In Re: David Ryan Bender, V. Maira Joie Bender

CourtCourt of Appeals of Washington
DecidedOctober 11, 2021
Docket81893-7
StatusUnpublished

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Opinion

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF THE STATE OF WASHINGTON

DAVID RYAN BENDER, No. 81893-7-I

Appellant, DIVISION ONE

v. UNPUBLISHED OPINION

MAIRA JOIE BENDER,

Respondent.

SMITH, J. — This appeal arises from Maira Bender’s decision to move,

with her then ten-year-old child, approximately five miles closer to the residence

of the child’s father, David Bender. Maira’s proposed new address was both in

the city where David already lived and in the same school district as his home. 1

Still, David strenuously objected to the move, asserting that it would be

detrimental the child’s education and would disrupt the residential schedule and

David’s contact with the child. He also expressed concerns about the child living

in the same household as Maira’s boyfriend even though he had not previously

objected to the boyfriend’s significant involvement in the child’s life. Also, in

response to the proposed move, David proposed drastic changes to the parties’

parenting plan.

When the matter came to trial about a year and a half after Maira gave

notice of her intent to move, David withdrew his objection to the relocation and

1 Because the parties share the same last name, we refer to them by their first names for clarity. No. 81893-7-I/2

clarified that he was seeking only minor changes to the existing parenting plan.

Based on the evidence presented at trial, the court modified the parenting plan in

ways that were largely consistent with David’s arguments at trial, but also

awarded attorney fees to Maira based on David’s intransigence. The court

concluded that the position David took and maintained up until trial was

obstructive and needlessly caused the litigation to be more expensive,

expansive, and acrimonious than necessary. There was a tenable basis for the

trial court’s decision to award fees to Maira.

We affirm.

FACTS

When Maira and David Bender dissolved their marriage in 2013, the court

entered an agreed parenting plan for the parties’ then-five-year-old child, B.B.

The plan provided for B.B. to live with Maira the majority of the time. The plan

also imposed restrictions under RCW 26.09.191(3) on David due to a “long-term

impairment resulting from drug, alcohol or other substance abuse that interferes

with the performance of parenting functions.” RCW 26.09.191(3)(c). Despite

such restrictions, the parties also agreed that B.B. would reside with David two

nights per week, from Tuesday to Thursday, to align with his work schedule. The

plan provided for joint decision-making for major decisions including non-

emergency healthcare and education. The RCW 26.09.191 restrictions on David

required him to be “clean and sober for 24 hours prior to any visitation.” And the

parenting plan gave Maira the “right to refuse [David’s] visitation” if she

“reasonably suspect[ed]” at the time of exchange that he had used alcohol or

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drugs and to require him to submit to testing. In the case of a positive test or

refusal to test, the plan permitted Maira to request the suspension of David’s

visitation. 2

For the first few years, the parties co-parented without significant conflict

and varied, to some extent, from the terms of the parenting plan. Eventually,

however, the parties’ relationship and cooperation deteriorated, especially after

Maira demanded that David submit to drug testing in December 2016. After that

test was positive for marijuana, Maira began to insist on strict adherence to the

terms of parenting plan. The parties’ conflict escalated in 2017, and both sides

resorted to court motions and litigation in an attempt to resolve their differences.

In April 2018, Maira provided notice to David of her intent to move within

Snohomish County, from Bothell to Lynnwood, where David lives. 3 Maira’s

notice explained that she wanted to move because (1) her current landlord was

raising the rent, (2) moving into the home of Christopher Franks, her boyfriend of

more than two years, would offer a more “affordable” housing option, and (3) her

proposed address was closer to David’s home. Maira’s notice identified the

2 In his briefing on appeal, David suggests that RCW 26.09.191 restrictions in the 2013 parenting plan were premised on “substance abuse issues specifically related to marijuana.” But it is clear from the record, including David’s own testimony, that the restrictions were based on substance abuse history related to opioids, the “majority” of which stemmed from his involvement in a serious car accident in 2003. 3 Because Maira’s proposed move would result in B.B.’s transfer to a new

school district, the Child Relocation Act, RCW 26.09.405-.560, required Maira to provide formal notice of the intent to change B.B.’s primary residence. See RCW 26.09.440 (form and content of notice); see also RCW 26.09.450 (if relocation is within the same school district, party intending to relocate may provide actual notice).

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school that B.B. would attend, and she checked a box to indicate that she was

not seeking to alter the parenting plan in conjunction with the proposed move.

David objected. He claimed: (1) the proposed move violated the parenting

plan’s provision for joint decision-making with respect to education, (2) changing

schools would jeopardize academic “special arrangements” in place at B.B.’s

current school, 4 and (3) B.B.’s living in the same household as Franks was

“totally inappropriate given his criminal record and behavior.” David urged the

court to deny the request to relocate and award him “full custody and sole

decision making to protect” his child from Franks.

Although he had not previously objected to Franks’s involvement in

caretaking for B.B., David asserted that Franks presented a danger to B.B.

because of a criminal history that included driving under the influence (DUI),

assault, and domestic violence, and because of the existence of a protection

order involving Franks’s minor child. David asserted that Franks exposed B.B. to

“intense hostility and ongoing efforts to alienate” David. As an example, David

reported that Franks had served him with legal papers in B.B.’s presence and

that Franks sometimes waited on David’s doorstep to pick up B.B., conduct that

made him feel “threatened and uncomfortable.” To substantiate his allegations,

David provided an ex parte temporary restraining order that Franks filed against

his former spouse in 2014 and a document indicating that Franks was arrested

on a charge of fourth degree assault in 2012.

4 David alleged that academic services were required, in “large part” because Maira did not “support” B.B. with her homework.

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