s psychologist, social worker,

or nurse almost daily. He had also been seeing a grief therapist since before Father’s death. Over

the summer, he stayed mostly with his aunt and uncle because they lived closer to the nature center

where he went to various summer camps. The grandparents do not think that E.A. wants to live

with his aunt and uncle. They explained to him that he might have to, though, after the hearing.

According to Grandfather, E.A.’s aunt and uncle could not provide a stable home for E.A., because

“he’s a difficult kid to deal with” and needs a lot of attention, unlike the aunt and uncle’s kids. The

-3- 1-25-1674 grandparents respect that E.A. is introspective and they “don’t push anything on him.” When the

grandparents filed for guardianship in August and told E.A. that he no longer had to stay with his

aunt and uncle, E.A. was pleased. Fifth grade started “rough,” but then his grades improved and

his need for the school counselors dropped off dramatically. He is really looking forward to starting

middle school with his two best friends since the second grade and another good friend whom he

met in the fifth grade.

¶6 Grandfather also testified about E.A.’s quiet routine in the grandparents’ household. For

instance, when E.A. wakes up, he keeps checking his iPad until it is time to get out of bed at 6:00

a.m. Then the two of them sit in silence while Grandfather reads e-mails and E.A. looks at his

iPad. At 7:00 a.m., E.A. eats breakfast and gets ready for school. He has a hot lunch at school; they

go to the same four restaurants for dinner every Monday through Thursday; and he has

homecooked meals with Friend.

¶7 In addition, E.A sets his own rules and is “very regimented.” E.A.’s rules include wearing

clean clothes and clean pajamas every day; not eating the same thing for lunch twice in a row

except during camp; not having the same thing for lunch and dinner; having dessert at 7:30; taking

a bath on certain days and a shower on others at 8:00; and that everyone goes to bed promptly at

9:00. They do not limit his iPad usage, but he is very good at self-correcting. For instance, he used

to be on the iPad when they went out to dinner, but then he reduced his continuous use of it on his

own. His only chores are to pick up after himself, take his dishes to the sink, and clean his room.

Grandfather gives in to E.A. because E.A.’s needs come first.

¶8 Grandfather considers E.A. to be “a pretty easy kid to deal with.” He is kind, very mature,

and a “people pleaser” who likes to help others. E.A. does not take criticism well, but he needs it

-4- 1-25-1674 infrequently. Grandfather is trying to teach E.A. more self-assurance.

¶9 E.A. is triggered by alcohol use, but he was affected only by Father’s drinking and

Grandfather did not consider his glass of wine with dinner to be “drinking.” Nonetheless, they quit

drinking in front of him when they were told that he was concerned about his grandparents’

consumption. Grandfather denied being inebriated when he had all three grandkids in the car and

“brushed” a vehicle in front of Aunt’s house.

¶ 10 Grandmother and Grandfather do not have a plan for E.A.’s care if they become unable to

care for him. They will rely on the former girlfriend or maybe their daughter and son-in-law. They

currently “bring [the former girlfriend] into the picture all the time” and her relationship with E.A.

is like that of a mother and child. If their petition is granted, E.A. will be spending as much time

with her as he wants. Aunt and Uncle have not demonstrated to Grandfather that they have a

relationship with E.A.

¶ 11 Grandmother did not let Sister attend Father’s funeral and their relationship with her is

nonexistent because she has not contacted them. Grandfather is not trying to foster E.A.’s

relationship with his only sibling, because Grandfather does not think that it is his job. Grandfather

added that as an 11-year-old, it is not E.A.’s job either. Instead, Grandfather thinks that it is Sister’s

job, because she is an adult.

¶ 12 Grandfather’s only communication with his own daughter in the past year was a letter

suggested by a family therapist in which he told Aunt that he loved her and wanted to talk. He did

not invite Aunt and Uncle to any of E.A.’s events because Grandmother handled invitations and

E.A. coordinated his own visits with his aunt and uncle. It had been quite some time since

Grandfather had any relationship with Aunt and Uncle’s children. Grandfather does not know the

-5- 1-25-1674 reason for the change.

¶ 13 E.A.’s assets total about $1.25 million and consist mostly of $500,000 equity in the Avers

Avenue house, an investment account and a trust fund created for Father by Father’s grandparents.

Grandfather was the beneficiary of Father’s life insurance and an IRA, but intends to give them to

E.A. E.A. also receives $1600 a month in Social Security death benefits. Grandfather cannot

currently administer all of E.A.’s assets because he has not “start[ed] the probate process” for

Father’s estate, and until then, he accesses cash as Father’s trustee. E.A.’s assets pay for his health

insurance and healthcare, and the Avers Avenue mortgage (about $2,600), taxes, and utilities.

Friend has never contributed to any of the expenses because the estate “would have to pay the

mortgage on it regardless.” Also, while she is there protecting the property, Grandfather does not

have to spend any of his time protecting it. Grandmother and Grandfather are financially secure.

¶ 14 Grandmother testified that she is 79, a retired Spanish teacher, and in good health. She and

Grandfather went to Albuquerque to meet E.A. as a newborn and made frequent visits after that.

(The record suggests that Mother’s cancer treatment started during E.A.’s first year.) When the

family was socializing every day during the pandemic, the three grandchildren developed close

relationships. E.A., however, did not spend any one-on-one time with the adults and did not interact

with Aunt and Uncle. Grandmother has not seen Aunt’s children since a family birthday party in

October of 2024. She asked to see them on Christmas Eve but did not get a response and did not

ask again. Aunt e-mailed Grandmother in February and again in June or July, criticizing

Grandmother and Grandfather’s interaction with her son, C.M.L., and Aunt also “went into some

nasty stuff about why she doesn’t *** talk to [her parents].” Grandmother “uninvited” E.A.’s sister

from Father’s funeral and has not contacted her since, even though it is important for E.A. to have

-6- 1-25-1674 a relationship with his only sibling. E.A. makes his own plans with Aunt and Uncle and then

updates Grandmother. There was a group calendar about E.A. that Friend managed, but

Grandmother did not look at it. They did group texts, but that got confusing because Uncle did not

always include Friend.

¶ 15 Shortly after Father died, the four petitioners tried to mediate custody. They had three

sessions between March and September. In the final one, which was just between Grandmother

and Aunt, Aunt said that her parents had replaced her with Friend and that Friend should stop

acting like E.A.’s mother. Grandmother, however, considered Friend to be like E.A.’s mom. When

Friend was living with Father, E.A. “finally had the family he wanted, a mother and a father.”

