D.E. v. A.K.

CourtNew Jersey Superior Court Appellate Division
DecidedSeptember 25, 2024
DocketA-3207-22
StatusUnpublished

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SUPERIOR COURT OF NEW JERSEY APPELLATE DIVISION DOCKET NO. A-3207-22

D.E.,

Plaintiff-Respondent,

v.

A.K.,

Defendant-Appellant. __________________________

Submitted September 11, 2024 – Decided September 25, 2024

Before Judges Rose and Puglisi.

On appeal from the Superior Court of New Jersey, Chancery Division, Family Part, Essex County, Docket No. FV-07-1502-23.

A.K., appellant pro se.

Rutgers Law Associates, attorneys for respondent (Vadim Korytny, on the brief).

PER CURIAM Defendant A.K.1 appeals from a June 19, 2023 final restraining order

(FRO) entered against him in favor of plaintiff D.E. pursuant to the Prevention

of Domestic Violence Act (PDVA), N.J.S.A. 2C:25-17 to -35. We affirm.

I.

During the two-day FRO hearing, plaintiff testified that the parties' brief

intimate relationship began in mid-October 2021 when they met at the wedding

venue where plaintiff worked. Over the course of the next few weeks, they saw

each other in person for three dates. By the end of the year, plaintiff believed

the relationship had run its course and had ended amicably.

After six months without communication, defendant contacted plaintiff by

phone and they had a brief conversation about remaining friends. Plaintiff told

defendant he had recently married and defendant told plaintiff he was in a

relationship. Their call was followed by a text message plaintiff described as

"random" and "confusing," which said, "That sweater and song . . . You know I

wanted it to work with you right." Although the parties exchanged text

messages, they attempted to but did not connect for a phone conversation.

1 We use initials to protect the parties' privacy and the confidentiality of the proceedings in accordance with Rule 1:38-3(d)(10). A-3207-22 2 A few weeks later, the tone of defendant's text messages "changed

dramatically" to "illogical and . . . very confusing and outlandish and

hyperbolized." Some text messages were "weirdly sexualized . . . and . . . very

odd." Plaintiff testified he was "completely caught off guard" by defendant's

communications and was "in constant bewilderment by the shock value of what

was going on" because their relationship was very brief and casual, and they had

not been in contact for months after it ended. Plaintiff repeatedly told defendant

he wanted nothing more than a friendship with him, and sent him a video

message explaining he would prefer a friendship because there was a "lack of

compatibility . . . past a friendship." When defendant's texts persisted, plaintiff

ceased responding, wanting just to be left alone. Defendant admitted on cross-

examination he was "interested in a sexual, intimate, beyond-friendship"

relationship with plaintiff.

Following another month without any communication, defendant sent

plaintiff a "barrage" of "absolutely degrading" text messages containing

"disgusting comments" about plaintiff. He also sent plaintiff's spouse numerous

lengthy, rambling text messages that contained similarly inappropriate, intimate

and invasive comments about plaintiff, the parties' prior sexual relationship and

A-3207-22 3 plaintiff's marriage. The trial judge aptly described the messages as "deep, and

personal[] and long." Plaintiff's spouse did not respond to defendant.

About a month later, in early September 2022, defendant reinitiated

contact with plaintiff via text message, which again turned lengthy, aggressive

and derogatory. According to defendant, two weeks later he saw plaintiff had

posted affirmations2 on his public Facebook page and, although they did not

reference defendant, he nevertheless believed plaintiff's remarks referred to him.

In response, defendant sent plaintiff text messages that were "increasingly

deeper and darker."

When he did not receive any response from plaintiff, defendant posted on

his own Facebook page what the trial judge described as a "long, personal post

professing love, telling the story, saying personal things to . . . plaintiff, none of

which [was] appropriate on a public posting." Although defendant did not name

plaintiff, he tagged3 the post's location as plaintiff's place of employment,

2 The affirmations were: "1) Listen to your body and mind: take a break sometimes. 2) For every person who tries and knocks you down, there will be another two to life you up. (Don't fixate on the knocker). 3) Patience is a learned trait, that takes [. . .] patience [with smiling emoji]. 4) People anywhere can say anything they want about you at any point, true or false, so stop worrying . 5) If the vibe is negative, cut it out." 3 "Tagging" refers to identifying individuals or locations in a post. A-3207-22 4 specifically naming the restaurant and identifying plaintiff as the "exec/head

pastry chef." Defendant's tagging the restaurant caused the post to appear on

the restaurant's public page.

Defendant's thirteen-paragraph missive described plaintiff as his

"superhero" who "turned . . . grandiose, full of rage, and dangerous," someone

who "took pleasure in trying to deceive . . . , abuse . . . , bait . . . , and string

[defendant] along, for a long time." Defendant stated "things" plaintiff had done

"to [him] and others were disturbing, devoid of love." He discussed plaintiff

and his spouse, saying their attempts to have a baby were "banking on

[defendant's] silence."

The post concluded with the following:

***Why I won't out my abusers by name is simple: this is about me. I won't name them if I might be invalidated for seeking attention, or draw more attention to them than they deserve—for now. Both are surrounded and supported by other morally and spiritually bankrupt like-minds, and are out there expanding their reach and covertly abusing others. The first could spell trouble for my career if I retaliate. The second is set to appear on a platform baking competition by year's end. Both get by almost undetected—almost, [because] while these personalities admitted to having done this to those before me and will continue to do so, the truth is loud and always reveals itself, one need only be willing to look and to listen.

A-3207-22 5 Defendant updated the post twice, stating plaintiff, the "malignant

abuser," had been fired from his job because of "misconduct with coworkers and

customers," but surmising plaintiff would "say he quit for mental health

reasons." The five-paragraph final update to defendant's post ended with:

All this just to say: What is done in the dark will come to light, but in the meantime, always stand up for yourself and what you know in your heart to be true and good.

And, just a reminder, it's not a smear campaign if it's exposing an abuser based on truths. Smear campaigns are made on lies, and I don't have to resort to lies when everything written here is true.[]

When plaintiff's friends brought the posts to his attention, he filed for a

temporary restraining order, alleging defendant committed acts of criminal

coercion, harassment, stalking and cyber harassment.

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