Grich v. Grich, No. Fa 93525311s (Jan. 2, 1997)

1997 Conn. Super. Ct. 630
CourtConnecticut Superior Court
DecidedJanuary 2, 1997
DocketNo. FA 93525311S
StatusUnpublished

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Bluebook
Grich v. Grich, No. Fa 93525311s (Jan. 2, 1997), 1997 Conn. Super. Ct. 630 (Colo. Ct. App. 1997).

Opinion

[EDITOR'S NOTE: This case is unpublished as indicated by the issuing court.]MEMORANDUM OF DECISION I. The Dissolution of the Marriage

It is found that all of the allegations of plaintiff's complaint have been proven, that the marriage has broken down irretrievably, and the marriage is ordered dissolved for that reason.

II. The Marital Assets or the Parties Plaintiff

One-half interest in No. 715 Chestnut Hill Rd., Glastonbury, Ct., presently in foreclosure

Total Value $317,500 Less Mortgage 375,000 -------- Total Equity 0 one-half interest 0 ---

Checking account (not included on F.A.) 1,000 Mercantile Bank — savings 15,684 Life Insurance thru employer F.V. $200,000 C.S.V. --- thru Met. Life F.V. 408,000 C.S.V. --- 401K Plan 25,358 I.B.M. pension 101,636 C.T.G. pension --- Vested stock options 49,775 Unvested stock options — see article VI 0 ------ Total $193,453

Defendant

One-half interest in equity in No. 715 Chestnut Hill Rd., Glastonbury, Ct. --- 1983 Avanti $ 2,000 Household furniture --- Glastonbury Bank Trust Co. c/a 84 I.B.M. Credit Union j/a --- Merrill Lynch 6,429 Life Ins. Mass. Mutual F.V. $10,000 CSV 3,634 Cemetery plots --- Cash 5,000 ----- Total $17,147 Total Marital Estate $210,600

III. A Review and Evaluation of the Evidence in Accordance with the Provisions of Sec. 46b-81c C.G.S. CT Page 631

The plaintiff husband, who is forty-eight years old, and the defendant wife, who is forty-nine, were married on January 23, 1972, twenty-four years ago. There are no children issue of their marriage. This dissolution action was instituted on May 27, 1993, three and one-half years ago. Plaintiff presently resides in St. Louis, Mo., and defendant in Worcester, Mass.

Early History

The parties first met in 1969 at a compact packaging company in the Boston area where both were employed. Defendant had previously graduated from Champlain Junior College in Burlington, Vt. with an A.A. degree, while plaintiff at that time was in his senior year at Boston College, where he was majoring in computer science with a minor in accounting. After a conventional courtship the parties married on January 23, 1972. The pre-marital assets of the parties were minimal. The couple moved to Marlborough, Mass. with plaintiff continuing his employment at I.B.M. and defendant commencing work at Computer Leasing. Two years later they purchased a condominium in Boylston, Mass. where they resided until 1978 when plaintiff was transferred by I.B.M. to New Jersey with a promotion to the position of project manager. Defendant also obtained office work there which she later discontinued at plaintiff's request.

For the first ten years of their marriage the parties were happy and the marriage successful. Plaintiff's working hours and salary continued to increase while defendant, in addition to performing all household duties, devoted countless hours overseeing construction of their new home in Parsippany, New Jersey. She arranged the placement of topsoil, obtained price estimates, located special materials, placed a leaf blower on her back and kept the lawn and driveway clear. To this point it was a good team, a successful partnership.

Conflicting Views on Raising a Family 1972-1982

While the subject of having children arose early on in the marriage, the parties have differing views concerning conclusions reached on this issue.

In his testimony plaintiff stated that "we had discussed children. Neither of us wanted them. We practiced birth control. We never changed our minds." Defendant's recollection was CT Page 632 somewhat different. She stated that "when we lived at Park Road (in New Jersey 1977-1978) I suggested planning for a family. He said he didn't want to be distracted by children and wasn't ready for them."

At any rate both parties ceased taking any precautions in 1982 with the result that defendant became pregnant. Not surprisingly the testimony of the parties differs too on the subject of the subsequent abortion. Plaintiff stated that "I didn't want the child but made it clear that it was her decision. She had the `knob of the bat.' If we had this child the marriage would have gone on as before. We never changed our positions on children." Defendant in turn testified that "I felt my pregnancy was God's way of giving him a little nudge. I was happy. He laughed and said it was great to find the equipment worked. When he then brought up the abortion issue I was shocked. In the following days and weeks many arguments followed. Once he said `if you have the child, you'll be responsible for it on your own.' He made the arrangements for the abortion and at the same time I had a tubal ligation. Today my decision is still painful. Of course I regret it. I had a price to pay with God."

Employment History and Residential Changes 1978-1993

From 1978 until 1985 the parties resided in Parsippany, New Jersey — for the most part in a home which they had built and furnished. Plaintiff continued his long hours and steady progress at I.B.M. while defendant spared no effort in contributing to the well-being of the couple. She entertained large crowds of her husband's business associates, became active in community affairs, served on the local zoning authority. In addition she worked part-time as a volunteer in a florist shop, receiving training in floral design in return for her efforts.

In late 1985 plaintiff was offered and accepted the position of branch manager of I.B.M. in Hartford. The family home in New Jersey was sold and a new home purchased on Juniper Lane in Glastonbury, Ct. Both parties contributed to the renovation which followed. In plaintiff's words "I did the labor, she did the running around." Defendant expressed a somewhat different view in stating that "I worked like a man and he treated me like a man." After the parties had lived there for eight months and were about to relax, plaintiff was offered the position of branch manager in Manhattan, N.Y. He considered it an interesting challenge. Defendant understated her own opinion on this subject by offering CT Page 633 "to me moving is very tiring. Needless to say, plaintiff went to New York while defendant remained behind for several months making all arrangements for the sale of their house, preparing it for the new buyer and moving the family furniture back once more to New Jersey where the parties had bought a large house in Verona.

Plaintiff's enthusiasm for his Manhattan challenge was short-lived. He described his feelings about his new job in late 1987 as follows: "I was in over my head. It was stressful. I couldn't do it. We decided I'd try to get my old job back in Hartford. My wife was very supportive." I.B.M. agreed to plaintiff's retransfer, and the parties moved still another time back to Connecticut where they purchased their present home on Chestnut Hill Road in Glastonbury. The parties occupied their new home at Thanksgiving time, 1988.

In 1989, not long after their most recent move, plaintiff became apprehensive about his future with I.B.M. He discussed with defendant the possibility of going into a business which would capitalize on their talent in renovating houses.

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