Grandmother keeps Friend closely involved and would rather co-parent with her, because she is

more cooperative than Aunt. The four petitioners did not have a fourth mediation session together

because Aunt and Uncle decided against it and met with the mediator separately. They reached a

memo of understanding in April of 2024 that said that Grandmother and Grandfather should

become the guardians of E.A.’s estate. (Grandmother did not disclose why they did not follow

through on this agreement.) Grandmother and Grandfather drafted two other memos that included

parenting time, but Aunt and Uncle rejected them and Grandmother and Grandfather began

keeping E.A. all of the time.

¶ 16 Grandmother described E.A. as kind and inquisitive and she said that E.A. inherited his

parents’ fantastic sense of humor. He does not take criticism well, but he is basically a good kid

who does not need to be disciplined. Grandmother does not differentiate between grandparenting

and parenting – grandparents do not let kids do whatever they want. They began moderating their

drinking in front of him around July of 2024, on the advice of his grief counselor. Father was

-7- 1-25-1674 drinking right before taking his own life. They have not planned for E.A.’s care in the event of

their illness or death. If they are named E.A.’s primary caregivers and die, then he will be saddened

just like Grandmother was when her grandparents died and he would not suffer any “stronger

effect.”

¶ 17 Grandmother’s sister, Rae Ann Gillett, testified that she was 73 and living in Naperville,

Illinois. She sees Grandmother, Grandfather and E.A. about once a month. She would generally

see Aunt and Uncle only at holiday get-togethers, but there had been none since Easter 2024. Each

petitioner would make a good guardian, but Rae Ann supported Grandmother’s petition because

E.A. would find it difficult to change households.

¶ 18 Friend testified that she is 48, has a 27 year old son, and is divorced. She was unemployed

for about a year after Father’s death. She met him in 2006. They were reacquainted when he moved

back from Albuquerque and became a regular at the brewing company where she was working.

She moved in with him in August of 2023. Since Father’s death, she has paid nothing to live in the

Avers Avenue property and does not consider it her responsibility to reimburse E.A.’s estate.

¶ 19 E.A. had a difficult childhood because of his mother’s illness and death and then “dealing

with his father.” Father drank in front of E.A. to the point of intoxication and Friend considered

Father to be an alcoholic. She suggested rehab several times and talked with Grandmother and

Grandfather about an intervention. Father would improve, then resume drinking.

¶ 20 The day after Father’s death, Aunt and Uncle asked to take E.A., but Friend was not

prepared to think about losing him. E.A. spends at least two nights a week with her and they usually

have dinner with his grandparents every Tuesday. She also goes to every parent-teacher conference

at Grandmother’s invitation. E.A. is “a really good kid” who does not need a lot of discipline. He

-8- 1-25-1674 is mature and articulate, “very chill,” has a great sense of humor, and is extremely thoughtful. He

“thinks outside the box” and is a good artist and incredible writer.

¶ 21 E.A. sometimes objected to the “forced visitations” with Aunt and Uncle that were required

by the memo of understanding. It was very difficult for him to rotate amongst the three households.

When the mediation broke down, Friend invited Aunt out for coffee. Aunt said that the best place

for E.A. was with her and that she was jealous of Friend’s role. About a month before the trial,

Aunt sent a text and an e-mail asking Friend to stop backing Grandmother and Grandfather and

suggesting that a lengthy trial would cause irreparable damage to the family. Aunt’s messages

seemed a little demanding and condescending.

¶ 22 Friend was the only person who could add E.A.’s events to the group calendar that she set

up for the five adults, but she was not “meticulous” and had kind of given up on updating it. E.A.

would struggle if Aunt and Uncle were appointed, because he does not have a relationship with

them. When he has a problem, he takes it to Friend or his grandparents. When Friend e-mailed

E.A.’s grief therapist about things that E.A. said, she included only Grandmother and Grandfather.

Her texts with Grandmother about Aunt probably did not help settle the family feud, but Friend

was not concerned about helping the family heal. Grandmother and Grandfather would make the

better guardians because E.A. loves them, feels safe and comfortable with them, and they have

taken really great care of him. They are patient, kind and loving with him. They have been shifting

away from their role as indulgent grandparents who do not have to provide rules or hold E.A.

accountable.

¶ 23 Sister testified that she lived with E.A. until he was a toddler. She moved to her father’s

home in Naperville during high school, went away to college, and was then chosen for a fellowship

-9- 1-25-1674 in Washington, D.C. She did not see E.A. again until after his father died. Grandmother did not

allow Sister to attend Father’s funeral and neither Grandmother nor Grandfather have

communicated with Sister in years. However, Sister texts with Aunt, Uncle and E.A. and they

invited her over in the spring of 2024 during one of her visits to Illinois. She also saw E.A. in June

of 2025, when Aunt and Uncle hosted several dinners and suggested that the two siblings plan

their own outing. They went to a trampoline park and had a fantastic time. Their time together was

very important to Sister and seemed meaningful to E.A. When she returns for the holidays, she

will feel “absolutely” comfortable reaching out to Aunt and Uncle about seeing E.A. and

“uncomfortable” doing that with Grandmother and Grandfather because of the “events around the

funeral.”

¶ 24 Judith LeBlang is Grandfather’s cousin, but Aunt calls her “Aunt Judy.” Judy lives in

Glenview. She used to celebrate every major holiday and kid’s birthday with the family.

Grandmother and Grandfather are very angry with Aunt and Uncle about E.A.’s guardianship and

it became impossible to have get-togethers. Grandmother and Grandfather consider it a betrayal

that Judy supports Aunt and Uncle’s petition. They are wonderful grandparents, but parents engage

in more youthful and fun activities. E.A. would benefit from living with other kids and going on

family excursions.

¶ 25 Robert Zahniser testified that he is married to Grandmother’s first cousin, Vivian. They

live in Northbrook, but lived in Glencoe for 37 years, not far from Grandmother and Grandfather.

Their monthly get-togethers, and regular texts and phone calls stopped with the filing of the

guardianship petition. They talked many times about guardianship, including a very long

conversation when Grandfather was angered that a relative told him that he and Grandmother

- 10 - 1-25-1674 should not be guardians. Grandfather was also very angry at Aunt and spoke very negatively about

her more than once. Robert and Vivian are very close to Aunt and Uncle and have given them

financial and healthcare powers of attorney. Robert and Uncle also go out for breakfast once a

week and Robert thinks of Uncle as a son. Although Robert and Vivian made it clear that they

could maintain relationships with both couples, Grandmother and Grandfather did not see it that

way. In an e-mail, Grandmother accused Robert of turning all of Grandfather’s relatives against

him and Grandmother said that Grandfather would not forgive Robert. Robert took Grandmother’s

e-mail as her suggestion that Robert should not attend the family’s annual Memorial Day gathering

at a small cemetery in Wisconsin. At the cemetery, Grandmother and Grandfather stayed very far

away from Robert and Vivian and would not communicate with them. Grandfather had been

unforgiving of other family members in the past, would speak very disparagingly about them, and

would make it clear that he did not want them in his home.

¶ 26 Robert observed E.A. numerous times with Aunt and Uncle, such as at sporting events and

when they came over to swim in Robert and Vivian’s pool. Aunt and Uncle are very loving parents

who interact well with all three children. E.A. is very intelligent, witty, kind, and talented.

However, he refers to himself as a “special” individual who may decide what to do instead of

someone telling him what should be done. Robert has an undergraduate degree in education and

psychology, a master’s degree in counseling and education, and 60 additional hours in related

fields. He also has 34 years’ experience teaching grades 3 through 6, and a very active practice in

counseling, educational therapy, and tutoring. For much of his career, Robert has been working

actively with psychiatrists, psychologists, and social workers to help children in the same difficult

circumstances as E.A.’s where multiple people are acting in a parental role. In Robert’s opinion,

- 11 - 1-25-1674 it had been “very confusing” for E.A. to split his week between the three households, given that

each had different expectations and routines. Typically, when multiple people are in a parental role

and are in disagreement, each of them wants “special standing” with the child and has difficulty

saying “no.” “In essence, the child is running the situation[,] as opposed to the parent running the

situation.” Children benefit from being surrounded by supportive and loving adults who are not

parental figures. The circuit court clarified that Robert was testifying as a lay witness, rather than

an expert witness.

¶ 27 Uncle testified that he was 47 and that he and Aunt married and bought a home together in

Skokie 12 years ago. He has been with the same employer for 25 years and works from home in

workforce management. Their son, C.M.L., is 10 and going into the fifth grade. Their daughter,

E.L., is 8, and would be a third grader at the same school. Uncle makes their breakfast and ensures

that they have whatever they will need for the day before they go to the bus stop. After school, he

makes snacks, they do homework, and they unwind with friends in the neighborhood. The family

typically has a homecooked dinner together in the kitchen. Then they juggle activities. C.M.L.’s

soccer was three nights a week and also some weekends. The family also plays board games, takes

walks in the park, and walks their dogs. The kids have time to see friends over the weekend.

¶ 28 E.A. and C.M.L. act like brothers. They trust each other, have a very close bond, and many

times E.A. “opened up” to C.M.L. If E.A. came to live with them, the boys would temporarily

share the bedroom with bunk beds until they expanded the house. E.A. fits into the family’s routine

nicely. He plays with his cousins and neighbors whom he met through C.M.L. or at the camp they

have been going to since Father was alive. Three of their mutual friends will be starting middle

school like E.A. E.A. is a talented, “goofy, artsy kid,” who is very affectionate and very empathetic.

- 12 - 1-25-1674 He took digital art classes at a studio in Evanston, was in the school band and had been in the talent

show. If the three kids had activities at the same time, Uncle hoped that the family would help.

Otherwise, he and Aunt have very good relationships with a network of neighbors.

¶ 29 Uncle volunteered to handle their communications with the three other adults and is open

to E.A. spending a significant amount of time with them. Uncle has made an effort to build his

individual relationship with E.A. by spending time together. Uncle attends the school meetings for

E.A.’s “504 plan.” 2

¶ 30 Aunt is 45 and has taught Spanish for 19 years. Her typical day starts early, with exercise

and waking up her kids before she leaves for work. After school, the kids snack while Aunt washes

dishes. Then there is time to take a walk and get dinner started. They eat out only for special

occasions.

¶ 31 E.A. is very playful, imaginative, and sweet. He loves to make others smile and laugh. He

likes art, drawing contests, Pokémon and other activities that use his imagination. During the

pandemic, he came over almost every day after e-learning and would stay for dinner. At first,

Father, Grandmother and Grandfather came too, but as soon as the restaurants reopened,

Grandmother and Grandfather started going out to dinner by themselves. Aunt usually picked up

all three kids at camp and the kids played together until Father came to get E.A. and sometimes

stay for dinner. When Father started dating Friend, E.A. came over on the weekends. Whenever

Father asked if E.A. could come over, Aunt’s response was that he was always welcome. The kids

might also invite E.A. over – they did not have to get her permission. E.A. had his first sleepover

2 There was no testimony defining a “504 plan.” However, E.A.’s 504 plan allows him to access the school counselors as needed.

- 13 - 1-25-1674 at their house and more sleepovers after Father died. Through mediation, they agreed to co-parent

E.A., so he began staying over two and then three nights a week, but Grandmother and Grandfather

would not agree to four nights and stopped the sleepovers entirely in the fall of 2024.

¶ 32 Aunt was not invited to any of E.A.’s parent-teacher conferences and was told that the

teachers were not allowed to speak with her. E.A. had a flashback in the winter of 2024 about his

father, so Aunt sat with him and they talked about how to feel safe and grounded. She initiated his

504 plan because she realized that when he started middle school, the teachers would not know

him and accommodate his needs. However, Grandmother and Grandfather said that E.A. did not

need the help. Aunt also e-mailed E.A.’s private therapist in June and then the therapist met with

her and Uncle because C.M.L. told Aunt that E.A. witnessed his father’s suicide, including what

happened before and after.

¶ 33 Aunt visits Aunt Judy; Robert and Vivian; and a cousin whose eldest child is E.L.’s age.

Aunt stopped attending big family gatherings in May of 2024, when she realized that being around

her parents made her anxious. They had no empathy and said horrible things to her and about her.

They did not care that her brother tried to kill her in his driveway in 2019. He injured all three of

them, yet Grandmother said that Aunt was destroying the family. Five years later, when Aunt

spoke with them about what Father did, her mother again said that Aunt was destroying the family

by not forgiving him. They faulted Aunt because she handed Father another beer and spoke to him

condescendingly. When Aunt and Grandmother tried family therapy and Aunt was “crying and

crying,” Grandmother treated her with complete indifference and either made excuses or altered

history. Aunt made the decision for her own mental health to separate from her parents.

¶ 34 Aunt thinks, however, that it is important for E.A. to have a relationship with them and that

- 14 - 1-25-1674 they are good grandparents, but that grandparents and parents have different roles. They are not

suitable guardians given their age and how they raised Aunt and Father. Aunt is more suited

because she is active, involved with her community, has a support network, and would still be

there for E.A. in his adulthood. She would allow him to communicate with them and spend as

much time with them as he needs, provided there is no drinking. Aunt also thinks it is important

for E.A. to continue a relationship with Friend. Aunt talks with E.A.’s sister at least monthly and

coordinates their visits because the siblings’ relationship is important and Sister is the closest link

that E.A. has to his amazing mother.

¶ 35 Aunt and Uncle intend a gradual transition if their petition is granted and will consult with

E.A.’s therapist throughout the process. They can afford his day-to-day expenses and want to

ensure that his funds are protected for his future. The two boys get along wonderfully, enjoy

roughhousing and video gaming, and seek out the neighbors for games. Aunt anticipates giving

E.A. more individual time, such as when they have walked the dog together and spent time chatting

in the kitchen while his cousins have preferred to play outside. Even though the boys would share

a room, there is an alcove designated just for E.A. with a beanbag chair and some books. They are

considering a home expansion so that each child has a bedroom.

¶ 36 The GAL was the final witness. She testified that she had 17 years’ experience. She spoke

with E.A. twice; the mental health professionals, including four conversations with his individual

therapist; the family therapist who had worked with the four petitioners; all four petitioners;

Robert; and Friend. The GAL also reviewed the 504 plan, e-mails between the adults and with the

individual therapist, and the hundreds upon hundreds of texts in discovery.

¶ 37 The GAL filed a report in December of 2024 stating that it was in E.A.’s best interest that

- 15 - 1-25-1674 Aunt and Uncle be named co-guardians. She repeated the recommendation in a supplemental

report that she filed when the trial started in July of 2025. However, she added that granting either

petition would yield its own set of benefits. She also recommended that the court grant visitation

and that the appointed guardians foster E.A.’s relationship with the other petitioners and the

father’s former girlfriend. The GAL’s interviews indicated that E.A. experienced a lot of loss,

should not experience more loss, and really needs support from all five adults.

¶ 38 The GAL testified that neither she nor any of the other professionals had any concerns

about the four petitioners, as each of them is capable of providing a loving environment. E.A.

expressed that he prefers guardianship with his grandparents. He reasoned that he should feel safe

at home, that he felt safe with Grandmother and Grandfather, and that he did not have the same

sense of trust and safety at Aunt and Uncle’s house. However, when the GAL asked him about his

safety concerns, E.A. actually had “zero safety concerns, not physical, not emotional.” So it was

“kind of an 11-year-old [using the language] in a different way.” He did not express whether Aunt

and Uncle should be his guardians. He enjoys time at their house and thinks of it as a place to have

fun and hang out with family rather than a place to live permanently.

¶ 39 Grandmother and Grandfather do not set clear boundaries for E.A. and clear boundaries

are especially needed now for his growth and development. One of the developmental tasks of

adolescents is to push against boundaries and “to figure out what’s safe, what’s okay, what’s the

next thing.” When clear boundaries are not in place, the adolescent has difficulty “finding his

way.” Boundaries also express love and are a foundation for healthy adult relationships. The

entirety of the GAL’s investigation indicated that E.A. set the boundaries in his grandparents’

home and that he bore the pressure of implementing the structure himself. He is very responsible,

- 16 - 1-25-1674 but boundaries need to come from the guardian’s set of values. When the court decides the cross-

petitions, boundary-setting should be “a big issue.” Aunt and Uncle have clear ideas about

boundaries and expectations and are capable of implementing them.

¶ 40 Aunt’s unwillingness to talk, e-mail, or text with her parents makes her communication

with them difficult. Her husband has been designated as the primary communicator, which is not

a problem, but some increased communication would benefit E.A. Aunt and Uncle have the

parenting skills to maintain E.A.’s special relationship with his grandparents and Friend.

¶ 41 Aunt and Uncle are also capable of building a primary caregiver relationship with E.A. The

GAL was not concerned about moving him to Aunt and Uncle’s care, even though it would be a

very difficult transition for him. However, all five adults should be ready to support him. He has

healthy relationships with Aunt and Uncle’s kids. He confides in his cousin, C.M.L., which

indicates trust. E.A. has been able to share some thoughts that he might not be able to share with

others.

¶ 42 Another instance of improper boundary setting occurred in Grandmother and Grandfather’s

communications to E.A. about the court case. The four adults were in disagreement, which was

the fault of all four, and they did not give E.A. a unified message. The GAL did not have any

concerns about how Aunt and Uncle talked with E.A. about the court proceedings – they did their

very best to not talk about the case at all. However, Grandmother and Grandfather “struggled” and

“put[] pressure” on E.A. They made the 4-hour visitation order in the fall difficult for E.A. When

the visitation hours were increased, E.A. spontaneously told the GAL, “I’m not going there from

9:00 a.m. to 7:00 p.m.” She asked E.A. why he said that and he responded “that his grandfather

had read [that] off his tablet.”

- 17 - 1-25-1674 ¶ 43 In addition to improper boundary setting, another consideration was that if E.A. was raised

by his grandparents, then he was more likely to experience another difficult loss of a primary

caregiver. His school social worker in particular was concerned about that. Younger children are

more flexible about change. Transitioning now would be easier than during middle or high school.

¶ 44 At the conclusion of the hearing, the court took the matter under advisement and a week

later, issued its decision. The court noted that by all accounts, E.A. is “well-behaved, bright,

thoughtful, artistic and articulate.” He has experienced a significant amount of trauma throughout

his young life and now regularly attends therapy and obtains assistance at school. The four

petitioning parties all clearly love and want what is best for E.A. In addition, he has spent a

significant amount of time with his father’s former girlfriend and has developed a strong bond with

her. The GAL opined that all five adults are critically important to E.A. and should remain in his

life. The GAL had also opined that either pair of petitioners would make excellent co-guardians.

Nevertheless, the GAL testified credibly about the lack of various boundaries that E.A. experiences

in his grandparents’ care. While they “clearly want to show [him] nothing but love and support,”

the “line between grandparenting and childrearing is blurred” in E.A.’s current placement and the

“desire to prevent any disappointment in [his] life results in additional stress on [E.A.].” Thus,

remaining in Grandmother and Grandfather’s care would not be ideal for E.A.

¶ 45 The court also considered how to foster the involvement of all five adults, despite the

“complicated and strained” relationship between the two sets of petitioners. “The relationship

appears to have been strained for a long period of time and has only grown worse since the death

of [E.A.’s] father and the commencement of these proceedings.” Although the court did not go

into detail, there was ample testimony that the four petitioners and three children no longer gather

- 18 - 1-25-1674 for nightly or weekly dinners or have events with the extended family such as children’s birthday

parties, holiday meals, and the Memorial Day gatherings in Wisconsin. At least three of the

witnesses seemed to attribute the breakdown to Grandmother and Grandfather

¶ 46 The court concluded that, given the nature of the four adults’ relationship and the “residual

impact on [the] family and community[,] it is difficult to see how [Grandmother, Grandfather and

Aunt], at this time, could fulfill their duty of fostering relationship[s] between [E.A. and the other

members of his close and extended family]. This left Uncle – “the one member of the group who

can communicate with everyone” – as the only real choice. The court said that while it was

reluctant to introduce more changes into E.A.’s life, “any short-term adjustments are outweighed

by a longer-term benefit” to E.A. The court found “that it is in the best interests of the minor that

[Uncle] be appointed Guardian of the Estate and Person of [E.A.].”

¶ 47 Grandmother and Grandfather did not request a stay of the ruling that was entered nearly a

year ago on July 29, 2025.

¶ 48 The parties disagree as to what factors should have been included in the circuit court’s

consideration. The section of the Probate Act concerning the “[a]ppointment of [a] guardian”

contains a “best interest” standard (755 ILCS 5/11-5 (West 2024)), but that standard is not defined.

Section 11-5 of the Probate Act provides: “Upon the filing of a petition for the appointment of a

guardian or on its own motion, the court may appoint a guardian of the estate or of both the person

and estate, of a minor, or may appoint a guardian of the person only of a minor or minors, as the

court finds to be in the best interest of the minor or minors.” 755 ILCS 5/11-5(a) (West 2024).

¶ 49 Grandmother and Grandfather contend that In re Estate of Suggs, 149 Ill. App. 3d 793

(1986), shows that the Uncle’s appointment was not in E.A.’s best interest.

- 19 - 1-25-1674 ¶ 50 In Suggs, the appellate court said that the six factors listed in section 602(a) of the Marriage

and Dissolution of Marriage Act, 750 ILCS 5/602(a) (West 2008), are not mandatory in

guardianship proceedings, but “are important considerations in ensuring that the guardianship of a

minor corresponds to his or her best interest.” Suggs, 149 Ill. App. 3d at 799. That act provided:

“ ‘Sec. 602. Best interest of child. (a) The court shall determine custody in accordance

with the best interest of the child. The court shall consider all relevant factors including:

(1) the wishes of the child’s parent or parents as to his custody;

(2) the wishes of the child as to his custodian;

(3) the interaction and interrelationship of the child with his parent or parents, his

siblings and any other person who may significantly affect the child's best interest;

(4) the child’s adjustment to his home, school and community;

(5) the mental and physical health of all individuals involved; and

(6) the physical violence or threat of physical violence by the child’s potential

custodian, whether directed against the child or directed against another person but

witnessed by the child.’ Ill. Rev. Stat.1983, ch. 40, par. 602(a).” Id. 3

¶ 51 Even though the Suggs factors are not mandatory, Illinois courts have used them as a guide.

In re Guardianship of A.G.G., 406 Ill. App. 3d 389, 393 (2011) (citing In re Marriage of Russell,

169 Ill. App. 3d 97, 102 (1988) (following Suggs)).

¶ 52 The statutory factors are not mandatory in this context because the probate court is

3 This portion of the Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act has since been substantially revised. See P.A. 99-90, § 5-15 (eff. Jan. 1, 2016). The revision anticipates that “parenting time” and significant “decision-making responsibilities” can be shared or allocated separately pursuant to more than a dozen different considerations. See 750 ILCS 5/602.5, 5/602.7 (West 2026).

- 20 - 1-25-1674 operating pursuant to its inherent plenary power, independent of any authority that the Probate Act

or other legislative enactment has conferred. Suggs, 149 Ill. App. 3d at 797.

¶ 53 The fact that the circuit courts have inherent plenary power to appoint guardians of the

estates and persons of minors – independent of any statute – was dispositive of the appeal in In re

Guardianship of Smythe, 65 Ill. App. 2d 431 (1965). The Smythes were Kentucky residents who

were involved in a car accident in Illinois that was fatal to the parents and left their two young

children in a hospital in downstate Illinois. Id. at 435. Some of the children’s relatives were in

Illinois. Four days after the collision, one of the Illinois relatives petitioned and was named plenary

guardian. Id. at 433. Other relatives, however, lived in Indiana. The Indiana relatives took the

children out of the hospital, transported them to Indiana, and filed a motion to vacate the

appointment. Id. at 434-35. They argued that the court lacked jurisdiction, in part because the

Probate Act specified that the minors had to be residents of Illinois, and that the children had no

estates in Illinois. Id. at 436. The appellate court affirmed the appointment, however, because the

trial judge had inherent plenary jurisdiction to appoint guardians of the persons and estates of

minors, independent of any authority given to the courts by the legislature. Id. at 441-43. There

was no reason to parse through the text and meaning of the statute. The power of the circuit court

existed independently of the statute, and the interpretation of the statute was “a mere abstract

question not necessary for the determination of the [appeal].” Id. at 439. “[C]ourts of equity from

time immemorial have upon proper application, assumed jurisdiction over the persons and property

of infants.” Id. at 442. “[S]ince the English courts of chancery had jurisdiction over the persons

and estates of infants, *** the circuit courts of this state were granted [the same jurisdiction] by

the adoption of [Illinois’ original] constitution.” Id. at 443. The circuit court was empowered to

- 21 - 1-25-1674 act in the Smythe children’s welfare and award custody to their Illinois relative, even though the

children may not been domiciled in or legal residents of Illinois. Id. at 444. “The Smythe children

were orphans in need of the protection of the courts of this state.” Id.

¶ 54 The fact that the circuit court has an independent source of authority in the common law

was also discussed in detail in Green, where the court surveyed supreme court precedent dating to

1846. In re Estate of Green, 359 Ill. App. 3d 730, 736-37 (2005). Even that early case described

the court’s power in such matters as being “of very ancient origin.” Cowls v. Cowls, 8 Ill. 435, 437

(1846). The “ ‘legislature conferred no new authority or jurisdiction upon the court; “[i]t was by

its original jurisdiction clothed with the same powers before.” ’ ” Green, 359 Ill. App. 3d at 736

(quoting M.M., 156 Ill. 2d at 68 (quoting Cowls, 8 Ill. at 438)).

¶ 55 In Green, the trial judge denied a guardianship petition under the mistaken belief that the

Probate Act constrained his authority to appoint a guardian. Id. at 730. The child in that case had

been living with his half sister and her father, Kenneth, for about two years. Id. at 731-32.

Kenneth’s petition was endorsed by the GAL, who noted that Kenneth had a felony conviction for

possessing a handgun, which the GAL described as “insignificant and ten years old.” Id. at 733.

The circuit court agreed with the GAL’s recommendation. Id. Nevertheless, at a later hearing, the

court denied Kenneth’s petition because felons were disqualified by the section of the Probate Act

concerning “[w]ho may act as guardian.” Id. at 735 (quoting 755 ILCS 5/11-3 (West 2004)).

¶ 56 The appellate court reversed and granted Kenneth’s petition because the ruling was

contrary to the manifest weight of the evidence. Id. at 739. Strict application of the Probate Act’s

requirements had “forc[ed] the court to ignore its own conclusion and subordinate the minor’s best

interest to generic criteria.” Id. at 738. The legislature’s generic criteria did not trump the court’s

- 22 - 1-25-1674 power under the common law and did not diminish the court’s obligation to provide for the child’s

best interest and welfare. Id. In other words, the circuit court’s power to appoint the guardian of a

minor in Green “exist[ed] independently of any statute, including the Probate Act.” Id. at 737.

“[W]here, as here, there exists a counterpart, in common law or equity, to a legislative enactment

of a comprehensive statutory scheme, the court is not bound to proceed within the strictures of the

statute.” Id. (citing M.M., 156 Ill. 2d at 65-66.) “ ‘ “Courts of equity have plenary jurisdiction over

the persons and estates of infants, and will in the exercise of that jurisdiction, cause to be done

whatever may be necessary to preserve their estates and protect their interest.” ’ ” Id. (quoting

Smythe, 65 Ill. App. 2d at 440-41 (quoting Ames v. Ames, 151 Ill. 280, 285 (1894))). See also

Suggs, 149 Ill. App. 3d at 799 (circuit court is not required to consider any particular criteria when

determining a minor’s placement with a guardian).

¶ 57 In contrast, adoptions and juvenile court proceedings did not exist at common law and are

examples of matters that were created and defined solely by the legislature. M.M., 156 Ill. 2d at

63, 66.

“Where the legislature enacts a comprehensive statutory scheme, creating rights

and duties which have no counterpart in common law or equity, the legislature has

created a ‘justiciable matter.’ [Citation.] ***

The legislature may define the ‘justiciable matter’ in such a way as to preclude or

limit the authority of the circuit court. [Citations.] When a court’s power to act is

controlled by statute, the court is governed by the rules of limited jurisdiction [citations]

and courts exercising jurisdiction over such matters must proceed within the strictures

of the statute [citation].” Id. at 65-66.

- 23 - 1-25-1674 ¶ 58 In this case, the circuit court acted pursuant to its inherent plenary power when it evaluated

whether granting one of the two petitions was in E.A.’s best interest. Green, 359 Ill. App. 3d at

730 (citing M.M,, 156 Ill. 2d at 63). Its “ ‘sole responsibility [was to safeguard his] best interest

and welfare.’ ” Id. at 738 (quoting In re Estates of Herrod, 254 Ill. App. 3d 1061, 1065 (1993)).

Furthermore, our review concerns the circuit court’s judgment rather than its stated reasons, and

we may sustain the judgment on any ground warranted, regardless of whether it was relied on by

the circuit court. In re V.S., 2023 IL App (1st) 220817, ¶ 64; In re Custody of G.L., 2017 IL App

(1st) 163171, ¶ 24.

¶ 59 Accordingly, we are not persuaded by Grandmother and Grandfather’s contention that the

circuit court imposed an inappropriate standard or gave too much consideration to certain facts

when it contemplated the strained relationships, communication breakdown, and lack of clear

behavioral boundaries that were identified by the GAL.

¶ 60 Grandmother and Grandfather also contend that certain factors that are set out in the

definitions section of the Juvenile Court Act of 1987 are “instructive” in this context. 705 ILCS

405/1-1 (West 2024). The “best interest” standard appears in various sections of the Juvenile Court

Act, appearing, for instance, in the section that permits a court to remove a minor child from their

parents, guardian, or legal custodian and find a different placement. 705 ILCS 405/5-740 (West

2024). Another example is the section regarding the appointment of a guardian ad litem for an

abused or neglected minor. 705 ILCS 40/2-17 (West 2024). The definitions section states that

“[w]henever a ‘best interest’ determination is required,” ten factors shall be considered, beginning

with “(a) the physical safety and welfare of the child, including food, shelter, health, and clothing.”

Pub. Act. 103-1061 (eff. Feb. 25, 2025) (amending 705 ILCS 405/1-3(4.05) (West 2024)).

- 24 - 1-25-1674 ¶ 61 Grandmother and Grandfather contend that the circuit court “dismissed” at least three of

the Juvenile Court Act’s factors. However, they did not cite this standard in the circuit court and

fail to cite any precedent now in which a court applied the Juvenile Court Act. We could disregard

their argument entirely because it is not supported by citation to authority as required by the

appellate briefing rules. See Ill. S. Ct. R. 341(h)(7) (eff. Oct. 1, 2020); In re Marriage of Lugo,

2025 IL App (1st) 231478, ¶ 102 (finding forfeiture due to undeveloped arguments and lack of

citation to authority). Even so, we point out that the factors were utilized in In re Custody of H.J.,

2021 IL App (4th) 200401, ¶ 22 (quoting In re Daphnie E., 368 Ill. App. 3d 1052, 1072 (2006)

and citing 705 ILCS 405/1-3(4.05) (West 2016)). In H.J., after terminating parental rights, the

circuit court heard the grandparents’ petition for custody and the foster parent’s cross-petition for

custody or guardianship. H.J., 2021 IL App (4th) 200401. Those circumstances are distinguishable

because the children had been adjudicated as neglected and temporary custody and guardianship

was placed with the Department of Children and Family Services. Id. ¶ 4. Proceedings regarding

neglected children are subject to a statutory scheme that has no particular relevance here. We

decline to import any part of the Juvenile Court Act’s “best interest” definition into these

proceedings.

¶ 62 Aunt and Uncle propose that we apply the factors set out in section 11-14.1(b) of the

Probate Act, which is the “revocation of letters” section. 755 ILCS 5/11-14.1(b) (West 2024). That

section governs the termination of a guardianship when there is a material change in circumstances,

unless the guardian establishes that “termination *** would not be in the best interests of the

minor.” (Emphasis added.) Id. Those five factors include details about the minor’s parents, such

as “(1) The interaction and interrelationship of the minor with the parent and members of the

- 25 - 1-25-1674 parent’s household” and “(2) The ability of the parent to provide a safe, nurturing environment for

the minor.” Id. Aunt and Uncle cite A.G.G., 406 Ill. App. 3d at 393-94, as an example of when the

factors were utilized. They do not cite any authority applying these factors in a proceeding similar

to this one. In our opinion, terminating a guardianship so that the child may return to the parent is

quite different from the present circumstances.

¶ 63 Accordingly, we will review the factors that were endorsed in Suggs, 149 Ill. App. 3d at

799, but emphasize that the probate court was under no obligation to consider any of these factors

and operated with broad discretion in this minor guardianship proceeding. “This discretion is not

unlimited and will be overturned if the reviewing court finds that the [court] abused its discretion”

(Green, 359 Ill. App. 3d at 735), or if its decision is against the manifest weight of the evidence.

H.J., 2021 IL App (4th) 200401, ¶ 23. An abuse of discretion has occurred when the ruling is

arbitrary or unsupported by the evidence, or where no reasonable person would take the same view.

In re Estate of M.L, 2018 IL App (3d) 170712, ¶ 23. A decision is against the manifest weight only

when the opposite conclusion is clearly apparent or the decision is unreasonable, arbitrary, or not

based on the evidence. H.J., 2021 IL App (4th) 200401, ¶ 23; In re Marriage of Ricketts, 329 Ill.

App. 3d 173, 181-82 (2002). A guardian’s appointment must be made “in light of all the relevant

facts.” Green, 359 Ill. App. 3d at 735.

¶ 64 The first factor from Suggs is the wishes of the child’s parent or parents as to his custody.

Suggs, 149 Ill. App. 3d at 799. There was no evidence that Mother or Father expressed a preference

as to who would care for their child if necessary. There is absolutely no record support for

Grandmother and Grandfather’s contention that it “can be presumed” that Father would not want

his son to be part of Aunt’s household because she “despised” her brother.

- 26 - 1-25-1674 ¶ 65 As for E.A.’s preference, it is undisputed that he wanted to live with his grandparents.

Grandmother and Grandfather argue that E.A. told the GAL that he had great trust in his

grandparents and that he did not trust or feel safe with Aunt and Uncle The GAL testified, however,

that when she talked with E.A. about his sense of safety in the two households, he actually had no

physical or emotional safety concerns whatsoever about his aunt and uncle’s home and seemed to

be using the terminology in an unconventional way. The entirety of the GAL’s investigation

indicated that not one of the many professionals involved in E.A.’s life had any concerns about

any of the four petitioners’ abilities to provide a loving environment.

¶ 66 Grandmother and Grandfather argue that the court was preoccupied with the lack of

communication between the adults and ignored the fact that Grandmother, Grandfather and Friend

are the “three most important people” in E.A.’s life, in contrast to Aunt and Uncle who have never

developed or tried to develop a relationship with E.A. They contend that (a) Friend “was a mother”

to E.A.; (b) Grandmother and Grandfather have been in his life consistently since he was 10 days

old; (c) Father and E.A. lived with Grandmother and Grandfather during COVID-19 and their

house hunt; and (d) Grandmother and Grandfather have acted as E.A.’s parents since Father died.

¶ 67 We do not find this argument persuasive, because there was conflicting testimony about

the extent of Aunt and Uncle’s relationship with E.A. While Grandmother, Grandfather and Friend

suggested that Aunt and Uncle did not interact with E.A., the record indicates that Aunt and Uncle

were directly involved in E.A.’s life, such as after e-learning sessions during the pandemic and on

weekends. In addition, Father entrusted them with E.A.’s care, including when E.A. needed after-

camp care and was ready for his first sleepover. When Father died, Aunt and Uncle immediately

expressed interest in becoming E.A.’s guardians. As for whether Aunt and Uncle spent as much

- 27 - 1-25-1674 time with E.A. and developed a deeper bond with him, the record indicates that they were working

parents while Friend was unemployed for about a year and Grandmother and Grandfather seem to

have been fully retired. Furthermore, Aunt and Uncle’s time with E.A. was impeded when the

relationship of the five adults became strained in the wake of Father’s death and the filing of the

cross-petitions. The GAL testified that what Grandmother and Grandfather said to E.A. about

visiting Aunt and Uncle burdened the child and made even the initial four-hour visits difficult for

him. The GAL’s testimony suggested that Grandfather also coached E.A. to resist longer visits.

Nevertheless, Aunt and Uncle pursued increasing co-parenting time at a pace that was considerate

of E.A.’s circumstances and they persisted with their guardianship petition despite Grandmother

and Grandfather’s anger and opposition. The credibility and weight of the testimony was addressed

by the circuit court. The circuit court is in a much better petition to observe witnesses, assess their

credibility, and weigh the evidence, than an appellate court could ever be when reading the cold

record. H.J., 2021 IL App (4th) 200401, ¶ 23; In re D.F., 201 Ill. 2d 476, 498-99 (2002) (because

the fact finder is in the best position to observe the conduct and demeanor of the parties and the

witnesses, it has a degree of familiarity with the evidence that a reviewing court cannot possibly

obtain). Moreover, the court’s overriding concern was that E.A. have the support of all five adults,

his sister, and his extended family members. It would have been “difficult” for this to occur had

E.A. remained in Grandmother and Grandfather’s care.

¶ 68 The third factor concerns E.A’s “interaction and interrelationship [with] *** his siblings

and any other person who may significantly affect the child’s best interest.” E.A. had limited

interaction with his only sibling, Sister, due to Grandmother and Grandfather; Grandmother would

not allow Sister to attend Father’s funeral and neither Grandmother nor Grandfather tried to

- 28 - 1-25-1674 facilitate any communication or interaction between E.A. and Sister during the 19 months that he

was in their care. Grandmother testified that she was not obligated to contact Sister and

Grandfather testified that he had no obligation to foster the siblings’ relationship. Aunt and Uncle,

however, reached out to Sister, hosted her for family dinners, and suggested the siblings’

memorable outing to the trampoline park. Sister testified that she felt “encouraged” by Aunt and

Uncle and would “absolutely” feel comfortable arranging future visits through them and “less

comfortable” or even “uncomfortable” doing so with Grandmother and Grandfather.

¶ 69 E.A. had positive relationships with all of his close and extended family members, and with

his father’s former girlfriend, who continued to live nearby and was emotionally supportive.

However, Grandmother and Grandfather curtailed or prevented E.A. from spending time with

relatives who did not support their petition.

¶ 70 Grandmother and Grandfather contend that E.A. should not be living with Aunt because

she “threatened” Friend that she would not be able to have a relationship with E.A. if Aunt were

his guardian. Friend’s testimony was equivocal and Aunt testified that E.A. should continue to

have a relationship with Friend.

¶ 71 Grandmother and Grandfather contend that the court used an inappropriate standard by

focusing on the relationship between the four parties and not the relationship of the minor with his

four family members. They cite the statement in Suggs, 149 Ill. App. 3d at 798, that the court “must

protect the minor child first; the feelings and desires of the adult parties are inferior in this regard.”

Grandmother and Grandfather misconstrue the circuit court’s ruling. The court did not address

what was “beneficial for the adults.” The court discussed the adults’ interactions because their

estrangement hindered their abilities to meet E.A.’s needs. Because E.A. has experienced deeply

- 29 - 1-25-1674 impactful losses, “all the adults in his life are critically important to [him]” and should remain

accessible to him. They could meet his needs by coordinating and communicating amongst

themselves. However, they have been coordinating “haphazardly” through a shared, inaccurate

calendar and sporadic texting. The circuit court also said that the relationship between the

grandparents and aunt is “strained to non-existent” and rendered those three unable to “fulfill their

duty of fostering [E.A.’s] relationship[s]” with “the other members of this immediate and extended

family.” The court did not try to mend the adults’ ruptured relationships. Rather, the court tried to

work around that reality by appointing Uncle, who is “the one member of this group that can

communicate with everyone.” By doing so, the court was providing for E.A.’s best interests and

welfare, which was the proper standard. The circuit court’s primary reason for choosing Uncle was

to cultivate the relationships that diminished after Father died.

¶ 72 Suggs’ third factor also encompasses Grandmother and Grandfather’s “interaction and

interrelationships” with E.A. Suggs, 149 Ill. App. 3d at 799. The GAL gave considerable testimony

about the lack of clear boundaries E.A. was given while in his grandparents’ care and that this was

“the big thing” for the court to contemplate. (Emphasis added.) Grandmother and Grandfather

contend that the GAL’s testimony about “blurred” boundaries was mostly about E.A.’s opposition

to the court-ordered visitation with his aunt and uncle. They argue that the GAL and court seemed

to be disappointed that E.A. knew about the court orders, yet the only way the grandparents could

get him to comply with the orders was by telling him about the orders.

¶ 73 This argument is misdirected. The order does not refer to the visitation orders. The GAL

testified about multiple boundaries and indicated that Grandmother and Grandfather generally

were not setting any clear boundaries on the 11 year old’s behavior and that he had to create

- 30 - 1-25-1674 structure himself, which distressed him. Even Grandfather testified that E.A. was “very

regimented” and made up his own behavioral rules and that Grandfather gave in to E.A. because

Grandfather thought that he was putting E.A.’s needs first. Friend also acknowledged that

Grandmother and Grandfather’s parenting was inadequate. She testified that grandparents indulge

their grandkids and do not “have to hold the kids accountable or give them rules per se,” but that

Grandmother and Grandfather’s authority had been “evolv[ing] over the last 18 months” as they

“shift[] into more of a parenting guidance role.” Robert gave similar testimony from his

perspective as a close family member and lay person who spent many years educating and

counseling children in difficult circumstances. Robert suggested that when there were five people

in parental roles, the child would wind up “running the situation.” The GAL not only interviewed

the five primary adults in E.A.’s life, but also spoke with Robert, E.A., various school personnel,

E.A.’s therapist, and a family therapist; and she read many e-mails and texts before testifying that

the entirety of her investigation led to her concern about E.A.’s placement with his grandparents.

The GAL’s concern was not limited to Grandmother and Grandfather’s inappropriate

communication with E.A. about the specific topic of court-ordered visitation. Rather, the way that

the “well-intentioned wonderful grandparents” relate with E.A. when they are in a parental role

was stressful for the child. The GAL said that E.A. was living in a “confusing environment” and

needed to be given clear boundaries, particularly as he develops into adolescence, tests the

limitations, and “find[s] his way” in life. The foundation that is created for E.A. as a child and

adolescent will shape his relationships into adulthood. The GAL emphasized that the lack of

boundary setting should be paramount in the court’s consideration. The court later specified that

“several witnesses, including the GAL, testified credibly to the lack of boundaries in the current

- 31 - 1-25-1674 placement.” Thus, the record belies Grandmother and Grandfather’s attempt to downplay the

court’s concern about blurred boundaries. The court’s concern extended beyond Grandmother and

Grandfather’s inappropriate communication with E.A. about the legal proceedings. The court’s

concern included Grandmother and Grandfather’s lack of guidance and caretaking. Grandmother

and Grandfather are doting grandparents but not parental figures.

¶ 74 As for the fourth factor, E.A. was adjusted to his home, school and community, because he

was still attending the same school and residing in close proximity to Father’s residence on Avers

Avenue. Grandmother and Grandfather emphasize that the ruling caused E.A. to move, start new

friendships, and change schools. The transition is not as stark as Grandmother and Grandfather

suggest. They contend that E.A. lost his own space at home, but a quiet nook with a beanbag chair

was already set aside for E.A. in Aunt and Uncle’s home. Furthermore, E.A. was already familiar

with his aunt and uncle’s environment. Aunt and Uncle testified to E.A.’s frequent visits to their

home while Father was alive, that he played with C.M.L. and the neighborhood kids after e-

learning, and that he knew some of the children from the summer camp that he attended with

C.M.L. and E.L. for four years. Before his death, Father would ask if E.A. could come over and

Aunt’s response was that E.A. was always welcome. In addition, E.A. would have to move to a

new school campus in the fall, regardless of which guardianship petition was granted, because he

was starting middle school.

¶ 75 The fifth factor is the mental and physical health of all individuals involved. No one had

health concerns that would affect their ability to care for E.A. Despite their good health, however,

Grandmother and Grandfather are nearly 70 years older than E.A. According to the GAL,

grandparents will experience the infirmities of aging and are statistically likely to pass away before

- 32 - 1-25-1674 an aunt and uncle. Grandmother was asked how E.A. would be affected if she and Grandfather

were named guardians and were to pass away as his third and fourth primary caregivers.

Grandmother dismissed the impact this could have on E.A., when she testified that her demise

while E.A.’s guardian and grandparent would have no more significance to him than she

experienced when her grandparents died. The GAL testified that it could be “devastating” for E.A.

to lose another set of primary caregivers and that E.A.’s school social worker in particular was

concerned about this possibility. E.A. would have less oversight as he navigates into adulthood,

experience the emotional pain of losing yet another set of primary caregivers, and have to transition

to new caregivers when he is an older child.

¶ 76 The sixth factor is not relevant here because there was no indication of physical violence

or threat of physical violence by the child’s potential custodians.

¶ 77 Based upon the evidence presented and the witness testimony, the circuit court’s decision

was not against the manifest weight of the evidence and is affirmed.

¶ 78 Affirmed.

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